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hsagnev -> Race important? (11/3/2006 11:00:42 PM)
In another post the subject of looks was put forth and since we’re on the subject I was wondering to what extent race plays in finding play partners. Are you selective with regards to race? Are you only interested in certain races? What about mixed race? Or does it just depend upon the situation?

stef -> RE: Race important? (11/3/2006 11:04:07 PM)
No. No. What about it? It depends on the person, not the situation. ~stef

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Race important? (11/3/2006 11:04:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hsagnev Are you selective with regards to race? Nope. quote: Are you only interested in certain races? Nope, although I do find general attractions/lesser attractions. quote: What about mixed race? Cool Read this essay and the other threads and replace "race" with every mention of "age" Reposted: Age matters as much as it matters to you. On many levels, age doesn't really mean much when it comes to the individual. There really are lots of mature, ready, and open younger people who fit in very well with mature, ready and open older people. That being said, one's age IS something of an indicator about them- the culture you grow up in is a HUGE influence on your interests and perspectives, the politics, diseases, education style, music, fashion, art, books, they all get experienced in different ways in different times at different ages. That's not a killjoy- I amaze people all the time by bringing up movie and song trivia from decades before I was born (my mother raised me right). And for someone older who ENJOYS discovering new things, a younger person is perfect as a gateway into the next generation of cultural discoveries. As well there IS something to be said for the stability of the old. Younger people have to go through life stages- finding yourself, job, family, establishing yourself as an adult (a process which is much farther extended than in previous generations, again not a bad thing necessarily). They often don't have the same problems and responsibilities as older people- ex's, kids, health care, etc. There's an element of rapid change and instability in being with someone younger. Finally, none of these has to matter to any great degree at all. We ARE all still people and May'December relationships are a LOT more common than people believe, and they can work out just great. It's not all just older men in mid-life crisis and younger women sponging. We each individually have our own histories, quirks, problems, perspectives and joys. Age won't take that away and it doesn't make it impossible for a relationship to work. As long as you keep everything in perspective, and really examine things, as long as you can use the strengths that you have together and become a cohsive unit- then age can be just another part of the person, something you sometimes love and something you sometimes can't stand. http://www.collarchat.com/m_550824/mpage_1/key_age/tm.htm#550893 Does age matter in a sub? http://www.collarchat.com/m_441624/mpage_1/key_age/tm.htm#441638 Does age make experience? http://www.collarchat.com/m_389399/mpage_2/key_age/tm.htm#389616 Age since weight is being done http://www.collarchat.com/m_366036/mpage_1/key_age/tm.htm#366124 Should age matter for a sub? http://www.collarchat.com/m_336445/mpage_1/key_age/tm.htm#336457 Yes another ? about age http://www.collarchat.com/m_325491/mpage_1/key_age/tm.htm#325694 Does age difference matter? http://www.collarchat.com/m_290637/mpage_2/key_age/tm.htm#291554 What is the oldest dom you would consider? http://www.collarchat.com/m_220984/mpage_1/key_age/tm.htm#220997 What is it with girls having masters double their ages? http://www.collarchat.com/m_209024/mpage_3/key_age/tm.htm#212527 Does age matter? (2)

imtempting -> RE: Race important? (11/3/2006 11:19:33 PM)
Race would play as much a part in the lifestyle or play partners as it would in dating people not in the lifestyle. Many people will not reply as it can lead to being called a racist. Personally I do not care what race or colour their skin are..

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Race important? (11/3/2006 11:41:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hsagnev In another post the subject of looks was put forth and since we’re on the subject I was wondering to what extent race plays in finding play partners. Are you selective with regards to race? No. It is an attraction thing, not a racial thing. There are things about someones look that I am or am not drawn to, regardless of the race of the person posessing them. quote: Are you only interested in certain races? No, anyone who I find attractive is fair game. quote: What about mixed race? Being American, we are so mixed already, its hard to realy say we arent al mixed races somewhere along the line, so no, not really. quote: Or does it just depend upon the situation? It always depends on the situation and the person in question. DV

leakylee -> RE: Race important? (11/3/2006 11:42:29 PM)
Isnt this just something that falls into the realm of personal taste? I know I have a preference for latin, but that partly stems from the fact that I myself am mixed. I also just happen to like the darker skin. There is something about it up against the pasty irish pale mess that decided to come through, that truly is extremely visually pleasing. But I honestly think it is more about the person than anything else. People are people not thier race. love and light Lee

Lordandmaster -> RE: Race important? (11/3/2006 11:47:28 PM)
That's a very important point. Most race discourse in America involves fictitious constructions of race that have more to do with various people's peculiar forms of hatred than with race or genetics. quote: ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire quote: What about mixed race? Being American, we are so mixed already, its hard to realy say we arent al mixed races somewhere along the line, so no, not really.

julietsierra -> RE: Race important? (11/4/2006 1:00:50 AM)
Race matters to me. I used to love to race. But as I matured, somewhere along the line, so did my breasts, and now, if I even jog, my breasts get in the way. And frankly, I don't want to put out an eye just because I like to race. Oh wait...that's not the topic of this thread..... Sorry.

