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RE: First Messages - 10/24/2006 9:34:01 AM

juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL: MasterScorpious

I have a generic email I send out with contact information that expresses interest. Basicly what it comes down to is I got tired of spending precious time composing emails that never get answered or for the most part even acknowledged. If I send out a generic email and it does not get answered is the loss of the receiver not me. I know how jaded this sounds but I figure that if I send an email That I have worked to compose to someone it should at least merit a polite no thank you if there is no interest. This way I put the onus on the receiver to decide whether I merit contact or not and if not cest la vie, I am not wasting my time pissing into the wind.

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I have to ask what loss is it really to the recipient not to answer a "canned" email when there are others that thought enough of their profile to compose an original email that specifically addressed them as a person? My Daddy stood out because he addressed what was in my profile and asked a question about it that showed he had interest in me as a human being. His email asked me a non-lifestyle related question about my interests. It was only a few lines long, but it was not a heavy come on, it was nonassuming about Ds, and it made me want to anwer him. We shared long emails about our intellectual interests and continued this on into phone calls...

What did I do with the "canned" emails? At first I attempted to answer them with an original "thanks no thanks", then I noticed there was a "canned" response button... I used that after I discovered it... I thought one canned response deserved another.. now I do not respond at all since it is obvious that I am taken to anyone that would bother to read the two lines of my profile

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RE: First Messages - 10/24/2006 7:09:18 PM

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i will respond to all the e-mails i get ... fortunately (or unfortunately, dependiong on how one sees it) i don't get many e-mails. Of the ones i do get, 70% have not read my profile, or did read it, but maybe don't understand English. i know the moment high heels or panties are mentioned. And then i say, 'thanks for the e-mail, but i'm not a girl.'
Definitely acknowledge that you have read and understood the profile, and make sure anything that might be on your list of things you like/love to do are not on the person's dislikes/hates list. That would be stupid.

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RE: First Messages - 10/24/2006 7:59:24 PM

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I actually agree with you up to a point but how often do you take ten or fifteen minutes to compose an email and simply have it ignored. Now I could be wrong and if I am I stand corrected and apologize but the odds are that most of the emails that both you and Julie wind up doing are replies to ones you received not ones you initiate. I can be fairly imaginative and eloquent when I need or want to be and have no problem with continued communication after initial contact and in a perfect world I would be happy to send out detailed desire specific emails as initial contacts and do understand how many emails that most of the females on this system get as I have access to my slave's account. The fact is that in spite of the manners and respect that both of you ladies exhibit, you are the exception not the rule. That being said you have my respect and admiration.

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RE: First Messages - 10/24/2006 8:28:15 PM

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My Daddy's email asked me what I wanted to study in graduate school... it went something along the lines of

"Hi, I read your profile and I think we have a lot in common. I noticed that you are applying to graduate schools and I was wondering if you are applying to any in my area and what you are planning on studying? I was in graduate school not long ago and plan to go back one day"

That took about two minutes to type... it stated all the important things such as that he felt we had things in common and he had read my profile. When I looked at his profile I noticed how much we did have in common on many different levels, so I emailed him back.... now that may seem like a lot of effort, but it really isn't

The message we get when you send us a canned email is that 1) you are trolling for anyone with a heartbeat 2) That you did not even bother to read about us and that is why you did not write us an original email.. you have no idea what we are about.

So, while some women might respond to that approach knowingly, it is so obvious when one gets a canned email, I would have to wonder at the intellect of a submissive that did not know it was one. If that is the sort you want... good luck to you!

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RE: First Messages - 10/24/2006 8:37:24 PM

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lol... Gotta love first contact... teehee...

I always respond to emails... even those who are sent by people who think with the lil guy in their pants... I'm always polite... I just ask if perhaps they have messaged the wrong person, or is there something in my profile that I need to clarify... Some will write back, but most just buzz away to another unlucky soul. The interesting ones (ie thoughtful, even if misguided) get an invitation to chat, or at least write back. Male or female. As for sending emails... I read the profile first, and send an email based on whatever interested me in that profile... so far, so good. :)

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