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RE: What makes dominant ladies decide to reply to a mes... - 11/2/2006 11:05:56 PM

pixelslave

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In networking with other dominants, I may have knowledge of a slave who is seeking. However, when asking around other dominants, I do not mention that there is a slave seeking, nor any conversation I had with a slave who contacted me. If I know of a dominant that might be a better 'fit'/'match' I advise the slave they 'may' wish to contact Dominant A, B or C. It is up to that slave to contact Dominant A, B or C.

Apparently this chap thinks, a dominant like me would spill the intimate and confidential information and such. I don't. Networking is a tool as to make/create connections. Unfortunately, I have to agree with the chap, that some dominants do go pass the boundary of private and or confidential conversations and such but, again--I am one who dislikes being included in the mass of misbehaviors by another class/group of individuals.

Another thing this chap doesn't know about me. I ask first, if it is ok to ask around as to find a better match. If I don't have permission, the matter is dead then and there. I will not make any inquiries. But, I am willing to help a slave if he asks me to seek out those I know who may be looking for a slave like them. But, it is with their permission and knowledge I do such.

Lady Hugs,
I've seen you post numerous times and I'm always impressed by your generosity and willingness to help others! The fact that you would suggest to a sub that he might want to contact a particular Dominant is very kind and helpful of you. To know that you'd go further and offer to help find a better match is more than one could normally expect from someone they know well enough to call a friend, let alone a woman they only know from a few emails that have been passed on-line!

You are a rare person to find in the current atmosphere in which we now seem to reside. I'm glad to know that a woman of your character still exists and can be found here on CM! Thank you for the many considerate and thoughtful contributions I see you make throughout this site.

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RE: What makes dominant ladies decide to reply to a mes... - 11/3/2006 8:53:02 AM

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For me, it depends on the person and what they wrote. For example, if it's a one line than no I won't respond. If it's someone that I find somewhat interesting, I'll look at their profile and respond back either way. On my profile I ask for the potential sub/slave to say why I should choose them, plus they say a little bit more about themselves, than what is in their profile. Good luck definitly, you'll find a great domme.

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RE: What makes dominant ladies decide to reply to a mes... - 11/5/2006 3:26:10 AM

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greetings

i find that when someone write i wil answer if they write in a full sentences like" how are you doing today not how r u doing. this show me the person is young may young folks in the teen and 20s do this type of writing. i also will write to someone who does not jump to wanting to know what i did with the last submissive i had this is crazy when they do that. some shy is ok with a short reply to me i understand this. these are the only ones i will answer it is important that the submissive understand what is needed to be say to use we are more then just dommes i am an artist a doll house maker and it not for kids it for adult very expensive things that go in there are not for small hands or big man hands lol

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RE: What makes dominant ladies decide to reply to a mes... - 11/5/2006 12:55:22 PM

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Things that make me sit up and take notice (I'm sure these are repeats of what other ladies have said):

Good grammar and writing.

Something interesting to say, which means revealing something about his own personality and intelligence beyond BDSM, and responding thoughtfully to the text of my profile. Why? Because this says "I am a human being responding to you as a human being." Hallelujah! This means an original letter, not a form letter.

Not expressing himself as a laundry list of fetishes. While I have my likes and dislikes, this bores me to tears. I do not think of myself or my desires in terms of a list. I'm more complex than that. I hope that you are, too.

Someone who has actually *read* my profile. I love it when someone says something laudatory about my profile and then they turn out to be of a certain group that I have expressly said I don't care for. WTF? How impressed am I going to be if you don't even notice what I say. (sighing)

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RE: What makes dominant ladies decide to reply to a mes... - 11/5/2006 2:44:00 PM

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Dear pixelslave, Ladies and Gentlemen;

Being in the scene in the 1970's and 1980's before personal computers were affordable, helping one another was common place.

Like then and now, I think all of us wish to find our happiness with another. Some may wish a one on one relationship, others poly. My mental and spirit, has a 'How may I help you.' intent. I cannot help everybody but, I can do so if I can or I'm allowed. Community support was very much a part of my experiences.

I'm personally glad, if I can help. I also appreciate help from others, when I am seeking a slave and or slaves.

Even if a slave doesn't make a match for me, I still love others enough, unless they give me just cause for concern, to which there really must be an extremely lengthy history of negatives to make me concerned and pro-active. I just cannot imagine not helping others, even though I might not be their one. The slave still must do their part, as to find their match.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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