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Sinergy -> RE: "Under My protection" (12/2/2006 7:24:56 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Najakcharmer
I've done this for a number of newbies, but it's not necessary to make it a formal designation. It's more like, "Hey, I'll be your buddy and your listening ear, and if you want me to help with a reality check or a safety check, it's cool to run your prospective partners or scenes by me first to help make sure you're not getting into anything that isn't safe or healthy for you."
I have done the same thing. Although I generally dont use the emotionally loaded buzz-words "under my protection" when I tell them I will listen to them, call somebody up, be a safe call, or whatever.
I have contacted Doms and Dommes for submissives and asked them politely what was up with things they were doing. An abusive relationship exists in silence, and sometimes all that is required to get a stalker to leave somebody alone is to send a nice email to them asking them to leave the person alone.
When I have done this in the past, I generally had somebody in my life and I am not polygamous. I was clear up front that I was doing this person a favor with no strings attached. When I have done it with nobody in my life, I also made it clear that I was not actively pursuing the person I was mentoring / protecting.
In one case I simply gave a collar to wear to a friend of my submissive at the time because she wanted to go to the Lair and not be hassled. I didnt think it was that big a deal.
This is just me, and I could be wrong.
Sinergy
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