LadyOunce -> RE: Race important? (11/4/2006 1:11:16 AM)
I'm sure somewhere in the back of my head there might be some part of me that thinks on it though I don't think it's of that most importance. When it comes to messages and pictures on here, I look more towards such things as a grasp of the English language, an ability to prove one has read my profile when saying how much we have in common and the like. If someone is doing these things and others that I look for first, race isn't important.

MissUnleaded -> RE: Race important? (11/4/2006 1:55:53 AM)
To be honest, I am more attracted to members of some races than others. Some races I find very aesthetically unpleasing. Some races I am fairly neutral about. There have been some cultural groups with which I have had such overwhelmingly negative experiences that it would be very hard for me to trust one of them. I don't engage in casual play with anyone, but certainly race and culture would factor into it if I did. There are always going to be exceptions of course, but as a general rule.

BBBTBW -> RE: Race important? (11/4/2006 2:09:54 AM)
I am only attracted to the human race. As far as the pigment in a person's skin, I tend to be more drawn toward those with lighter pigmentation when seeking a submissive/slave. This has evolved over the years and come back full circle. In my journies and experiences I have found that those with a lighter pigmentation are more willing to submit to my style and interests than those with darker pigmentation. Ms Loren

gypsygrl -> RE: Race important? (11/4/2006 3:50:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hsagnev In another post the subject of looks was put forth and since we’re on the subject I was wondering to what extent race plays in finding play partners. As others have pointed out, the idea of race is a fiction, and a nasty one, at that. Dispite my appearance, I don't identify as white, but this has more to do with my cultural identification than my skin color. Culturally, I come from a background that, historically, has been on uneasy terms with the wasp culture of the United States and was raised to have a certain skepticism towards that culture. I don't know that this is a big deal in finding short term play partners, except for the fact that I am not drawn to blonde haired, blue eyed types but, I'm pretty sure it would be a factor in a longer term relationship where issues of compatibility are more important.

Focus50 -> RE: Race important? (11/4/2006 4:18:36 AM)
I'm not specifically selective but there are some races I'm not attracted to at all. Frankly, I prefer my own race (ok, caucasians or close enough) yet I often find myself drawn to attractive Asian women, too. Though I don't really come across too many in my own country, many Latins and Hispanics present as quite attractive, too! Mixed race is not an issue to me. Yes, the particular situation makes a big difference. I might specifically disregard an internet contact because of her race (or build or whatever) but meeting that person by chance in r/l might make the world of difference.... Who really knows till it happens but r/l is the best gauge for mutual attraction. Do my preferences or, more relevant, my specific dislikes make me a racist? I don't really care; I just know what I like when I see it. Focus.

orfunboi -> RE: Race important? (11/4/2006 4:24:17 AM)
Thanks for the visual of you jogging [sm=banana.gif] You put a smile on this boi's face that should last all day long quote: ORIGINAL: julietsierra Race matters to me. I used to love to race. But as I matured, somewhere along the line, so did my breasts, and now, if I even jog, my breasts get in the way. And frankly, I don't want to put out an eye just because I like to race. Oh wait...that's not the topic of this thread..... Sorry.

Kalira -> RE: Race important? (11/4/2006 4:31:04 AM)
I am going on the side here that will probably get me blasted but yes, race, for me, does play an important factor. It's for personal reasons and preferences though ( of which I don't think need to be aired in this thread ) [:D]

Focus50 -> RE: Race important? (11/4/2006 4:43:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: julietsierra <snip> if I even jog, my breasts get in the way. And frankly, I don't want to put out an eye just because I like to race. This is exactly why us safety conscious Doms like to have those suckers tied down nice and secure.... Focus.

mnottertail -> RE: Race important? (11/4/2006 5:13:56 AM)
The battle goes not always to the strongest, nor the race to the swiftest, but that's the way to bet 'em. (attributed to Runyon)

FangsNfeet -> RE: Race important? (11/4/2006 5:18:29 AM)
Race like any other is a physical feature of preference. Height, weight, gender, and even cock size. What can I say, different strokes for different folks. Remember that people of different colors have various fermone and sweat smells much like the difference in blonds, brunetts, and red heads. If you're not turned on by someone, I don't see it making you a bigget, jerk, or racist. Everyone should just be with what makes them happy.

Sirandlittle1 -> RE: Race important? (11/4/2006 5:21:45 AM)
Well im proud to say, that race most certainly factor into who im attracted to. Im a sucker for a certain body shape in the male, that you only find in Moiri men. In black people, i have a certain preference for the beautiful ebony skin of the sudanese. And their hight! Indian women have me mesmerised with their eyes. Living in Australia, ive met many slovanians. My god, they are so passionately beautiful. Yep, race definately would come into things. There are also certain ethnic looks, im not endeared to, but each to their own. Choice is a good thing!

orfunboi -> RE: Race important? (11/4/2006 5:36:39 AM)
i'm always willing to run along with her and hold them in place...... just cause i'm a helpful kinda boi that way......

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