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RE: finding the one - 10/21/2006 8:46:48 PM   
SlaveAkasha


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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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I think your wrong there...  she told my slave that based on her past she should keep her mouth shut until she has been collared for a month.. meaning that I will be like the others that just use them and toss them aside in 30 days or less. which was my point to start with.. unless she knows me... and she dont... she has no right to group me with all the other "players" for one I am far from that. and if you ask anyone who REALLY knows me they will tell you that.


I think what she was saying is that those who have lived in glass houses should not throw stones.. but that is just me and I could be wrong. 

And yes, when we play out our lives on message boards people will see it when we are hypocritical and somewhat catty... it would have been much simpler to acknowledge that fact

I am also one that has always tried to be kind to Asaska and thinks she seems like a sweet person, and justheather is likewise.

Edited to add, heather  knows as much about you as your slave knows about the OP..which ain't much


Yes, you have always been kind to me.. and I appreciate it.
 
I am not throwing stones, I just see someone that is probably going to end up hurt, and it saddens me.
 
I hope the OP reads this, and sees how things work out sometimes.. I want her to know that it will be okay, even if she doesn't find the one..whoever that is.
 
I think that I am just frustrated that any number of posters could have made the same comment and would have been laughed at or agreed with..but because I did it.. I am put down and stomped on.
 
Heck, I even thanked JustHeather for saying what she did, that I didn't remember, if that doesn't show that I have an open mind, nothing does.
 
Akasha

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RE: finding the one - 10/21/2006 8:49:11 PM   
SlaveAkasha


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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

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I am afraid I do get a bit defensive on here sometimes, because no matter how I post or what, my past gets brought up.  I sort of sucks when no one will let you forget anything that you have tried to get past.  This has happened to me a few times in the last week, and now just again.  I have paid enough for it, more than anyone knows, now I just want a chance to be happy.. I don't think there is anything wrong with that.



Unfortunately, one of the byproducts of playing your relationships out on a message board is that you open yourself up to judgements.  If you don't want that, then keep your private life private.  I'm certainly not saying that it's right that it happens, but it does. 


Yes, and that was a mistake I made in the PAST, that's what I am complaining about.. it was my past, and I don't do that now.  I do have my sig, but that's it..other than that.. no one knows any of the story and I plan to keep it that way.  I did make a post in positive meetings or something, but it was brief and to the point. 
 
I just ask the chance to move on, nothing more and nothing less.  I never bring up anyones past posts at them, and since that was back in the first week of July.. I just think it's time for others to let it go.. I very much have.
 
Akasha


I read this.. and I find myself recalling a scene in the Lion King when the Monkey hits Simba on the head....

Try as one can to move beyond there past... it still hurts.   I find that one moves beyond it when they can show empathy for those that are making those same mistakes/issues...



I do have empathy for the OP.. if anyone had read any post I made since the first one, I would think they could see that..but no one wants to look at those, they just want to get after me for the first one.
 
I can't make anyone read them, or see that I do care.. and I won't try anymore.
 
Akasha

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RE: finding the one - 10/21/2006 8:54:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		Akasha, I don't think that Knight was specifically saying you weren't empathetic to the OP, but rather taking the opportunity to make a general point.

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RE: finding the one - 10/21/2006 8:57:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadySeraphina

Sinergy, I have to say you raise marvelous points!



Thank you, LadySeraphina, for the lovely compliment.

The way I see it, I am gifted with a limited amount of time in this place, and I would much rather do what I can to create joy and happiness and peace and the like than the opposite.

Two lessons I learned as a child which have stuck with me.

1)  A camp counselor when I was 8 once told me at opening meeting that if everybody threw a piece of trash on the ground, by summer's end we would be knee deep in garbage.  I cannot really express how profoundly moved by that I was.  Today, I go hiking in the woods and fill my backpack with trash.  My kid asked me why I did that once, and I said that "I dont want to look at it next year."

2)  I read somewhere that it is important to give something you borrow back to the person you are borrowing it from in better condition than you got it.  I am transient here in this place, so to me, I am borrowing this reality.  I want to leave it better than I found it.

As usual, this is just me and I could be wrong.

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RE: finding the one - 10/21/2006 9:06:28 PM   
HollyS


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Status: offline 		I've been following this thread with interest, and even though this was said a few posts back I didn't want it to get lost:

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ORIGINAL: SlaveAkasha

I do sympathize with this sub, I can't see why anyone wouldn't.  She needs to keep a sense of humor about it though, because she will be hurt many times before she finds a good one.  If anyone ought to know that, I think I should. 


