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Imsosly4u -> How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 1:24:37 PM)
it has been almost a year and i've yet to see my Master face to face. when i have talked to Him about this, He says that i have to earn it, okay, i have completed every task and am still waiting. How long is to long? i never was seeking an internet Dom, and that was not supposed to be how would be.

Silvermoon -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 1:26:57 PM)
Sounds like he's stalling to me. If it's a matter of 'earning' it..has he told you how he wants you to earn it? I'd be suspicious. Sounds to me like you found yourself an Internet Only Dominant. As with most posts, I have to say...if you need to ask this question, you already have your answer. Silver

ownedgirlie -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 1:27:47 PM)
I would think "too long" depends on the individual. Has he laid out a precise plan to enable you to "earn it?" Or are you guessing as you go? This situation seems fishy to me.

ownedgirlie -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 1:28:55 PM)
Oops, seems we had the same thoughts at the same time. Do you hear an echo echo echo echo??

slavejali -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 1:29:48 PM)
yeah fishy to me too [:)] There really should be a set plan, otherwise you could find yourself spending years having a relationship with a computer.

toservez -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 1:36:24 PM)
Theoretical answer: What two people are comfortable with. Realisitical answer: Sooner than later if the people are serious. Measured more in weeks then months. My guess in your situation: Married person having fun on the Internet.

MsKatHouston -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 1:38:37 PM)
Now I'm the cautious sort. I usually wait up to two weeks before meeting someone in person. A year? You really don't need to be asking this question, now, do you?

Littlepita -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 1:38:52 PM)
He is playing you. I had a girl friend who had an online dom who would pull that bull on her too. Wise up and find someone who will appreciate and treat you right. It took 10 months before I met my Dom, but that was my choice not his. If I had needed to see him sooner he would have come to me so that I would have known he could be trusted and respected to do the right thing by me. Good luck to you.

Imsosly4u -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 1:39:06 PM)
i have come to hate the computer now too... He told me certain things that i was to do to prove myself to Him i have done them. i am not a fool but have chosen to take Him at His word. i have tried to speak to Him about this and i get very frustrated. and it seems that when i get real honest about my feelings it doesn't make Him too happy, and then i end up saying something i regret, thus being punished by His silence. i am new at this all so i am not really sure how to handle it. any thoughts, suggestions, or opinions are very welcome. thank You all

gypsygrl -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 1:40:42 PM)
Whatever works for you works for you but... almost a year is a really long time. I think in terms of weeks too. After a week or so of mailing back and forth, I try to get an assessment if a meeting is likely. I'm more flexible for long distance, but it still has to be within the realm of near future.

zumala -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 1:42:36 PM)
If he lays down specifics and you perform them, yet he still holds himself distant... dump his sorry ass. He's playing with you. The internet is a breeding ground for people who have no intention of ever becoming 'real'. They merely want to play pretend and get their rocks off for as long as they can convince you to stick around. Sucks, but that's the way it is sometimes. I suggest you move on and find someone more open and sincere. Best wishes. zuma

Imsosly4u -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 1:44:08 PM)
it is long distance, but W/we are in the same state, about 7 hrs. drive. Okay then its concluded that i'm outta my friggin mind, but apparently my patience has grown largely.

gypsygrl -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 1:50:15 PM)
Nono, you're not out of you're friggin mind. I let someone toy with me for 4 months when I first started with this stuff, so, having ridden that roller coaster ride, I've learned to meet before I decide whether or not to get too involved. :)

slavejali -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 1:57:12 PM)
Think about a cake, divide it up into 39 slices (your age). Look at that one slice that represents a year of 'waiting for something to eventuate" then work out how many more slices your willing to give to it. Could end up a huge chunk outa your precious life hey?

Imsosly4u -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 1:57:34 PM)
this is going to be very hard to do.

Imsosly4u -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 2:00:13 PM)
No shit huh!! hehehe at this rate i'll never have my cake and eat it too.

spanklette -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 2:02:03 PM)
It's too long to wait, when you've decided it is too long. As long as you've communicated your expectations for a r/t meeting then the fault is his. It's very difficult to draw a line in the sand when you're emotionally invested in a relationship, but sometimes it's necessary.

Imsosly4u -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 2:04:22 PM)
yep but its time

stockingluvr54 -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 2:06:33 PM)
seems abit long...????? Something isn't right. You might suggest to him to either shit or get off the pot?....jmo

MistressCamille -> RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? (10/29/2006 2:06:37 PM)
I don't even wait weeks. I'm here to find someone in real time and with all the players it's just been a waste of time to chat online or on the phone. You don't earn your slavedom online, that's a crock! I met someone on here just yesterday and already we have arranged to meet one evening this week coming. End of story! Do yourself a huge favor and extract yourself from this person.

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