ShadeDiva
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Joined: 3/31/2004
From: Sacramento, California
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ORIGINAL: uponmyknees
I have taken your advice and gone to your project. I have registered and am seeking an education in soul. I have registered undersubmale in training. Perhaps I can be taught? I will do as I am told. I will remove the masks and obsorbe the knowledge of SOUL.
Removing masks isn't a simple process, nor is it typically someone can do just by saying, okay, masks are gone!
What I meant by soul, was to know how and why submission affects and interacts with you, as a human, as a person, as a man. To really know why and how submission affects you, what it brings to you, what - if anything - it takes away.
To me it isn't about saying okay I'm a sub, dominate me. It's about trust, honesty, open communication, good self esteem, knowing who you are as a submissive and as just a human, knowing your worst pieces and your best pieces of who you are and everything in between and being able to verbalize this to someone else coherently, and THEN surrendering to a dominant that is compatible with where you see yourself as a submissive and as a man.
To achieve that - it means you MUST have done some serious self exploration and introspection, that you've thought long and hard and looked at yourself in pieces and in the whole without the rose colored glasses we tend to want to wear when looking within ourselves. Knowing your soul, to me, is the biggest and most important step in this journey of self discovery and exploration, and it is critical in being able to accurately determine who and what is compatible with you. It is my opinion that self delusion and self denial is the most common denominator in failing to assess whether or not someone is in fact compatible with you.
Telling someone what you offer in an introduction, to me, is more an exercise in a person's outer mask, designed to present themselves in a certain aspect or flavor, or whatever. It's a type of sales pitch.
I don't need that mask, I prefer to know the person as a PERSON and human, first. Then as a friend. Through knowing them that way, I will learn all I need to know in a gradual fashion about their submission, what they would offer me as a submissive, as well as everything else, but not via their *sales pitch*. And the reverse is true too, in turn THEY learn about me, as a human, a woman, and a dominant, through time and discussion, what I expect, what I think, what is important to me, my philosophies, who I am, without me having and using a *sales pitch mask*. And to be honest, it is a thousand times more accurate than I could put in a sound bite intro.
It takes longer, true, but it's accurate and time acts as a natural filter. It allows me to assess and determine through their actions (and them in regard to me as well) and conduct if their words match their deeds.
I can't educate you about your soul, and neither can any site, for that matter. My signature isn't a way to find those answers that lie inside of you - it is merely me sharing a few sites that I've created that are my projects in my posts in case someone might be interested in seeing them. It wasn't a suggestion directed at you, nor am I saying they will provide any type of inner education about who you are or your soul.
Hopefully all that made sense. LOL.
~ShadeDiva
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~ShadeDiva
My projects of love:
theFetishForums
HumanFauna
Kinked
DommeWorld
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