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KatyLied -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/3/2006 6:54:05 PM)

I can't respect any guy who won't help pick out curtains.    [;)]



Aileen68 -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/3/2006 6:55:24 PM)

Or bump fuzzies.



bigboobswebcam -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/3/2006 6:55:30 PM)

 Quote: Hmmm, how come YOU weren't using something? Doesn't matter what HE told you, you should have been adult enough to use protection in some manner.

Trust me with me it doesnt help. I got pregnant on the pill, condoms, iud, pull out, and someone who couldnt get me pregnant. and No i dont have that many kids lol. I have 2 children but I used these things together. But your right I was young 19 in fact and stupid. I didnt realize things that I should have. And I should have known better. I was going through a lot and finding myself and what I was. I thank God that I have finally found myself and got some brains. I realize all my past mistakes and I dont make them anymore.



Sinergy -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/3/2006 7:08:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Or bump fuzzies.


While I have no particular problem picking out curtains (I have been told I have excellent taste) or bumping fuzzies (I have been told I taste excellent) the fact that
I may not want to do either after having coffee with somebody does not imply
that I met them for coffee in order to hurt their feelings.

Just me, could be wrong, but there you go.

Sinergy



psykocloud32 -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/3/2006 7:34:56 PM)

I never have sex on a first date, never, and then I don't always have sex while scening with someone either. I can have fun with or without it. I always make that very clear to everyone I speak with

In my experience, if I give in on a first date, thats all I see of them. So I'm not soo (easy) any more

psyko



defiantbadgirl -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/3/2006 8:26:58 PM)

That has been my experience a well.



juliaoceania -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/3/2006 8:50:13 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Sinergy

quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I do not respect men that sleep with a woman that really likes them just to turn around and hurt her feelings by not returning phone calls and brushing her off.



Ya know, I have been accused of being a man who intentionally hurts women's feelings because I dont want to pick out curtains and bump fuzzies after meeting her for coffee.

It does work both ways.

Sinergy

Thats why coffee could become a hard limit.... [:D]



Betacoywolf -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/5/2006 6:46:11 AM)

RED FLAG!!!! any conditions on meeting in that way is a major flag telling me he is not when he wants me to believe he is......ever.......even second or third meetings should not have such conditions....



Sinergy -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/5/2006 5:32:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Fast reply.
It seems as if a dom chooses to meet at a Starbucks then he's looking to get to know you one way.  If he tells you to meet at the Holiday Inn, then it's another agenda.  If you walk into the room at the Holiday Inn expecting coffee then I'd have to question how one got so far in life on the limited brain cells present..


What agenda should I have expected at IHOP?

Sinergy



Aileen68 -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/5/2006 5:35:23 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Sinergy

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Fast reply.
It seems as if a dom chooses to meet at a Starbucks then he's looking to get to know you one way.  If he tells you to meet at the Holiday Inn, then it's another agenda.  If you walk into the room at the Holiday Inn expecting coffee then I'd have to question how one got so far in life on the limited brain cells present..


What agenda should I have expected at IHOP?

Sinergy

Syrup and whipped cream. [8|]



juliaoceania -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/5/2006 5:37:03 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Sinergy

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Fast reply.
It seems as if a dom chooses to meet at a Starbucks then he's looking to get to know you one way.  If he tells you to meet at the Holiday Inn, then it's another agenda.  If you walk into the room at the Holiday Inn expecting coffee then I'd have to question how one got so far in life on the limited brain cells present..


What agenda should I have expected at IHOP?

Sinergy


Two eggs over medium and then an afternoon of hiking, outdoor oral sex, and then spankings at your hotel room... but that is just what I would expect (WEG)



Sinergy -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/5/2006 5:40:21 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

outdoor oral sex



"I did not have sex with that woman."   William Jefferson Clinton



SirAnthony -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/15/2006 6:02:13 PM)

Instant obediance?  Should that have, in some way, been established during the courtship?
If not, hell No... Its a first meet to see what there is there.

A test drive for both parties.