I disagree that, by default, someone "will be hurt many times" before finding someone who will be good to them. Every relationship is different and the OP may meet someone who is good to her and good for her on the next try.  That is, if she's self-aware enough to figure out what she needs and not settle.

Sometimes you get hurt over and over again as you search for that person who really is right for you.  In the end, though, it's important that you can say to yourself "I'm not being hurt for the exact same reasons I got hurt the last time." Life will keep sending you the same lesson over and over again until you learn it.  Hopefully you can look at your past relationships and honestly say that you've learned something from the last time...and you've grown.  If you can, the rest will follow

~Holly



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RE: finding the one - 10/21/2006 9:11:42 PM   
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disagree that, by default, someone "will be hurt many times" before finding someone who will be good to them.


Yep.  Usually one horrible relationship will be the fix for that situation.  You tend to learn a lot about yourself when you are faced with something that doesn't work out well.  Especially if it's a case of choosing the wrong person.


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RE: finding the one - 10/21/2006 9:14:06 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		Holly,

Also, not every ending of a relationship has to be traumatic either, sometimes it just doesn't work yet can part as friends having benefitted from the experience...

It does not have to be a trail of nothing but trauma and drama... thanks for pointing that out.

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RE: finding the one - 10/21/2006 9:20:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Sinergy

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ORIGINAL: LadySeraphina

Sinergy, I have to say you raise marvelous points!



Thank you, LadySeraphina, for the lovely compliment.

The way I see it, I am gifted with a limited amount of time in this place, and I would much rather do what I can to create joy and happiness and peace and the like than the opposite.

Two lessons I learned as a child which have stuck with me.

1)  A camp counselor when I was 8 once told me at opening meeting that if everybody threw a piece of trash on the ground, by summer's end we would be knee deep in garbage.  I cannot really express how profoundly moved by that I was.  Today, I go hiking in the woods and fill my backpack with trash.  My kid asked me why I did that once, and I said that "I dont want to look at it next year."

2)  I read somewhere that it is important to give something you borrow back to the person you are borrowing it from in better condition than you got it.  I am transient here in this place, so to me, I am borrowing this reality.  I want to leave it better than I found it.

As usual, this is just me and I could be wrong.

Sinergy



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RE: finding the one - 10/21/2006 9:20:31 PM   
LadySeraphina


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Status: offline 		I also have to say that I love your quote, Holly! Pooh AND Borg in one simple quote - Genius!

Sinergy, you really do have an excellent outlook, one that I try to share, though of course I don't always succeed.

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RE: finding the one - 10/21/2006 9:20:57 PM   
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sound like you are the one lacking reasoning here.

This reminds me of of an old Buddhist riddle -- when the voices in a crazy man's head tell him others lack reasoning, does this mean he is sane?

Ok, it isn't a Buddhist riddle - I just made it up.


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RE: finding the one - 10/21/2006 9:24:56 PM   
HollyS


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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

Holly,

Also, not every ending of a relationship has to be traumatic either, sometimes it just doesn't work yet can part as friends having benefitted from the experience...

It does not have to be a trail of nothing but trauma and drama... thanks for pointing that out.


Amen to that.  I've had relationships that ended because we simply weren't compatible, for any number of reasons.  People can part ways without any pain on either side and still count them among the important markers of one's life, even if things didn't work out. The question is always "What did you learn about yourself from your time with ________?"   Being able to answer is critical if one is to move forward. 

~Holly


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RE: finding the one - 10/21/2006 9:25:43 PM   
Sinergy


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Do you have a brother...lol



I do not, and I suspect my sister (if involved in the lifestyle) is a submissive.

I have a few very close friends who share my outlook on life, and we treasure each other.

Not in a D/s or BDSM way, but most people I meet are so profoundly self-involved it makes me dubious about the future of the human race.

But I dont think pessimism makes anything worthwhile happen, so I sing Stimpy's song "Happy Happy Joy Joy" and try to understand the inner meaning.

Just me, could be wrong, but there you go.

Sinergy

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RE: finding the one - 10/21/2006 9:28:54 PM   
Sinergy


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sound like you are the one lacking reasoning here.


