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heart broken? - 10/30/2006 8:08:21 AM

Tine11

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About 9 mounths back i started to a couple from this site adn we hit it off, and it just coninued to feel right even after meet. The only problem is that my family has forced them retreat inwards, and to break off the relionship wiht me, just because they disagree with me on whether or not a poly relainship is ok. I loved the couple so deepely that i now feel i was abonded, despite the fact that i understand why they did what they did. My family since has does nothing but critize me for who i am and the choices i made. I can not do anything about ither my family or the couple. I am just at a loss right now with how to deal with my pain and the feeling of abondendment i have gotten from both sides.

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RE: heart broken? - 10/30/2006 8:18:31 AM

RedSavageSlave

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Ok.. with no profile showing I cannot see how old you are.. but I will say this..

If your allowing your family to interfere in your relationships, then perhaps this is something you need to address within yourself. Sometimes families are great supportive people and sometimes they are not. You have to decide which is more important..

The only words of comfort I can offer right now is to remember that time does heal..and others will come into your life. Just live each day as fully as you can and hopefully these thoughts of abandonment wont overwhelm you as you heal.

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RE: heart broken? - 10/30/2006 9:14:22 AM

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I do not know your age and that to me is just one of the factors to offer any advice or opinion. The other thing I would want to know that might coincide with age is, were your parents just against this because it was different or did they have other reasons like maybe you were going to be making very big changes in your life like giving up a career, schooling or something else parents have big issues with.

If the only reason was your parents just not accepting different, then you have to decide what is best for you. If being with a couple makes you the happiest then pursue that, but be prepared to have a strained relationship with your family. Parents are human too. They are wise but also imperfect. In the end you must follow your own path, and hopefully with your parents support from the start or gained through time.

As far as the pain, time does heal most wounds and your happiness and destiny is within you and not others. Allow yourself to be mad and sad but do not let them ever be an excuse for bad decisions and self pity. Deal and get back on the bike. Your life is what you make of it and the older a person gets the less what others think will become less and less powerful.

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