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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/24/2006 3:32:09 PM

HollyS

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ORIGINAL: knees2you

What does Submission mean to You?

Submission is something I do, not something I am. It's the act of putting Sir's will over mine and finding release through surrender to his wishes -- behaviors that are not carried over into any other part of my life or relationships.

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How does it make You feel?

Controlled, calm, useful and free

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Why do You do it?

I've sought out ways to be "useful" my whole life, but D/s feeds a very different need -- that to be controlled and directed for the pleasure of another. His need to be served feeds directly into mine, which pleases us both.

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Do You do it because You feel alone?

No.

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Is it because You need guidence because Your life was going nowhere?

No.

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Or because It always felt it was Human nature?

It's a part of my nature, but it's certainly not a constant or a "default." Still, there's no denying that I'm more settled and at peace when I have the opportunity to serve Sir; it calms my psyche and gives me an outlet for energies not easily expressed in other areas of my life. But it takes work... and I wouldn't have it any other way.

~Holly

< Message edited by HollyS -- 10/24/2006 3:33:41 PM >

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/24/2006 4:31:59 PM

sublizzie

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I would say I was probably born this way. If not, then I was definitely trained to be submissive to others. Though if it were all nurture then one of my brothers would not be the natural Dominant that he is.......

Being in a situation where I can be myself, submissive, feels right. This is the way my world should always be. It isn't, but IMO it should be!

I submit to the Dom/mes because if I didn't have that outlet I'd let any schmuck around domineer me, which is NOT good. It's better that I have an outlet for my submissiveness so I can look at the poopy-heads around me and tell them to leave me alone.

I am alone, until someone comes along and finally realizes that I am the world's best submissive for them. But I do not submit because I am alone. I am alone because I have figured out that I *am* the world's best submissive for *someone* and I don't want to miss out on who that is by being busy with someone who doesn't really get who I am.

My life is busy and very active. I have plans. I have schemes. I am going places that are important to me. I don't need someone else to give me direction. But it would be nice to have someone else help me navigate sometimes.

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/24/2006 5:40:42 PM

RedSavageSlave

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quote:

ORIGINAL: knees2you

What does Submission mean to You?
How does it make You feel?
Why do You do it?

Was at work today and was wondering,
these questions.

Do You do it because You feel alone?
Is it because You need guidence because
Your life was going nowhere?
Or because It always felt it was Human nature?
quote:

"I Found a Buisness, and Buisness is good."

Ant, & LilBecque

Because when I tried relationships any other way.. I was sad lost confused and ill equipped to handle.

This is what feels most natural to me.

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So many thoughts, so few of them rational

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/24/2006 10:14:38 PM

behindmirrors

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ORIGINAL: knees2you
What does Submission mean to You?

The deferrence of the power I hold over myself to a trusted other. The desire to please someone through actions and thoughts, by allowing them to assume control in a specific way. The choice to transfer one's strength to the goals of another.

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How does it make You feel?

Free, beautiful, safe, cherished, trusted, esteemed, pleased, and more happy than I have been in a long time.

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Why do You do it?

Because it is the opportunity to act on an important aspect of who I am as a human being, and it fulfills me to do so.

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Do You do it because You feel alone?

No- it was not until I could overcome my loneliness that I sought out someone else to be with. The time I spent alone shaped many things that allowed me to become who I am, and gave me the strength to become a submissive to my Dom. It was not an attempt to "cure" the "ailment" of loneliness, it is an expression of who I am and how I feel within the relationship I share with my Dom.

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Is it because You need guidence because
Your life was going nowhere?

My life has gone many places, continues to do so, and no one is responsible for that but me. I had the strength to do what I have done, to be where I have been, and to shape my life into what I have wanted it to be. I am not a weak person who cannot manage their own existence- I am the direct opposite- a strong person who lives life, each moment of it, with passion, by the choice to do so and the ability to follow through- and the pride to not regret it.

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Or because It always felt it was Human nature?

It is not human nature unless it is universal. I say it's an individual aspect of who I am which is beautiful to me, but it is not something that any person would find validating or pleasing. It is an individual characteristic, but it is not some universal trait we all possess- it's an intrinsic part of me, but perhaps not of you.

behindmirrors.

(in reply to knees2you)

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/25/2006 6:27:37 AM

imtempting

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ORIGINAL: sydney007

hey all ....
i am a new guy from Nigeria and i will love to know a little about this forum so pls kindly reply me to my inbox here so that i will be able to know that u have read my forum,,,,,,,,,Thanks
Saheed.

Oh you sure you don't want my bank account details either?

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/25/2006 9:18:24 AM

behindmirrors

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ORIGINAL: imtempting

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ORIGINAL: sydney007

hey all ....
i am a new guy from Nigeria and i will love to know a little about this forum so pls kindly reply me to my inbox here so that i will be able to know that u have read my forum,,,,,,,,,Thanks
Saheed.

Oh you sure you don't want my bank account details either?

Thanks for the wakeup laughter. I'm glad I swallowed my coffee before I got to your post, haha.

behindmirrors.

(in reply to imtempting)

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/25/2006 2:13:46 PM

nightrosemom

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My mom used to tell me that i have to stop putting others before myself...who knew, that when i was in the 5th and 6th grade, that my mother was actually describing the lifestyle i would one day live.

I am a full time mom, and i have a 24/7 live in realtionship with my Master. it is hard, because with my daughter i am in control, Master knows He will NEVER come before her, and it is had for Him to help with her all the time, but then when it comes to Him, i have no control, no say, no opinion.

I would not choose any other way to live, live is a bitch...depending upon how you treat her!