This reminds me of of an old Buddhist riddle -- when the voices in a crazy man's head tell him others lack reasoning, does this mean he is sane?

Ok, it isn't a Buddhist riddle - I just made it up.



This is why I never insist that I am right, or sane, or reasonable.

But I do know that (cannot remember who said it) that "When genius rises in the world, the dunces will rise in confederacy against them."

Which is not to say I think I am a genius, it more speaks to the fact that I dont get emotionally involved in how other people view me.

Just me, could be wrong, but there you go.

Sinergy



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RE: finding the one - 10/21/2006 9:30:45 PM   
HollyS


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I also have to say that I love your quote, Holly! Pooh AND Borg in one simple quote - Genius!


Thank you! The genius isn't mine, unfortunately, but belongs to some unattributed soul to whom I'm grateful for the laugh... makes me snicker every time.

And I love your avatar.  Great outfit, great pose.  Bet you get a lot of mail...  *grin*

~Holly


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RE: finding the one - 10/21/2006 10:20:54 PM   
LadySeraphina


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ORIGINAL: HollyS

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ORIGINAL: LadySeraphina

I also have to say that I love your quote, Holly! Pooh AND Borg in one simple quote - Genius!


Thank you! The genius isn't mine, unfortunately, but belongs to some unattributed soul to whom I'm grateful for the laugh... makes me snicker every time.

And I love your avatar. Great outfit, great pose. Bet you get a lot of mail... *grin*

~Holly



Thank you Holly! The credit goes to my boy, he takes all my pictures. :)

I remember one line from the Hundred Acre Woods that always stuck with me:
"Pooh?" said Piglet.
"Yes, Piglet?" said Pooh.
"Nothing," said Piglet, "I just wanted to be sure of you."

I do love A.A. Milne

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RE: finding the one - 10/22/2006 5:17:02 AM   
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   well let me add my two cents in here...... for one you know NOTHING about me , who I am , what I am or anything.. so to group me in with all the players and Fakes on this site is rude and disrespectfull to not only me but to mine as well.
  yes there are some fakes out there, i know one personally who claims to be something she isnt.  she is nothing but a liar  but to read her profile you would think she is top notch.
   You cant judge people by what they may or may not say on this site , e-mail , or a post.  You can only get to know the true person through personal contact either in person or over the phone.
   So next time you think someone is "just like the others"... I suggest you FIRST  get to know them before judging them.


Me thinks the {lady} Man doth protest too much....
 
But that is just me...
 
~J
 
PS: No one stated anything about you in the posts preceeding the one I am responding to - although the indepth and sincere nature of your profile does lend veracity to your already stellar and known reputation... ;)

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RE: finding the one - 10/22/2006 5:55:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Morrigel

Indeed.  Just in general, when any person feels a desperate unfulfillable void within himself/herself that seems to require another person to fill it...

...the best course of action is to carefully list each and every quality which this imaginary dream lover would have...

...and then devote every waking hour to cultivating those qualities within yourself.

Very often, when something you want very much is not coming into your life, it is because you are not ready to greet it.

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That's a wonderful sentiment, Morrigel. 

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RE: finding the one - 10/22/2006 8:17:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		Akasha, if you really don't want to go into this bringing up your past thing,  Don't reply to comments on it.  Go blind and mute in that area.  That's really the only way to move fully into your future.  Ok, that would be my advice, but you do have your personal advisor here, your Dom or Master probably will have ideas of how it should be handled.

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ORIGINAL: michaelGA2

the problem is, i've never been very good at hide-and-seek...wonder where She's hiding....hmmmmm


probably in the living room.  that's not a slam, i swear, i'll post in another thread to explain...  so as not to hijack. 
:)

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RE: finding the one - 10/22/2006 8:39:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		Akasha, i truly empathize with you.  (Particularly in this forum).

Many people forget that there are real living humans on the other side of the screen (myself included). 

To the OP, i certainly hope there are "real" Masters out there, otherwise i am going to be without One for the rest of my life (which btw i am learning to say, ok, to).

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RE: finding the one - 10/22/2006 9:20:31 AM   
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But I do know that (cannot remember who said it) that "When genius rises in the world, the dunces will rise in confederacy against them."


When a true genius appears in the world,
you may know him by this sign, that the dunces
are all in confederacy against him.
  • Jonathan Swift, "Thoughts on Various Subjects, Moral and Diverting"

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