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eyesopened -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 3:00:04 AM)
i have met many "real" Doms in real life from sites like this (just never anyone from this site) but i have never found one who asked me to suggest role play or who suggested role play Himself. Being into role play should not be the definition of "real" in my opinion. Are You asking if there is Someone Who can own You? Possibly. You live in a populated area and i know there are BDSM groups and munch groups in your area. How long does it take to find an owner?? i've never been collared, owned or even in a committed relationship..... EVER and not because i wouldn't like to be in one. But i have been able to have positive experiences and some fun along the way.

Kalira -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 5:10:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dirtycherri any suggestions on how or where i can find a true master? more often than not i seem to be begging for even minor role play. is there anyone capable of actually owning me or is it all talk As already mentioned, if you are serious about finding someone who is serious...it helps to have a profile filled out [8D] Also, you have only been here a couple days. Why are you looking to be owned already? Unless online roleplay is the only thing that you are seriously after? /shrug

ScooterTrash -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 5:40:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dirtycherri any suggestions on how or where i can find a true master? more often than not i seem to be begging for even minor role play. is there anyone capable of actually owning me or is it all talk As has already been said..it takes patience. This site, as well as others are simply a way to facilitate meeting someone who "fits"...the rest takes time and communication, not something that can be rushed. Decide what you are looking for and update your profile to make it clear what you seek, this would be an important first step. One size does not fit all.

givemyall -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 6:19:55 AM)
A friend of mine (hi David if you are reading), said that when we stop kicking so hard we float naturally. It was one of the best bits of advice I have been given regarding 'finding the one'..... since then I have stopped looking so hard and just allowed people to bump into me whilst I have been floating along - and its amazing who you bump into! Even if you dont collide with your 'special one' im sure you will acquire some good friends. Happy paddling lol

CuteIrishM4F -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 7:10:35 AM)
i still have hope myself ... a.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 7:18:07 AM)
Tis true, givemyall. I found Angel when I had stopped looking. I was on "break" from relationships becasue so may had gone south and I had decided to take some me time. I was on here looking to chat with people, nothing more. I made a smartass comment about a journal entry he had, and we started chatting. Months later, and he is wearing my collar. Youd be surprised, you find the best things (and people) in life when you stop looking so hard for them. DV

Siona -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 9:36:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dirtycherri any suggestions on how or where i can find a true master? more often than not i seem to be begging for even minor role play. is there anyone capable of actually owning me or is it all talk You made this post last night, upon viewing your profile, you are now under consideration. I'm a bit confused. Were you underconsideration before you made this post and looking for another master/dom?

Sinergy -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 2:42:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Arpig A profile with a bit of info might be a place to start cherri In the words of Lisa Simpson's surfer friends under the pier, that approach "reeks of effort." I tell my kids, what you get out of something is proportional to the effort you put into it. Maybe the OP is looking for a Twue Mastew? Sinergy

SlaveAkasha -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 3:28:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Siona quote: ORIGINAL: dirtycherri any suggestions on how or where i can find a true master? more often than not i seem to be begging for even minor role play. is there anyone capable of actually owning me or is it all talk You made this post last night, upon viewing your profile, you are now under consideration. I'm a bit confused. Were you underconsideration before you made this post and looking for another master/dom? Ask and you shall receive.... any one wanna lay bets on what the profile will say next week? Collared, consideration, moving..etc..[&:] Akasha

LordODiscipline -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 6:44:39 PM)
*Hey -* *Find a dozen false ones and turn them in at submissive reclamation for a "true one"* *You need to fill out a form EW3-459-1G/12.2 "Application to Meet a True Master" in triplicate and inform the clerk at the center I sent you....* *They will give you form QS1-129-1A01.5 "Approval to Meet a True Master" - you will need to take this to the local Dominant's Guild Hall and ask them for form DM32/45 and have a seat.* *Fill out the paperwork while you wait and eventually you will be ushered in for an interview in regard to WHY you want to meet a "True Master"* *IF you pass that interview, your form will be stamped and they shall write to you to inform you officially of the results and the decision - and, schedule you for the meet.* *Just as a reminder:* *You will need two forms of ID, several references, and a good attitude to get through this...* *Meeting a true master is never easy... but, it is almost always not worth it!* *Anyhow - That should get the process rolling.* ~J

cuddleheart50 -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 7:05:52 PM)
LMAO

justheather -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 7:18:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SlaveAkasha quote: ORIGINAL: Siona quote: ORIGINAL: dirtycherri any suggestions on how or where i can find a true master? more often than not i seem to be begging for even minor role play. is there anyone capable of actually owning me or is it all talk You made this post last night, upon viewing your profile, you are now under consideration. I'm a bit confused. Were you underconsideration before you made this post and looking for another master/dom? Ask and you shall receive.... any one wanna lay bets on what the profile will say next week? Collared, consideration, moving..etc..[&:] Akasha Having worn your Master's collar for all of fifteen days now, and having gone through some hurtful experiences on your path in the recent past, I honestly expected a little more empathy (or at least superstitious keeping-the-mouth-shut-until-you've-been-collared-a-full-month-at-minimum) from you. To the OP: there are people here who are seeking "something real" as well. It may be possible that the short and very extreme sentiments voiced in your profile leave people wondering whether you are seeking something realistic. Not having a picture to offer shades your profile a little bit as well, perhaps leaving people to wonder if you are "for real". Believe it or not, some people join this site and create profiles that don't represent who they really are (yes! It's twue!) and those who have been here a while tend to be more cautious, having seen so many come through with less-than-honorable-intentions. I would advise you to hang out on the forums and post to the threads that interest you, and read as much as you can. Id also expand the profile a little bit.

