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ORIGINAL: SeveredNeuron

Anyway, i realise i have rambled a bit more then i should but, opinions...? Do you think i am doing the right thing?
Have i made the right decision to stick by my goals, and why would Doms still be infuriated if, i have already warned them i do not have much time, and it turns out to be true?

Thankyou all for your time.

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ORIGINAL: Mistrix
Use the 3 eight rule.
8 hours of work
8 hours of play
8 hours of sleep
Find some balance for yourself.  your gonna crack.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
As long as you are not making commitments you can hold up to or leading people to think you will make commitments that you cannot uphold, then there's nothing going on except doms trying to make you feel bad so they keep you under their control.

I would say if you think you aren't at a place in your life to not create a relationship, don't even let the conversation go towards an intimate tone.

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ORIGINAL: SeveredNeuron

Hello everyone :)

I am hoping for some opinions/comments on a certain issue i have had of late.
Being a rather young sub i tend to get a bit of attention, but when it gets down to actual interaction... well right now its zero and has been like that for a while.
The problem is (after all that waffling.. sorry, i have a massive headache atm), that i have very little time for D/s and well for relationships in general, i don't even have time in the week to see my friends.
The reason for my busy-ness is that i work 3 jobs, study full time (science degree, usually 24 contact hours per week, but ofcourse spending longer then that because of breaks etc) and my top priority is my study because i want a career in research and academics, and in my opinion, you have to be the best of the best.
My problem is that i have had a fair few Doms verbally abuse me because of my lack of time... usually after them making comments such as 'If you really wanted to make time, you would...' when its really not possible, because i get up every day at 6am, leave the house at 7am, and sometimes dont get home till later then 8-9pm and those can be days where i have had only one hour break and just want to die (anyone who has done a lab/practical intensive course will know why you want to die after a 3 hr practical). I hardly spend any time at home, and when i am at home, i am studying or vegging out because i am so exhausted.. I have induced all sorts of health issues because of my intensive scheduling, but i like being busy... (although i will love the holidays, even if i am going back to uni again to do research).

So my question is: am i being selfish? or should i, as i have already, dismiss the Doms would do not seem to understand even after continual explanation of my scheduling because they dont seem to have my best interests at heart?

I realise that my course of action means i probably wont have a partner anytime soon, but as my mum always says; theres plenty of time for that later... especially after i have my honours and doctorate done and the possibility of moving overseas for post-doc work, because australia kinda sucks in that area.. not enough money being pumped in..

Anyway, i realise i have rambled a bit more then i should but, opinions...? Do you think i am doing the right thing?
Have i made the right decision to stick by my goals, and why would Doms still be infuriated if, i have already warned them i do not have much time, and it turns out to be true?

Thankyou all for your time.