Lenis -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/19/2006 9:32:01 PM)

I view it like a first date in a way.  I do NOT expect it to happen, and I have met only two people where it happened the first day we met.  Both times I felt a certain draw to them, and both times I had an orgasm that was fullfilling to me on so many levels.  

-Brian



WillowRain -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/30/2006 7:22:29 AM)

I would say no. Sex on a first meeting seems very inapropriate to me, but all people are differant. What might be the right choice for me, might be exactly the wrong choice for you. Good luck!



cjklyn -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/30/2006 8:48:49 AM)

This is obviously an individual choice between you and your master. However, I would be wary of any master who insisted on sex on a first meeting. My own approach is to meet first socially, in public. It's important I think on first meeting to start to build trust in each other. I usually don't meet until getting to know someone (and alloweing them to get to know me) online via email/chat first. Then we might meet a number of times. Even then, I leave it to my potential sub to decide if and when she wishes to submit..which might, or might not lead to sex ( do remember, submission is about much more than just sex, and I'd also be wary of and dom who talks sex alone). Only once have I had sex on first meeting. That was after a long email exchange, and was not planned, but just seemed right for both of us..that relationship lasted for years...and was very close for all that time. It wasn't planned or intentional, just happened. So to answer your question more directly, it's for you to decide. It's a very personal choice



desoutter -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/30/2006 4:52:50 PM)

I think I anwered this one already but I just got all spooled up again reading your post so... again...

no no no no nononono and no

Never compromise
Never ignore your gut
Never allow yourself to be persuaded into ignoring the above...

desoutter



AGORANTE -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/30/2006 5:24:01 PM)

I'll tell you how I used to do it. I would contact the woman online and after a couple notes we would talk on the phone. If she seemed nice I would have her come to my house.
 
I would meet her at the front door and kiss her. Then I would put her in cuffs. I would remove her blouse and put on nipple clamps. If she said anything I would put on a ball gag. I kept equipment by the door, so I would strip her down and put on a collar with a leash. Usually I would at this point have her walk on all fours down the hall to the bedroom. I would whack her naked butt with a long handled crop and make her bark (bow-wow).
 
When I got her to the bedroom I would put her on a spreader bar and hang her from the ceiling. I would then flog her. Later I would butt plug her, fist her and cane her. I would beat her as I fucked her from behind.
 
I did this standard procedure many times and I always had good results. Afterwards (about two hours or so) I would take get her a robe and we would adjourn to the dining room for Champagne and brie. Girls that you meet on this site love to be treated this way. They are happy, smiling and radiant. They kiss your hand. They kiss your feet.

Conversation is easier and everyone is more relaxed when the girl has had a dozen orgasms or so and has floated off into sub-space a couple times. Subbies are deeply appreciative. This is their dream.

This is the way to start off a wholesome and fulfilling BDSM relationship. Don't listen to those who want you to have a meeting where you negotiate what is allowed. That kills romance. Its better just to do it and talk about it later.  

This is the Ask a Master forum and that's my answer.



michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/30/2006 5:40:49 PM)

quote:

"I did not have sex with that woman." William Jefferson Clinton


"I didn't have sex with that woman...i wanted to." Robin Williams from Man Of The Year



DomFey -> RE: Sex on First Meeting.. (11/30/2006 7:10:49 PM)

Re: condoms, and more....

There is no such thing as safe sex, only safer sex.  Using a condom can considerably reduce, but will never eliminate risk. 

Over the years, I have often had sex on the first date and regretted it later because the guy turned out to be a pig.  Nonetheless, I will continue to have sex on the first date IF I want it and my partner is willing.  What's important is that I decide.  I base my decision on possible physical and emotional risk to both me and my partner, since I am a Domme and feel responsible for the ultimate action. 

When I arrange to meet a partner, I make it known there is no guaranteed disrobing, beating, or beyond.  If we really click, though, I've found it very easy to renegotiate quickly, successfully, and, I would even say, romantically.  :-)

The bottom line is I am willing to undertake the risk inherent in having sex upon first meeting, when I obviously know less about my partner than if we had a longer relationship.  I put my trust in myself, and own that if I judge incorrectly, I have only myself to blame.   

Best,

DomFey



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