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ORIGINAL: Morrigel



Lol...ah, now we get to the crux of it. Fear of rejection, eh? You are so terrified that every dominant woman will judge you and find you unworthy that you want to make sure that you reject them all first, before they can say no?

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ORIGINAL: sissifytoserve
Oh what a bunch of crap....

Most women won't give me the TIME OF DAY if I tell them I am a crossdresser...or promptly leave. Ive been rejected so many times ive lost count. BOY did you get THAT one wrong.

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ORIGINAL: Morrigel


Yes, I can't imagine why someone would develop a phobia based on repeated recurrence of a painful negative experience. Silly me!

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ORIGINAL: Morrigel

Oh, good Lord yes.  But keep in mind--I haven't used the word "fake".  I'm not interested in defining "true submission", or casting judgment on the quality or terms of anyone's play-personality.  I was really just trying to say that how a man behaves toward me in the early stages of contact, when we exchange emails and such, can really make the difference between meeting and playing with me--versus spending another night at home playing with himself.

The problem with responding to this with "Yeah, well...dommes aren't so great either!" is that even the "neediest, most abusive, ficklest, most naive, most self-centered, sadistic, narcissistic" ME domme in the world...is still probably not going to have to pay a man to submit to her, or do without a playmate for long.  Can the average submissive man say the same?

Face it:  the fact that there are bad dommes out there makes it even more important for you to make a good impression on the ones that are actually NOT selfish, insane, or taking American Express. 

--M

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if you do not believe I am EXACTLY who I say I am, much less that I am even female!--please do not bother me at all.  Much less offer to show me your charms on cam.

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Such a man will often claim to be a "natural and true born slave" and make an overwhelming offer of the most abject financial, personal, and sexual slavery imaginable.

I find such offers to be Hawt (tm), of course, but any attempt to communicate with such men generally devolves almost instantly into their attempts to bully me regarding how and when email messages are to be read, threatening me with severing contact if I do not agree to his definitions of the words "real", "slave", or even "man", etc., and all sorts of other high-handed disrespectful nonsense.  It quickly becomes apparent, in other words, that the person I am talking to is actually living in sort of weird pathological fantasy land, and defending a cherished idea of absolute submission from the intrusion of a real person and her opinions--much less her real dominance in real life!

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ORIGINAL: imtempting

Wonder if it is too late to save myself and get myself a good name?

But I feel im one of the 'bad eggs' that got refered to later in the thread.

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

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ORIGINAL: imtempting

Wonder if it is too late to save myself and get myself a good name?

But I feel im one of the 'bad eggs' that got refered to later in the thread.

Let go of the paranoia.  I'm certain that if a woman here cared enough to take personal issue with you, they'd have the class and the balls to TELL you and explain to you why you're a bad egg. 

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ORIGINAL: imtempting

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

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ORIGINAL: imtempting

Wonder if it is too late to save myself and get myself a good name?

But I feel im one of the 'bad eggs' that got refered to later in the thread.

Let go of the paranoia.  I'm certain that if a woman here cared enough to take personal issue with you, they'd have the class and the balls to TELL you and explain to you why you're a bad egg. 

Thank you but did you not try to tell me of in another thread? Also if you reply please do it in one of my threads so I don't get ppl sayin i hijacked another thread.

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ORIGINAL: Morrigel

For the record, I'm not particularly keeping a "list" of bad eggs.  There are one or two people who I have blocked, because I felt it was impossible to have any positive interaction with them and I feel it is rude to others to constantly engage in negative interactions on a public forum.  But in general, the posters who have impressed me least are those who start generalizing, woman-bashing threads anywhere on the forums but on this forum in particular, and the ones who make hatefully misogynistic posts.

I have yet to see any female dominant on this board who posted with an agenda of Universal Hatred and Condemnation of Men.  Nor do I see that behavior from female submissives.  Male dominants are occasionally guilty of disrespectful woman-bashing toward dommes--making snotty micropenis remarks about how there's no such thing as female domination, for example, or characterizing us as "women who do not know our place" in some way--but by far the overwhelming offenders in this kind of post are men who self-identify here as male submissives.

In general, I'm starting to get the impression that a lot of men on this site call themselves "submissive" for no other reason than that they're looking for anal play or certain kinds of physical sensation.  They are shocked and deeply offended when a woman who identifies herself as dominant is not falling over herself to submissively provide these chosen sex acts without any thought for her own pleasure, her own happiness, or her own welfare.  The thought that we might actually be looking for a man who FEELS submissive and BEHAVES submissively toward women seems to fill them with rage.

My response:  tough noodles.  I want what I want, and I get what I want.  This is what being dominant means to me.  Don't like it, and are looking for someone to do your sphincter for free?  I'd suggest you find the nearest glory hole.  And if you can't live without the spanking to go with it, and can't face any woman without being a hateful creep, do yourself a favor:  admit you can't accept dominance from a woman, that you need masculine discipline, and find yourself a leather daddy.  A gay male dom will probably straighten you out right quick.

--M

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ORIGINAL: Morrigel

For the record, I'm not particularly keeping a "list" of bad eggs.  There are one or two people who I have blocked, because I felt it was impossible to have any positive interaction with them and I feel it is rude to others to constantly engage in negative interactions on a public forum.  But in general, the posters who have impressed me least are those who start generalizing, woman-bashing threads anywhere on the forums but on this forum in particular, and the ones who make hatefully misogynistic posts.

I have yet to see any female dominant on this board who posted with an agenda of Universal Hatred and Condemnation of Men.  Nor do I see that behavior from female submissives.  Male dominants are occasionally guilty of disrespectful woman-bashing toward dommes--making snotty micropenis remarks about how there's no such thing as female domination, for example, or characterizing us as "women who do not know our place" in some way--but by far the overwhelming offenders in this kind of post are men who self-identify here as male submissives.
--M