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When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 5:22:01 AM

DaddiesLilGirl06

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Lets say when a Dom/Domme wants to do something with someone elses sub and doesnt ask the subs Dom what do you do? How are you to show respect for that particular persons Dominance but respectfully show how ashamed you are of that person who disrespected your Dom and you? Its a very confusing thing for me. i have never encountered this before. Until now.

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 5:24:43 AM

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Wants to do or did do?? Big difference between the two..

Respect may or may not have to be earned.. but it only takes one incident to lose it..My question is.. why do you feel you owe such a person respect in the first place?

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 5:25:48 AM

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She actually did do this

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 5:29:13 AM

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You beat your chest and say "Represent." Sorry, I don't know.

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 5:30:22 AM

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I personally dont think you owe her respect but what does your owner say about all of this? I am assuming you had a conversation with him about it.

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 5:32:36 AM

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He was pissed off about the whole thing. I have a high respect for my Dom. But the Domme i am not sure if i should show her any at all or just respect her Dominance but show her the shame she made me feel during this whole incedent.

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 5:36:23 AM

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Sorry to hear that girl.. Being all things by consent and this person didnt have it, I'd say they have dishonored themself as well as you and your Dom. There should be no further contact.

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 5:36:36 AM

DaddiesLilGirl06

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And She blaitently did it in front of my Dom. It was out right bad edicut. Sorry never had to spell that word.

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 5:36:36 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddiesLilGirl06

Lets say when a Dom/Domme wants to do something with someone elses sub and doesnt ask the subs Dom what do you do? How are you to show respect for that particular persons Dominance but respectfully show how ashamed you are of that person who disrespected your Dom and you? Its a very confusing thing for me. i have never encountered this before. Until now.

I would not have allowed the Dom/me to do a thing to me without my Doms permission for one. Respect for that person would no longer exist and my owner would know immediately what was attempted and how I reacted to it.

Remember always that respect is a two way street, and though I have no idea why you were in the position you were in and what exactly happened I don't need to. If you have a Master/Daddy, then HIS dominance is the only dominance you need to submit to.

shayla

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 5:44:32 AM

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quote:

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And She blaitently did it in front of my Dom. It was out right bad edicut. Sorry never had to spell that word.

I thought you said your dom was pissed off about it? What did he do when he saw whatever it is that she did to you?

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 5:47:30 AM

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its etiquette... and yes.. what does your Dom say because when it comes down to it.. it is his decision as to how you should handle it.

Personally, I would just ignore the person and let your dom give her the walk of shame should that be his feeling to do so.

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 5:48:29 AM

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He was pissed. Unfortunately because there was alot of people around He held his temper and had the Hostess take care of everything. Otherwise He would have probably went off on Her so bad He would have been arrested. But W/we left soon after. The Hostess is a very respected friend of ours and He did not want to make a bad scene in Her home. The other Domme however was told off by the Hostess. Thank you red for the spelling.

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 5:55:57 AM

shaylaSC

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He allowed another person to touch you and did not react to it?

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 5:58:21 AM

DaddiesLilGirl06

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no She did not touch me thank god. I was asked to take a pic with another subbie girl. This Domme put herself in the pic after my Dom was asked about taking the pic. She was not part of it until the very end.

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 5:59:33 AM

RedSavageSlave

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OK.. to answer your original question.. you do not need to show this person respect.. period end of discussion

However, that does not mean you should create scenes with her should you meet in public. You would simply ignore her, and if she does not have the sense to do the same, you either let your dom handle it or report it to the hostess of whereever you are (or DM if necessary).

Now that is of course assuming your owner agrees with me LOL

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 6:00:38 AM

RedSavageSlave

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<raises eyebrow> This is all over a picture that was taken?

OK

am I missing something here?

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 6:00:44 AM

shaylaSC

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Ummm ok.

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 6:01:04 AM

DaddiesLilGirl06

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Oh believe me red He does.

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 6:02:14 AM

DaddiesLilGirl06

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She did not ask to be in the pic as well as wanting to put the pic up on her website.

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RE: When to and when not to? That is the question. - 10/30/2006 6:07:35 AM

RedSavageSlave

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I stand by my original advice.. however, I guess I dont understand how a simple faux pas regarding taking a picture caused your owner to want to go off on her so bad that he might have been arrested.

Sounds a bit overly dramatic to me..

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