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ruffnecksbabygir -> Should profile be changed? (1/26/2005 11:14:47 AM)

Question: this is in general, just curious...

Do Masters feel they should change their profile information, as a slave does when she is in a relationship, or rather, after she meets someone and she "updates" her profile so others will know she is no longer looking....what about a Master that doesn't change his profile, eventhough He has collared a slave and is seemingly happy with His slave.



submom2 -> RE: Should profile be changed? (1/26/2005 11:44:29 AM)

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eventhough He has collared a slave and is seemingly happy with His slave.


Not ALL are like this, but most who do that sort of thing are still looking for others. Reminds me of players and such. Just my opinion though, and past experience.



Cyis75 -> RE: Should profile be changed? (1/26/2005 11:51:47 AM)

While I can't speak for anyone but myself... I am poly so things for me are different than if I were monogamous. To me I would consider it deceitful if it was meant to appear as if I didn't have someone else already. Part of what separates poly from cheating is that it's done honestly and openly not hidden behind someone's back. My profiles always mention who I'm involved with and if possible link to their profile or at the least mentioned so someone could find it. Again though I'm not everyone and there are those that are less than honorable, and sometimes I wonder if I'm too honest about things as I'll admit it does find others willing to interact that much harder.



ruffnecksbabygir -> RE: Should profile be changed? (1/26/2005 1:07:18 PM)

What if the slaves request for the Master to update his profile is taken by the master as her wanting to top from the bottom.



sweetpleaser -> RE: Should profile be changed? (1/26/2005 1:11:56 PM)

Well, the slave has hit a brick wall per se. Obviously he does not want to discuss it or he wouldn't use the ever-popular cop out. JMO.



happypervert -> RE: Should profile be changed? (1/26/2005 1:48:03 PM)

Unless I'm mistaken, you are the slave formerly known as dally, who was an emotional wreck after this same "master" got all upset when you suspected he was chasing other submissives he claimed to be "mentoring"?

Now he claims you are topping from the bottom on this same issue. It is just my opinion, but he sounded like a jerk then and that hasn't changed, but you sound really gullible now.



ruffnecksbabygir -> RE: Should profile be changed? (1/26/2005 1:54:06 PM)

oh, damn it happypervert, your memory is very good...and i was trying to be hypothetical (sp?) here.... but in reply to your post,

yes, i am dally, and yes i was an emotional wreck before, this relationshio has been a roller coaster, tho i may sound very naive and gullible now, i can tell you that actually, i am not at all and there has never been a man in my life that i have loved and been more devoted to as this one, and i have never felt the love and devotion of any man before like i have his...he has proven to me that he is indeed devoted to me, he has shown his love for me, our relationship is quite solid and we have taken major steps more serious levels that feel very right for me... so with that said, the above question was posted only because this is something that lingers in the back of my mind, yet i don't want to make a big deal about it because like i said, everything else is just so very perfect!



TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: Should profile be changed? (1/26/2005 1:56:37 PM)

Well, I think you probably need to take one factor into account before you label said Master a "player.":

Men are lazy, unless they are trying to get food or sex. Changing his profile won't make him a sandwich, so there really isn't any reason to change it, until he is looking for a new slave.

I am horrible about changing my profile when I meet someone, just because I don't care much about it when I have found someone. I'd rather spend my time with the person I found than spend it updating my profiles.

Taggard



ruffnecksbabygir -> RE: Should profile be changed? (1/26/2005 2:01:58 PM)

Talldarkandwitty

yes, and that was pretty much what i got from Him at first....tho now that He is aware it bothers me it has become some sort of battle of the wills....know what i mean? at the same time, i don't want him to change it because i am requesting it, or because i am upset about it, because that isn't the point, and pretty much he doesn't want to change it because i am telling him to do so... hmm, so, it's a bit complicated....but it's not something that bothers me greatly, all in all i do trust him, he has given me no reason not to.



TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: Should profile be changed? (1/26/2005 2:10:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ruffnecksbabygir

Talldarkandwitty

yes, and that was pretty much what i got from Him at first....tho now that He is aware it bothers me it has become some sort of battle of the wills....know what i mean?


I certainly do...my advice to you is to just forget about it. As soon as he feels he has won the battle, he will change it and then when you notice, you will have a smile on your face all day long.

If everything else is as you say, just relax and have fun. Don't stress over the small stuff. It just doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things...

