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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

This leads people often to thinking that if youa re showing off, it must be because you lack some security.

I like showing off in my costumes- it's fun, it's exhibitionism, it's fun for the whole family.

Showing off is not a horrible thing.  I endorse it fully.  We SHOULD be proud and happy to be out in a public space and enjoying the energy it provides.

I have lots of personal experience in the DC scene and know firsthand that the majority of the women are very overweight AND that there are some people who are rude beyond belief and WILL try and cut people down for being younger and better looking than they are. 

It's so funny how (women especially) go on ando n about being PROUD of ourselves and not being doormats...and then the second someone actually makes a step and says "I am hot stuff and I don't like when non-hot stuff people are rude to me" that person gets shot down.  Such back stabbers...

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

This leads people often to thinking that if youa re showing off, it must be because you lack some security.

I like showing off in my costumes- it's fun, it's exhibitionism, it's fun for the whole family.

Showing off is not a horrible thing.  I endorse it fully.  We SHOULD be proud and happy to be out in a public space and enjoying the energy it provides.

I have lots of personal experience in the DC scene and know firsthand that the majority of the women are very overweight AND that there are some people who are rude beyond belief and WILL try and cut people down for being younger and better looking than they are. 

It's so funny how (women especially) go on ando n about being PROUD of ourselves and not being doormats...and then the second someone actually makes a step and says "I am hot stuff and I don't like when non-hot stuff people are rude to me" that person gets shot down.  Such back stabbers...

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
The thing is that this jewel person posted that she thought fat people were disgusting. That is her right to believe that, but people that are fat have the right to call her anything they would like and be disgusted by her in their turn. I thought she was a little bit pot calling the kettle black to be honest. Whining about being judged and then judging other people... but that was just my opinion.

If this happens to me in the scene because I am not a BBW , well I do not think I would care. I do what I do to please me and mine, no one else. I certainly would not be disgusted by others around me.

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think there's a difference between judging someone and then publically stating that judgement.  I might think someone is the rudest, most disgusting thing I've ever known- but you'd never know it because of my cordial and sweet manner towards them.

Someone has the right to consider me ugly- but it's still horrendous of them to SAY it to me in a public place.

I don't know for sure if Jewel stated her beliefs publically to any particular person, but that doesn't excuse the rude behavior on the parts of others.  As I said in my first reply to her- if she really IS a nice person with a good personality, then she'll soon be done with the rudeness and find a good circle of friends in the area.

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ORIGINAL: imtempting

I agree with ladyalbatross.

It is also the rude people that normally speak first. Eg. Alot of movies have the bitchy pretty gals teasing the ugly gal who ends up becoming the school hottie. Well in this case its the obese people who tease the skinny people who end up either getting very defensive ( i.e bitchy ) or depressed and not return or become depressed and binge eat to be like them..

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Alot of movies

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ORIGINAL: Arpig

Oh come on julia, he states quite clearly where he gets his info:

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Alot of movies

And with an unimpeachable source like that, the rest of us will just have to overlook our actual experiences

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ORIGINAL: Arpig
You know, reading through this, I am so very glad I am a man right now (scrathes belly and walks past the mirror without even glancing at it)

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ORIGINAL: Mikal
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and varies from person to person. Also, fat (or lack thereof) doesn't make a person "hot". Their attitude does. And humid weather.