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explain submissive - 10/23/2006 3:54:15 PM

blendedaffection

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I would like an explanation of the term submissive. You see I am a married woman and at times I feel submissive to my husband, but at other times I don't. He is the provider and caretaker in our home, but does not make all decisions solely. lol, he says he is the master here, but it is more like a democracy where I retain veto power. You know, he's the pres and I'm congress. So where do he and I fit into the scheme of things? Also, we are polydating a very wonderful person who we are thinking of adding to our family. Where does she fit in?
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RE: explain submissive - 10/23/2006 5:21:54 PM

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To me, a submissive is someone who truly desires to please someone else. I don't see anything in your household that will make you more or less of a sub. If possible, a desciption of what kind of submissive feelings you get are and what triggers them should help a long way to growing into the role.

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RE: explain submissive - 10/23/2006 7:15:37 PM

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I would like an explanation of the term submissive. You see I am a married woman and at times I feel submissive to my husband, but at other times I don't. He is the provider and caretaker in our home, but does not make all decisions solely. lol, he says he is the master here, but it is more like a democracy where I retain veto power. You know, he's the pres and I'm congress. So where do he and I fit into the scheme of things? Also, we are polydating a very wonderful person who we are thinking of adding to our family. Where does she fit in?
Thanks, Rae

To use your words, the ones bolded, think of submission as where one person submits to the ideas and decisions of another.

In some areas, you have allowed him to make certain decisions. In other words, you submit to him in those areas. Other areas, you are not (yet) comfortable submitting to him.

In most D/s relationships, the shift in authority does move more and more, but it doesn't have to. If and when your submissive feelings grow towards him, then that shift takes place. If not, not.

Make sense?

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RE: explain submissive - 10/25/2006 3:10:25 PM

blendedaffection

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Okay, I think I'm getting it. The more I learn the more questions I find to ask. Thank you both very much.

Rae

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RE: explain submissive - 10/25/2006 3:15:17 PM

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Sounds like you're a submissive who retains some authority.

The other wonderful person will fit in wherever it's best for her to fit in. :)

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