Taggard



happypervert -> RE: Should profile be changed? (1/26/2005 2:12:16 PM)

Ok, I'm glad you are happy and I remember you also mentioned having issues with insecurity or trust or something like that, sot here is one explanation. And I agree with Taggard that it could be laziness or an oversight.

However, what caught my attention was his reply about "topping from the bottom". To me that sounds like "don't bother me and mind your own business". Instead of putting your suspicions to rest that answer would only fuel them. And since he probably knows you have those issues, it is beyond me why he wouldn't take the two minutes to do change his profile so you don't worry about it.



BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Should profile be changed? (1/26/2005 2:17:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty
Well, I think you probably need to take one factor into account before you label said Master a "player.":

Men are lazy, unless they are trying to get food or sex. Changing his profile won't make him a sandwich, so there really isn't any reason to change it, until he is looking for a new slave.
Taggard

Dear TallDark ,
If you look up Dally's old messages, you'll notice that Happypervert is right on the mark...
Dally or Ruffnecks' girl, has issues with trust, and has issues with her man who may not be trustworthy, and instead of learning and taking care of herself, learning from what she's already been told, and learning from old experiences, asks same questions in a different way.

Am sorry to respond this way to you Dally, but you might need counseling/help with your self respect/self esteem, or to learn to accept your master as he is, because it doesn't sound like you can change him, so if I were you, I'd work on changing myself. In my opinion, he ought to change his profile since he is with you, but if he does not, you simply have to accept it, or stop looking at it, not nag him about it... M



sub4hire -> RE: Should profile be changed? (1/26/2005 2:22:34 PM)

I think it depends on the relationship between the two parties. Whatever decision they have come to.
I never asked Doug to change his. Although he did. As BlkTallFullfig stated, it did put a smile on my face when I noticed he did so. It may also be like tall states. Men are lazy. Then again it may also be because he is still looking.
You'll never know until you ask.



Darthbetta -> RE: Should profile be changed? (1/26/2005 2:29:17 PM)

Chances are he wants to appear as "AVAILABLE" so he can look for a better deal.

I for one am glad I update my profile to say who is owned, and who is (insert status here) and with me.

then again I don't get HNG's and other people who fail to READ my subs profiles as tht he fact of them HAVING A SIR AND BEING UNAVAILABLE TO SERVE ANYONE-ELSE....

sheesh.... some of us guys are rude illiterate fucks.



ruffnecksbabygir -> RE: Should profile be changed? (1/26/2005 8:12:10 PM)

yes, i did have some trust issues, but that stage of the relationship is over...we are both past that, it isn't about me trusting him or not..... and i am not asking the same question in a different manner....like i said, everything in the relationship is just fine.... you know what, never mind my question, i realize now i definately shouldn't pay attention to that since i know where i stand with him and i am very sure of our relationship...so, thanks for your replies, i appreciate it, but i don't need any more advice on this issue...it's silly of me to worry about something so small. [;)]



Darthbetta -> RE: Should profile be changed? (1/26/2005 8:17:28 PM)

It should be up to him.


I personaly am proud to have my collard one in my profile.


Jut food for thought.



domtimothy46176 -> RE: Should profile be changed? (1/27/2005 8:17:18 AM)

Good point, Darth. As guys, we're not getting 40-50 e-mails a day from subs wanting to get into our pants. At least I'm not, thank goodness. I don't advertise the fact that I'm poly or the fact that I have a girl but I do mention it whenever someone does e-mail me showing an interest, which does happen once in a while. My profile focuses on what type of personality traits I tolerate which saves me the hassle, and it would be a hassle, of rewriting my profile if I were to add another girl.
Timothy



ehlovindom -> RE: Should profile be changed? (2/13/2005 8:40:37 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sub4hire

As BlkTallFullfig stated, it Men are lazy.


No men aren't lazy, only SOME men are! Just as some women are. If I had a collared slave, my profile would be updated quickly. It doesn't make sense to me to proclaim the community that you are available when you aren't, unl;ess of course you are looking to trade up. If that is the case, maybe you need to start looking as well.



RealityFix -> RE: Should profile be changed? (2/13/2005 8:52:31 AM)

I think they should change it. The downside to doing this is that many subs seeing this suddenly realize that the Dom is REAL, and now want to play conquest games and try to steal him from the other slave.

So it's a case of "damned if you do,damned if you don't"



Moleculor -> RE: Should profile be changed? (2/13/2005 9:00:31 AM)


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ORIGINAL: ruffnecksbabygir
as a slave does when she is in a relationship


Wait, this is guaranteed to happen 100.0% of the time? All slaves do this, everywhere?



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