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ExtremeOwnerIL -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/6/2006 3:57:53 AM)

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ORIGINAL: NightWindWhisper
And btw why can't I write in word and copy it to here?  (Firefox?)


Instead of Ctrl-V, use Shift-Insert.

Regards,
EO



Celeste43 -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/6/2006 8:05:42 AM)

His disappointment is enough. If it isn't, then the relationship has a lot of problems that need to be addressed first. With that said, sometimes we have hashed out a misunderstanding and he has forgiven me, but I've been unable to forgive myself. At that point a light spanking was administered just to allow me to cry it out.

Beyond that, I don't go around deliberately doing things to piss off someone I care about. In all cases, what's happened here is miscommunication. And I have to say that punishing me because he didn't explain what he wanted, or that it was not just a comment but an order, would not be well received.

As far as bringing me to the point of orgasm and then giving me physical pain, what would quickly happen is that he would be unable to arouse me in any context. So if he wants a woman who finds him nondesirable and finds sex with him unpleasant, then that's certainly the way to go. Unfortunately with this technique, you don't discover that you've turned a woman's sex drive off until it's too late to turn it back on.



NightWindWhisper -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/6/2006 9:13:35 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Celeste43

His disappointment is enough. If it isn't, then the relationship has a lot of problems that need to be addressed first. With that said, sometimes we have hashed out a misunderstanding and he has forgiven me, but I've been unable to forgive myself. At that point a light spanking was administered just to allow me to cry it out.

Beyond that, I don't go around deliberately doing things to piss off someone I care about. In all cases, what's happened here is miscommunication. And I have to say that punishing me because he didn't explain what he wanted, or that it was not just a comment but an order, would not be well received.

As far as bringing me to the point of orgasm and then giving me physical pain, what would quickly happen is that he would be unable to arouse me in any context. So if he wants a woman who finds him nondesirable and finds sex with him unpleasant, then that's certainly the way to go. Unfortunately with this technique, you don't discover that you've turned a woman's sex drive off until it's too late to turn it back on.


Therin lies a dominant's sense of balance.  Since you perceive "pain" from a light spanking, your dominant would know that this tactic would not work for you...or would utilize methodology that some others would not perceive as pain, and use that as a starting point.  From my experience, interestingly, this has always worked for me, except in one case where what would have happened to you happened to my girl.  In that case the amount of nipple pressure that she enjoyed/tolerated numerous times was applied, and indeed, the erotic aura immediately dissipated.  I had only been in the relationship for two months and did not know that there were a few certain days in her cycle when her nipples became an order of magnitude more senstitive than normal.  Since that time I make sure that I know my sub's cycle.  There is always something to learn.



Athos -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/6/2006 10:29:56 AM)

Probably the most cruel punishement is ignoring the submissive....



CheM -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/6/2006 12:18:50 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Athos

Probably the most cruel punishement is ignoring the submissive....

I second that... my personal favourite (although I don't enjoy it at all) is to react the same way I'd react with anyone else... namely, just sit down with them and tell them how much they've dissapointed me. If it works with everyone, I'm sure my submissive will take it even more to heart.



KatyLied -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/6/2006 12:58:06 PM)

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Probably the most cruel punishement is ignoring the submissive....


Or perhaps the laziest punishment.



Archer -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/6/2006 1:16:18 PM)

Rather than usethe term and misnomer of ignoring the slave/ submissive I prefer to use the idea f conciously not allowing them to serve me.
I'll get my own drink take off my own shoes maybe even cook my own supper. With them knowing that I am doing these tings for a reason if it's reached that point then they very well may not be serving me properly, with a concious thought towards that service, and thus I'd rather not have them serve me at all.

I'll speak to them, enguage them in conversation do things with them but I'll simply not accept service from them. For me that's not ignoring them.



MisPandora -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/6/2006 1:27:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Archer

I'll speak to them, enguage them in conversation do things with them but I'll simply not accept service from them. For me that's not ignoring them.

And THAT makes a service submissive absolutely nuts.



Archer -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/6/2006 1:37:40 PM)

Good cause service with the wrong attitude makes me nuts, LOL
Besides it has never failed to get the point across.



Lashra -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/6/2006 2:09:11 PM)

Well it depends on what he has done. I make punishment to fit the crime. So far I've only had to punish him once and I made him wear tighty whities mens underwear that were too small for a week. He HATED it! lol But it taught him a lesson.

~Lashra



happypervert -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/6/2006 4:25:05 PM)

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Of course my twisted mind had to go off into the relms few seem to dare go.
Kneeling on cooked soggy rice. EEEEWWWWWWWWWWWWW

Could be worse -- you could have imagined them kneeling on Condoleza.



onlythewindknows -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/6/2006 5:00:24 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Athos

Probably the most cruel punishement is ignoring the submissive....


Nah that doesn't hurt, it just makes me feel transparent, which is neither here nor there. Just... nothing.