I have tried to be in vanilla relationships after discoving this lifestyle...and i wasnt happy. I was with many guys who pretended to be dominant, and wasnt happy. I am submissive because when i am on my knees, looking up at my Master with my blue eyes, Him looking down at me smiling and stroking my hair, THAT is the only time i am at peace, that is the only time i feel at home, the only time i feel completely satisfied and fufilled.

His little angel

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/25/2006 5:19:40 PM

naughtygeisha

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It is absolute bliss for myself to submit , the look on His face when i would surprise Him with something i thought was a small thing(making sure there was always a chocolate treat for Him) was worth everything, i would not change the memories of His thank you My slave and the look of complete adoration at such a small thing for anything.

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Submission is the greatest gift there is , Why throw it away, cherish it and be cherished

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/25/2006 6:56:00 PM

Mavis

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ORIGINAL: knees2you

What does Submission mean to You?

i hate it.
it means weak.
it makes me feel alone
it makes me feel my life is going too fast and i cannot control it.

i love it.
i like feeling weak. i love to accept my weakness.
i like feeling alone. i love to face myself, just me, and like who i see.
i want to live the rush.
zoom-zoom.

(in reply to knees2you)

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/26/2006 12:22:19 PM

Firebirdseeking

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For me, it is kind of a Yin Yang thing - a balance of strength and submissvness, a balance of masculine and feminine. Maybe I am the only one who feels this way.

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/26/2006 2:00:11 PM

daddysprop247

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ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking

For me, it is kind of a Yin Yang thing - a balance of strength and submissvness, a balance of masculine and feminine. Maybe I am the only one who feels this way.

no, you are not the only one. i have always viewed dominance as a masculine quality, and submissiveness as a feminine one. Dom/sub, Master/slave, Man/woman...this lifestyle gives me a sense of balance...sort of like, all is as it should be.

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/26/2006 7:26:06 PM

Daddysredhead

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quote:

ORIGINAL: knees2you

What does Submission mean to You?

Submission means that I hand over the control in situations, or allow decisions to be made for me, by my Master.

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How does it make You feel?

It makes me very warm, loved, protected, and cherished.

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Why do You do it?

I do it because of the nature of my relationship with my Master. I trust Him implicitly, and feel that He will make choices that are in my best interest, and will keep me safe along the way.

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Do You do it because You feel alone?
Is it because You need guidence because
Your life was going nowhere?
Or because It always felt it was Human nature?

The answer to all of the above is "no."
I do not mind being alone. My life was and is going fine, but it's much, much better with Him in it. Being submissive is not necessarily natural to me as I tend to be rather controlling and extroverted. However, I have always wanted to be with someone who is stable, strong, and confident enough to steer the wheel in my stead. With my Daddy, I have that, and submitting to Him just feels right.

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Are you really that stupid? ~ Bless your heart

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/26/2006 8:04:23 PM

littlespike

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quote:

ORIGINAL: knees2you

What does Submission mean to You?
How does it make You feel?
Why do You do it?

Was at work today and was wondering,
these questions.

Do You do it because You feel alone?
Is it because You need guidence because
Your life was going nowhere?
Or because It always felt it was Human nature?

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http://www.homepage.bannerzzz.com/ - My homepage

(in reply to knees2you)

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/28/2006 8:55:46 AM

KinkyTink1

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I can relate.. and maybe all the more reason I crave a Master, in order to let go of some of that control.

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/28/2006 5:57:58 PM

DesertRat

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ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking
For me, it is kind of a Yin Yang thing - a balance of strength and submissvness, a balance of masculine and feminine. Maybe I am the only one who feels this way.

You are not the only one who feels that. It's a response that really resonates with me.

Bob

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When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro--Hunter S. Thompson
It's crackers to slip a rozzer the dropsy in snide!--Chief Dead St. Knockout, 1933, Liverpool
Damn the crops. I'll only find peace at the end of a rope.--Winston Van Loo, 1911

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/28/2006 6:12:49 PM

angelspassion4u

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Submissive to me is pleasing someone (by doing things for or just being there for them, etc.) and making them happy with you. In turn it makes you happy by making them happy.

Why do I do it? shrugs its just who I am.

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"You can PLEASE some people some of the time, most people most of the time, but NEVER all the people all of the time."

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/28/2006 6:47:56 PM

MissUnleaded

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The kinky sex is fun, too.

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/29/2006 1:10:02 AM

slave4Darby3d

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Great questions.

Being a submissive... I don't feel like A submissive, I AM submissive. it is like a tone that runs through me that only turns to music when I am able to serve. It is happiness, and purpose.

I didn't feel alone. I've always felt All One as a person. Only thing - when I met the man who became my Master I found a completeness I never expected. I certanly wasn't searching for it, because I never knew it existed.

Life going nowhere? WOW - what do you really feel about submissiveness? I've had a very full, active life. I've traveled, had money, things, children, rewarding career. If anything my life has been great. But this, this feeling has always been there. I never knew what it was - that pull - until one day I stopped holding it down and let it pop to the surface so I could take a look at it...

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/30/2006 6:29:55 PM

Sublime5446

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i do it because its whats feels right to me. i may be young but i know what i am. i feel like i need to follow directions, everythings simpler when your following commands. but i also live to please. so basically, i do it because pretending to be something your not gets you no-where, and it feels right. i think of it as a win win situation ^^ not to mention i get to please, and thats what i live to do

< Message edited by Sublime5446 -- 10/30/2006 6:30:44 PM >

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/30/2006 11:36:11 PM

onlythewindknows

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for me it is not a feeling but a calling.

i need to be of service to others to be happy.

it does not have to be sexual but that is nice when it happens.

i cannot change this though sometimes i wish i COULD be happy being selfish (seems easier.)

yeah i have always been this way.

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