Sinergy -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 7:24:37 PM)
Hello A/all, I did want to make a more serious comment to the OP. There is a Zen Koan which reads that "What you seek you will not find." My own personal take on this idea, in regards to your question, is to indicate that perhaps you are spending too much of your time in life seeking and searching and waxing despondent about the lack of a significant other in your life. I would suggest you do what you need to do to fix your own life, make it better, find a way to improve yourself somehow, and work to become a better person. You will eventually stumble over somebody who recognizes the person you really are, and you might even discover that this person is somebody who you would want to spend the rest of your life being with. Good luck! Sinergy

Morrigel -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 7:35:26 PM)
Indeed. Just in general, when any person feels a desperate unfulfillable void within himself/herself that seems to require another person to fill it... ...the best course of action is to carefully list each and every quality which this imaginary dream lover would have... ...and then devote every waking hour to cultivating those qualities within yourself. Very often, when something you want very much is not coming into your life, it is because you are not ready to greet it. --M

kc692 -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 7:38:38 PM)
Damn, I think we have another hit and run OP. I hope she is paying attention to the good advice here, since she is not responding.

SlaveAkasha -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 7:39:30 PM)
quote: Having worn your Master's collar for all of fifteen days now, and having gone through some hurtful experiences on your path in the recent past, I honestly expected a little more empathy (or at least superstitious keeping-the-mouth-shut-until-you've-been-collared-a-full-month-at-minimum) from you. Yes, I suppose you would.. considering how very loving you all have been of me in the past. Yes, I am getting a bit jaded and tired of trying to say the "right thing" all the time.. It's funny how you all can have a bit if a tug at someone elses cost, but when I do it.. it's the wrong thing to say. I feel for this girl, very much. I do know what she is going through, after all, according to you and some others, I mess up every time I do anything. She will not be with this person long, and it will change.. but she will go on and look back at the short time she has been on here as a lesson learned. I would love for this to be the one and all be perfect, and if it does..that is great..but she needs to be prepared that it probably won't...and life does go on. Akasha

justheather -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 7:47:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SlaveAkasha Yes, I suppose you would.. considering how very loving you all have been of me in the past. If this is sarcasm, I would like to ask you to please go back and read what I posted to you when you were going through your breakup.

Master2akasha -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 7:52:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: justheather quote: ORIGINAL: SlaveAkasha quote: ORIGINAL: Siona quote: ORIGINAL: dirtycherri any suggestions on how or where i can find a true master? more often than not i seem to be begging for even minor role play. is there anyone capable of actually owning me or is it all talk You made this post last night, upon viewing your profile, you are now under consideration. I'm a bit confused. Were you underconsideration before you made this post and looking for another master/dom? Ask and you shall receive.... any one wanna lay bets on what the profile will say next week? Collared, consideration, moving..etc..[&:] Akasha Having worn your Master's collar for all of fifteen days now, and having gone through some hurtful experiences on your path in the recent past, I honestly expected a little more empathy (or at least superstitious keeping-the-mouth-shut-until-you've-been-collared-a-full-month-at-minimum) from you. To the OP: there are people here who are seeking "something real" as well. It may be possible that the short and very extreme sentiments voiced in your profile leave people wondering whether you are seeking something realistic. Not having a picture to offer shades your profile a little bit as well, perhaps leaving people to wonder if you are "for real". Believe it or not, some people join this site and create profiles that don't represent who they really are (yes! It's twue!) and those who have been here a while tend to be more cautious, having seen so many come through with less-than-honorable-intentions. I would advise you to hang out on the forums and post to the threads that interest you, and read as much as you can. Id also expand the profile a little bit. well let me add my two cents in here...... for one you know NOTHING about me , who I am , what I am or anything.. so to group me in with all the players and Fakes on this site is rude and disrespectfull to not only me but to mine as well. yes there are some fakes out there, i know one personally who claims to be something she isnt. she is nothing but a liar but to read her profile you would think she is top notch. You cant judge people by what they may or may not say on this site , e-mail , or a post. You can only get to know the true person through personal contact either in person or over the phone. So next time you think someone is "just like the others"... I suggest you FIRST get to know them before judging them.

justheather -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 7:54:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Master2akasha well let me add my two cents in here...... for one you know NOTHING about me , who I am , what I am or anything.. so to group me in with all the players and Fakes on this site is rude and disrespectfull to not only me but to mine as well. I have no idea what you are talking about. My post had nothing to do with your "realness" and everything to do with Akasha portraying the OP as being in a flash-in-the-pan relationship. Sorry you were offended, but really I think you are reading way into what I wrote.

Sinergy -> RE: finding the one (10/21/2006 7:59:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SlaveAkasha quote: Having worn your Master's collar for all of fifteen days now, and having gone through some hurtful experiences on your path in the recent past, I honestly expected a little more empathy (or at least superstitious keeping-the-mouth-shut-until-you've-been-collared-a-full-month-at-minimum) from you. Yes, I suppose you would.. considering how very loving you all have been of me in the past. Yes, I am getting a bit jaded and tired of trying to say the "right thing" all the time.. It's funny how you all can have a bit if a tug at someone elses cost, but when I do it.. it's the wrong thing to say. I feel for this girl, very much. I do know what she is going through, after all, according to you and some others, I mess up every time I do anything. She will not be with this person long, and it will change.. but she will go on and look back at the short time she has been on here as a lesson learned. I would love for this to be the one and all be perfect, and if it does..that is great..but she needs to be prepared that it probably won't...and life does go on. Akasha Hello Akasha, I apologize if I have said anything which has offended or upset you. Such was not my intent. Please accept my apology and know that I wish you success in your endeavors. Sinergy

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