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handsofpleasure -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/25/2005 12:49:28 PM)

no ones body is perfect, im sure he will enjoy seeing you naked much more than you think. Dont be embarassed, believe me hes thinking about how great you look naked and how much he would like to ............



mergingdreams -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/25/2005 1:03:28 PM)

Just wanted to say having read the posts and replys, I am glad your first meeting went well. As others have said is never easy being comfortable with ones body in front of another I do not believe. Takes time and trust. I am what most would consider slender but have body image problems myself so is not an issue just for BBW. Took me several months to be assured in my own mind that he was pleased with how I looked. I only have one mirror in my house over the bathroom sink because I hate looking at myself and avoid pictures of myself in general. The ones on my profile and such were taken because I was asked to and I put them in my profile to assist me with getting over my own feelings of how I look. So take heart you are not alone. *smiles*
~MD~



chainedgirl -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/25/2005 3:26:34 PM)

sweet, i've talked to a variety of men, scene and vanilla and they all say pretty much the same thing. When you are there with them and you are naked, they are NOT looking at your wobbly bits. They desire the person in front of them. Men are 'simple' creatures when it comes to these sorts of things. Dom or no, they all have a part of them that deep down feels incredibly grateful that a woman is willing to show her all to them. Ok, i know there are some out there who would disagree with this, and like anything else a simple statement doesn't cover everyone but as a general rule it seems to be true.

When you are there and naked, they are NOT assessing you according to some weird kind of scale, but they are turned on and loving every minute of everything they see. Be naked and shy, be naked and demure, be naked and a vixen, be naked and confidence, its all beautiful to them.

michelle



kyakitten -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/25/2005 8:29:21 PM)


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harmony3709 -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/25/2005 11:06:39 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: BeachMystress



This lifestyle is about trust. This is your first act of trust.. believing him when he tells you he is enchanted by you and wishes to see and use your body. Quit second guessing him. He knows what he wants. What he wants is you. *smiles*


So many of us have body image issues..........for me it's kind of an age/time/gravity thing. *groan*

This is a great quote though, Beach, and thank you for this perspective. I'll definitely take those words to heart next time I find myself in this situation.

Thanks,

[:)] harmony



sting516 -> RE: getting naked for the first time and body issues (2/26/2005 3:50:33 AM)

Body issues are a major thing for me...in recent years i've become about 50 pounds or so overweight...because i don't like my body, at least i think this is why, i have not enjoyed playing in front of others...back when i was in shape, being seen playing was no problem for me...in fact, i used to do some modeling for bondage photographers...so i understand the hesitation...that said, i also agree that men, myself included, will likely be so grateful that you want to be with them, any perceived body imperfection will be gladly overlooked...i've been with a few women in my time...at one point dating a Penthouse model, who i didn't continue with because there was no chemistry, and someone also about 75 pounds overweight that i fell in love with because there was...worry about how you feel you look on the inside, which i know is much easier said than done, as it's something i struggle with as well.

Hope this has been some help.


sting



dsamethyst -> RE: getting naked for the first time (5/16/2005 1:06:38 AM)

hi i can understand your quandry.....if you look at beach mistresses avatar....you will see a darn near close copy of how i view myself....ive birthed a half dozen babies....and my belly looks like an autopsy to me...I have never been admonished or looked at with didain in the lifestyle...now out in the vanilla world...that is a whole new world...guys expect bo dereks and farah faucetts...but pretty much most fellas that have been in the game it is that we all play have figured out that women have pasts and we have lumps and bumps and basically it is becasue of the ment hat i have played with that i have the positive self image i do even with the lumps and bumps...

now the first time i got nekkid with Sir....ah I was about as nervous as a long tailed cat in a room full of rockers...im lumpy and curvy and well he's JUST NOT...he's lean and toned and well an ass that wont quit i have an ass that wont quit either it just keeps getting bigger and bigger! LOL any how the easiest thing for me was to just DO It like Nike ads say! and once i stood there in all my glory red hair ablazing it just didtn matter...of course i did assume the beauty queen stance.... one foot slightly in front of the other and the hips twisted so that you dont get the full view from my former hay days...but none the less i just did it...



Rayne58 -> RE: getting naked for the first time (5/16/2005 5:25:40 AM)

Master loves to watch me get naked.......I'm shy anyway and I have a belly and stretch marks and small boobs. I'm not overweight but birthing 2 kids has taken its toll. I still blush and it's been almost 18 months!

To Him though I am beautiful. I respond to His touch like I have to no other. Even though I'm 46 years old I was relatively sexually inexperienced when I met Him. We are still enjoying discovering what makes me tick.....my whole body seems to be one big erogenous zone [8D] He has given me my first orgasm with a partner and my first experiences of multiples. The look on His face as He watches me is just sublime and I forget all about being shy and nervous![:D]



fourpeas -> RE: getting naked for the first time (5/16/2005 10:17:54 AM)

I'm really comfortable with my body, yes I have stretch marks and everything, but since I have been a professional dancer for 5 years I just had to get over it REALLY QUICKLY in order to get my swerve on...

Having done nude modeling for artists and photographers as well I can state that for me it is the mental aspect of being mentally naked that is what is so overwhelming for me. I have been in a class full of art students, completely buck naked and looking all around them, I knew that it was *I* who had the power. It was *I* who was making them feel uncomfortable, by staring in their eyes and feeling very comfortable in my nudity.

What is so vulnerable for me is being with him and knowing that I don't have any defenses. It's just me, and not only am I naked but I'm truly naked in the sense that I am choosing to be, and choosing to let down all those defenses and submit... it makes me feel like a shy little girl. [:)] I agree with the statement that they care more about what's in between your ears.

