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ToGiveDivine -> RE: Doormat or Not? (1/12/2007 8:15:55 AM)
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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen
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ORIGINAL: ToGiveDivine
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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig
Very well said ToGiveDivine...
Speaking purely from a female dominant/male submissive perspective, I guess most of us want to be seen as the bad word named lady who will only dominate a man who doesn't give us any grief??? And certainly none of us want to be seen as weaklings who will only dominate someone who submits without resistance?? This is all subjective/relative, but I agree with you that in a proper partnership, a submissive is her doormat when the whim hits her, and otherwise he is whatever he is as a human being and she deems is his role. So count me among the types who want to be obeyed regardless if his friends say you are being her doormat, because to me, he'll simply be my man/submissive/lover. M
Basically, I'd like someone who was proud of me as a man pretty much all the time - especially when I'm down kissing her feet (or whatever).
In my profile I say that sometimes I need to be the Knight in Shining Armor and sometimes I need to be the footstool - depending on what she needs at the moment. Even the strongest women has moments of weakness that requires her sub to step up - it isn't a shift in the dynamics; it's called taking care of the person that really matters to you.
I'm still put off by the profiles / posts that talk about "I will smash your little twig and berries daily as they are useless to me" or the "you will only lick my a** as that is all you are good for". Damn, if someone doesn't like men that much, find a woman. There are times and places for smashing and licking, but hopefully you like and respect the man you are smashing or having to make them lick.
You know, the more TGD posts, the more often I'm thinking one of two things.
First - how in the world has he not been snapped up?
Second - what a good thing it is, that there are some sane, well balanced guys still out there to hunt.
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By answering the 2nd question, you will see the answer to the 1st.
What I think and what I do aren't always the same thing. I'm fallible as everyone else and sometimes I do stupid things (maybe I am human ;-)
Ever hear the adage that "it looks to good to be true"? I believe what I say; but, at times, I mess up on the following of what I believe.
I am a man. That means I have all the inherent issues, attitudes and problems that accompany men. Maybe the degree to which these aspects are not as bad as other men, but I'm no picnic.
Another thing is finding someone who you are compatible with in the location where you are going to be. I've met some really nice people, but either we aren't anywhere in the same timezone (or continent) or my preferences don't jive with theirs. If the women is only looking for women; then whatever chemistry we might have doesn't make a hill of beans and I won't pursue it. Same with someone who tells me that I don't quite match what they are looking for. In both cases, No means No, and continually asking would just plain be annoying.
Doesn't mean I don't still like them and hope they find what they are looking for. Only the petty call them names and never speak to them again.
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