Nitedom -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/7/2006 4:26:20 PM)

I may have missed the response that covered this, but I originally read the question as in what is your favorite "play" punishment. And the responses seem to run from punishments that are really part of the dynamic of the relationship, to those of emotional wounding.
I would ask the question that if two people join together in a relationship based on a desire to give and receive strap-on sex, is it really punishment when you become cross with the other person and bend him over for a high hard one?  It would almost be more of a punishment if you never became cross and subjected him to such treatment.  That's true of a lot of "punishment" It actually part of the dynamic which is sought in the relationship, and I put it in a different catagory then I do punishment that comes from emotional wounding.
When I think of real punishment, the type that grows out of displeasure or disappointment with the other person, then nothing is worse in my opinion then challenges to our emotional bond,  Think bout the times when your spiritual communion has been in danger of being broken.  Can there be anything that is worse as a punishment then that sickly empty nihilistic feeling deep down inside when you start to feel this separation.  Withdrawal from your love, the seperating of your spirits, there is no worse punishment then this.  I'd take 1000 physical punishments in order not to have to feel that emotional and spiritual hell. 
And perhaps that sounds strange coming from a Dom.  We usually think in terms of Dom providing punishments and submissives receiving it.  But emotional distancing can be generated by either and its pain suffered by either.  I know of no worse real punishment. 



MrrPete -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/9/2006 4:19:18 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MrrPete

I don't think it necessary to repeat this in  the Ask a Mistress forum.

So Master or Mistress jion in with your favs please indicate the gender
of the submissive on the receiving end.

Personally I don't have a favorite because I design a punishment
unique to that submissive woman.

I don't think, for example, corporal punishment on a pain slut is rather
ineffective. Especially if they're topping from the bottom.

I'd rather have them do something they don't like to do. This is where
the "dislikes" list helps.


Although it doesn't seem to have made a difference in the responses I still feel I should make a correction to the comment shaded blue above.

I [word removed] think, for example, corporal punishment on a pain slut is rather
ineffective. Especially if they're topping from the bottom.

Punishment does not have to be corporal in nature. AS has been mentioned simply withdrawing ones Dominance can be very effective if and when needed.






MrrPete -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/9/2006 4:46:13 AM)

"play" punishment was not mentioned and was not intended in my OP but many posts gave both answers.

One thing that might not have been mentioned. "The Look" There are subs that just giving them "The Look" is more than enough punishment.

Just knowing they have displeased you hurts them. When you feel they have beat themselves up enough it is parmount to forgive and restore them to equilibrium and do it no later than bedtime.



MagiksSlave -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/9/2006 5:32:25 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MrrPete

"play" punishment was not mentioned and was not intended in my OP but many posts gave both answers.

One thing that might not have been mentioned. "The Look" There are subs that just giving them "The Look" is more than enough punishment.

Just knowing they have displeased you hurts them. When you feel they have beat themselves up enough it is parmount to forgive and restore them to equilibrium and do it no later than bedtime.



Master has "the look" thing, but sometimes when we are fooling around he trys the look on me and it makes me giggle wich is bad because I know the look means "cool it now" but sometimes when Im in that hyper active play mode I just feel silly about everything. The good thing is he understands that and doesnt get to upset when I giggle he just intensafies the glare and reaches out and pinches a nipple, that usualy works... a little tooooo well!!!

He never lets me think he is mad at me or upset with me, even when I have inpending discapline life continues as normal he knows how sensative I am and that I beat myself up far worse then he ever could!!

Magik's slave

Edited because the l and k button are far to close together



MistressSassy66 -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/14/2006 7:33:38 PM)

I dont have a favorite.
Some of the things I have done are spankings with the thick wood paddle,the bullwhip and the giant shoe horn have been effective.The most effective for one was not talking to him for two weeks.
It generally depends on each submissive and the crime commited.



akisha -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/14/2006 7:54:05 PM)

I can honestly say that if my Dom or Domme stopped talking to me for 2 weeks i'd probably consider the relationship over.

But that's just my reaction. I don't believe withdrawl of communication is a stable form of punishment.



SunshineinVA -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/17/2006 9:23:17 AM)

Definitely.  This is what worked with me as a child, and what works with me now.  Physical punisment turns me on.  Temporary disenfranchisement always works with me.  I am a sub who likes to test.

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ORIGINAL: slavejali

If there is a need for punishment, Master says that just means that I am failing in my role within the relationship, this isn't an enjoyable moment for either of us.

I rarely get "punished". If I do its usually something like not being able to use "ebay" cause I overspent, or had done so without asking him or whatever (punishment to fit the crime".

Another "punishment" Master has for me, is not to punish me at all. How this works is, as I need to be punished this means I am not living up to my submissive/slave role within the relationship, so he withdraws his "dominance" and "does nothing."..or he might go start doing things I would normally do...like go and make his own coffee or put a load of clothes in the laundry.....fits the crime too hey? Makes me accutely aware of where I want my place to be in the relationship and modifies my actions and thoughts quickly....ugh......this punishment too, is not enjoyable to either of us.



Mikal -> RE: What's your favorite punishment? (11/17/2006 10:51:43 AM)

I'm not one for bona fide punishments... I don't agree with them. However, I'm somewhat sadistic (it turns me on to inflict pain on others). So, if my partner in crime happens to like recieving pain... [:)] Life is good & I'll look for reasons to inflict it. [sm=crop.gif] Basically, my ideas of punishments are those that center around playing/scening. In an long term relationship, there shouldn't be any more punishment than there would be in a vanilla relationship - that is, NONE. If my partner is so juvenile as to 'need' punishments, the relationship is over. I don't do kids.
 
Just my bit on life [:D]
 
Oh, and for scenes, I like floggers & crops, complete immobilization of the sub so I can do whatever I please [sm=evil.gif], various instruments that make life very uncomfortable for the immobilized sub, and substances that induce burning sensations. [sm=hewah.gif]



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