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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 9:24:38 AM

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 9:28:26 AM

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Just out of curiosity....what could you have possibly edited on that response?

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 9:29:52 AM

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A typo.

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 9:30:44 AM

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Of course, silly me.

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 9:42:12 AM

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I just want to speak up in my own defense. I did a thread about what to do with the profile and I never, for even a moment, thought of it as a marketing tool.

The narrative I had written felt stiff, and kind of random, like I was just putting in anything that popped into my head. It was frustrating me and I really wanted to know what people look for in a profile.

Even now, there's days where I just want to delete it and say "crap, what the f*ck do I know about who I am, or what I want?" instead. I really don't know what to put in a profile narrative. Anyway, some of the suggestions were helpful, but as a marketing tool, I don't think the thread itself had any effect one way or the other in the number of mails I received. It probably would have been better placed in the "off topic" area, though.

Along another line of thought, there's a sense in which the culture of the forums (and the bd/sm community, more generally) encourage a personalistic approach. When I have a question or comment, I usually ground it in my own experience as the foundation from which I speak. Part of this is because there's no general aggreement on anything around here and there's usually strong reactions against anyone who puts things in generalizing, objective terms.

But its also because I am pretty much convinced, on epistemological and historical grounds, that our own experience is pretty much all we have when it comes to knowledge about wiitwd, or any other activities engaged in by a minority of the population and have a history of being pathologized, criminalized, and defined as deviant. Any 'non-personal' knowledge about wiitwd can't be taken at face value, and must be sifted and filtered and critically evaluated.

I'd rather hear the story of someone complaining about their latest escapade or wondering if they're being taken or asking a question thats been answered over and over again. The only way we can tell if something is a general issue, is if a bunch of people have similar stories, concernes or questions. General issues are nothing more than the acculmulation of a lot of little, personal accounts of what happens in peoples day to day lives.

And, if someone wants a bit of attention, so be it. I don't have a problem with that.

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 10:09:15 AM

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gypsy, don't sweat it. it's like porn, i know it when i see it. there is just a different quality to a drive-by profile highlighter. Sometimes it's only obvious down the road, does that person stay and beome a contributing member, or do they post/ bitch/ scram all in one day?

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 10:16:40 AM

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 10:32:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: ToGiveDivine

I've noticed a trend where some people start posts that appear as a complaint, but really look like a way to get attention

Dommes wanting too much respect

Its not always the subs fault

Respected Profile?

Do you believe that dominance gives one the right to be selfish?

I could go on, but we've all seen these posts ... mean Dommes, scary Doms, rude subs, Pro-Dommes, etc.

Wouldn't it be better to just take these posts for what they are and collectively ignore them?

I'm interested in getting information and insight into the lifestyle from this forum, but too often conversations deteriorate into "bash and defense".

These seem more like Off Topic Discussions than General BDSM questions. I thought this forum would be more help, but it's just not all that helpful anymore.

As for those people that like to interject their humorous comments - thank you, we all need a good laugh.

i will stand by "me"... and my "selfish doms" thread too! *grin But now that i have been found out...*sulks* by one who obviously holds such a lofty vision and vantage point, *hangs head* i will not hide behind my thin veneer or facade...therefore i am shamed into a forced admission...i stand exposed...*gasps for da courage* and will enter my guilty plea...i stand before thy tribunal of judges...*have mercy on a girl* as one who has offended those who have duely sworn to the oath of claiming to want little to no attention...for i am weak...*sniff* i am...an ... admitted...attention junkie....*applause from fellow commrades* sighs of relief...thank you...thank you all...who have helped me realize my addiction....i tried to hide it, but was erroneously discovered...by a poser who, i believe may actually be the head and founder of the attention junkie special task force and sting operation...whooda thunk it? Yup! Tis true..tis twue...and now...*gasp* i will freely admit that i, in all my might, cannot seem to overcome this dreaded dis-ease that has permeated every fiber of my being...oh will i ever find healing and solace amongst the masses? Or, will i forever be doomed to living a life accursed with this dispicable need to be seen, heard, understood, accepted, tolerated, and...and.... Oh death where is thy sting? i shall stand...and try my best to not share anything that would garner even one shred of that dreaded attention... and further more...if i ever do...get weak in my resolve...i promise...i won't get caught by the attention junkie special task force ever again!!!! *weg* As she runs off, with an evil glint in her mind's eye...back...to the drawing board to devise a fiendishly wicked stealth modus operandi for the future take over of those who wish to deprive her of the attention for which she hungers...ah... Thanks TGD! that was fun...*grin

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 10:47:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: raiken

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ORIGINAL: ToGiveDivine

I've noticed a trend where some people start posts that appear as a complaint, but really look like a way to get attention

Dommes wanting too much respect

Its not always the subs fault

Respected Profile?

Do you believe that dominance gives one the right to be selfish?

I could go on, but we've all seen these posts ... mean Dommes, scary Doms, rude subs, Pro-Dommes, etc.

Wouldn't it be better to just take these posts for what they are and collectively ignore them?

I'm interested in getting information and insight into the lifestyle from this forum, but too often conversations deteriorate into "bash and defense".

These seem more like Off Topic Discussions than General BDSM questions. I thought this forum would be more help, but it's just not all that helpful anymore.

As for those people that like to interject their humorous comments - thank you, we all need a good laugh.

i will stand by "me"... and my "selfish doms" thread too! *grin But now that i have been found out...*sulks* by one who obviously holds such a lofty vision and vantage point, *hangs head* i will not hide behind my thin veneer or facade...therefore i am shamed into a forced admission...i stand exposed...*gasps for da courage* and will enter my guilty plea...i stand before thy tribunal of judges...*have mercy on a girl* as one who has offended those who have duely sworn to the oath of claiming to want little to no attention...for i am weak...*sniff* i am...an ... admitted...attention junkie....*applause from fellow commrades* sighs of relief...thank you...thank you all...who have helped me realize my addiction....i tried to hide it, but was erroneously discovered...by a poser who, i believe may actually be the head and founder of the attention junkie special task force and sting operation...whooda thunk it? Yup! Tis true..tis twue...and now...*gasp* i will freely admit that i, in all my might, cannot seem to overcome this dreaded dis-ease that has permeated every fiber of my being...oh will i ever find healing and solace amongst the masses? Or, will i forever be doomed to living a life accursed with this dispicable need to be seen, heard, understood, accepted, tolerated, and...and.... Oh death where is thy sting? i shall stand...and try my best to not share anything that would garner even one shred of that dreaded attention... and further more...if i ever do...get weak in my resolve...i promise...i won't get caught by the attention junkie special task force ever again!!!! *weg* As she runs off, with an evil glint in her mind's eye...back...to the drawing board to devise a fiendishly wicked stealth modus operandi for the future take over of those who wish to deprive her of the attention for which she hungers...ah... Thanks TGD! that was fun...*grin

Is it me, or is anyone else getting a twinge of sarcasm from this? ;-)

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 10:54:09 AM

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Aileen are you positive that you got that right??

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 12:10:04 PM

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i dont do math - so i dont know if its a double negative or a triple positive or if everything is just nulled out?

i dont remember the territorial thread??

Um.. and i want to create the Selective Attention Seekers Society (Sass)

We only want selective attention, when we want it, how we want it, where we want it and from who we want it. When we dont want it - it pisses us off. (maybe that would just be the brat society??)

Or ummm Attenion seekers for the shy (ASS again) which would be the same as above.

as far as negative posts, i generally try to limit my daily intake by scanning randomly. I honestly dont get why so many ppl get their panties twisted (or rope) about them. Why let something so minor upset you? OR the GOD almighty.... in the WRONG forum. God help us all the sky is falling.

<goes wandering off contemplating how to manipulate the escape of taking 2 tests today with out the teacher realizing it...... and wonders if she's already completed that task> hmm anyone want to tutor me for astronomy? My teacher is a physics teacher who teaches astronomy. I've already got him giving me loads of chances.. now if i can just pass those damn tests....

what were you guys talking bout again?

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 12:17:43 PM

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'sniff sniff' A thread that is half about me.. I know the op could go on which pleae do as im interested in seeing all the other attention seeking threads. So that we can all join together and perhaps make the ultimate attention seeking thread..

Now as others have said you start a thread to complain about threads. Its counter productive and you seem like the attention whore as you would know this would turn into a flame fest.

Some people will say 'no it wont, people are better then that, Its only the attention seekers that will do that'. Sorry but that is not the case.

Someone would probabley say im going to hijack this thread but when the op had examples , half of them are my topics so im not really hijacking crap.I am yet again defending myself from personnal hits. Remember he did say

I've noticed a trend where some people start posts that appear as a complaint, but really look like a way to get attention .

Exactly what this thrad is too.

So togivedivine.. Habe you found a domme though this site yet? Or are you still looking? Looking at your profile id say your still looking?

Now I wonder why the other domme's have not just said this is jjust another submissive looking for attention? Since thats all it is. He has followed my advice which I said in posts and do the opposite to what I write and just attack myself and you will win people over.

Congratulations, there is hope for you yet..

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 4:52:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Aileen are you positive that you got that right??

Absolutely positive, I think.

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 4:59:01 PM

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It does happen with a fair degree of regularity, however much like abdominal gas, this too will pass.

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 5:10:24 PM

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. . . .there sure are a lot of posts that are designed more to get people to check thier profiles, guerilla marketing i guess.

Mavis, that's an insightful comment.
Not sure whether guerilla marketing, and the effort to try to get people to check one's profile, is totally a bad thing -- but maybe that effort belongs somewhere else ? [anybody have any suggestion about where ?}

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 5:29:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

So your negative post about other negative posts, according to math, would then become a positive post, huh?
Negative x negative = positive.
How nice...a positive, negative post.

Except, the negative post about a negative post had 3 negative posts included in it.

negative x negative x negative x negative x negative = negative.

Do the math.

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 5:29:59 PM

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It belongs wherever someone decides to put it.

I think if we are all honest, we all want someone to find our post interesting and to check our profiles, maybe even write a friendly hello. Otherwise, we would have no profiles.

So it becomes a question of methods, and even there, a question of degrees, possibly even a question of the poster.

If someone with 3497 posts and a funny track record asks why he can't find a Domme, it's more likely to be perceived as funny than if a newbie does the same. I could post it in humour, someone else would get ridiculed.

Or no?

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 5:32:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: raiken
But now that i have been found out...*sulks* by one who obviously holds such a lofty vision and vantage point, *hangs head* i will not hide behind my thin veneer or facade...therefore i am shamed into a forced admission...i stand exposed...*gasps for da courage* and will enter my guilty plea...i stand before thy tribunal of judges...*have mercy on a girl* as one who has offended those who have duely sworn to the oath of claiming to want little to no attention...

*cough* Fine fine fine. Next time just post this kinky fantasy straight away in a thread called "I've been a Very Bad Girl" and everyone will have a much better time.

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 5:34:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: RedSavageSlave

I am the self proclaimed "Attention Whore Extraordinaire" ... I make no apologies for this and stand completely unashamed~

<grins>

~grins~...I thought whores didn't spend all that much time standing...if they're any good? ~running~

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RE: Attention Seekers - 10/30/2006 5:34:59 PM

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