Ladies and gents the sexiest part of your whole body is your brain... Never forget that! If you feel sexy, then YOU ARE. I don't care what you look like. I have seen BBW dancing their a$$es off in clubs and there are stick-skinny model types standing against the wall... because they don't have that extra oomph, which is confidence. Confidence and knowing that you're sexy is what makes you sexy. And it sounds like you are feeling sexier and sexier by the day ;)



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: getting naked for the first time (5/16/2005 10:40:47 AM)

Plus as you can see, everyone's far too worried about their OWN bodies to care much about how YOU really look.



fourpeas -> RE: getting naked for the first time (5/16/2005 10:50:03 AM)

ah, jeez. Emerald: I hope that didn't come off as being totally narcissistic and all about "me" blah blah blah... that's not how I was intending it to come across. I just think that it starts in one's mind and one's intention. Another thing -- as a dancer (not a ballerina) I also really learned to appreciate the function of the body, and I started to really love my body for what it can DO and not necessarily how it looks. I started to see dancers with ripped muscles and ugly feet and it made me appreciate the power that the body has to *do* and not just to look.

Our bodies are damn amazing when you think about it. I go nuts thinking about all the blood cells and things that fight off infection, etc. Bodies rock!



Mia1978 -> RE: getting naked for the first time (5/16/2005 1:07:20 PM)

I haven't read all the other replies, hope I don't repeat any suggestions. When I got naked for a man for the first time, I prepared myself by standing infront of a body mirror. I stood in different positions to see what I thought were the most flattering, tried putting my hair in differnt styles, different make-up applications... then I watched my face in the mirror as I saw myself. Sometimes the way you see yourself portrays how others see you. If you can get yourself to have a sexy glare in your eye while looking at yourself, then you will be all the more sexy when he looks at you. We all have our insecurities, but seeing past them yourself is the first step to believing that others can see past them.



tabbycat -> RE: getting naked for the first time (5/18/2005 3:48:21 PM)

This thread has been a great read for me! I'm glad to see I'm not alone in stuggling sometimes with body image. Found some good tips- and wonderful reminders here. That has been what I've been told is my biggest thing I have to work on- self-confidence. lol [:@]



subversiveone -> RE: getting naked for the first time (5/19/2005 9:42:47 AM)

im totally late but just gotta share this funny story please,

on our second date we decided to get into the hot tub...i shyly asked to borrow some shorts or something...He laughed...and explained that no one in His household wears clothing in the pool or hot tub. (He has many housemates mind you)... so all 230 +/- pounds of me climbed up into this thing butt naked... and sat there discussing old movies w/Him and another male Master in the house... five minutes into it i forgot i was naked and basically spread my legs! ooops No one even noticed. it was like being on a nudist colony. He was very open about it and we've been totally naked ever since. i've been forewarned that a pool party is in the near future and i will be pushed very unladylike into the water in front of everyone! <blush> ever seen the movie Shallow Hal? lol

xoxo



BeautifulDoll -> RE: getting naked for the first time (5/19/2005 10:34:28 PM)

When i first came to live with my Master about three weeks ago, i was very shy about being naked around him the first time and i still am, but not as bad, the more i do it the more comfortable i am becoming and the less worried i am about the way i look. i realize it does not matter what i think because it makes my Master happy and to me that is all that matters.



welshlady85 -> RE: getting naked for the first time (5/22/2005 7:43:16 PM)

I know how you feel...I'm scared of getting naked too [&:]
Hopefully a person will want me for my mind, personality, ability than what I look like...and look like naked.



RaeRae39 -> RE: getting naked for the first time (5/27/2005 8:17:48 AM)


Wow, this was very enlightening to read~! I know I have my own struggles with body image as well, but I guess we women are really hard on ourselves, we certainly have enough media telling us what we should look like.
I have emailed or spoken to many doms/masters who have varying opinions on a subs body.
Several have told me that there are too many fat subs, oh yes, brutally honest with that one, .....that they just don't get turned on by over weight women. Some have grilled me if the pictures I have posted on my profile are indeed me~! Some ask, well how tall are you, and what exactly do you weigh? My ex Master even use to make comments to me about my body, grabbing any little fat area's he could find, or saying get your fat ass over here. Oh, yeah, that sent my self esteem souring{being sarcastic here}.
So, if you have a true dom/master that appreciates your mind and isn't so insistent about the package, what a blessing~!
by the way, I am average, not fat not thin, and at age 39, having had a child, I think, hey, I'm not 20 anymore, but I'm stil hot~!!
Raerae



mnottertail -> RE: getting naked for the first time (5/27/2005 8:34:28 AM)

I feel that in the main, women are as insecure about body image as men about penis size........just something that goes with the territory...............lol

Ron [8D]



ranscan -> RE: getting naked for the first time (6/1/2005 7:14:30 PM)

getting naked for the first time,
first let me say, nervousness is akin to excitement.
i am a nudist (10 years), i have been in the not so distant past an artist model (for four years), i have been in the lifestyle public for six years now and have played publicly in the nude, i am over 40 and not perfect in physical form, and yes i too still get nervous when faced with the experience of a disrobing for the first time before a new Domme/Top.
Will She be pleased by what She sees? Will She find me acceptable? i know that the concerns are projections of my own self image, that my fear is from within. E/everyone is beautifull, desirable, and perfect to and for S/someone and in reality D/s is about more than what Your body looks like, it is about the person inside, what Y/you bring to the relationship/scene (mind, heart, soul, intent, interests, abilities, desires, sense of humour, behavior, and body).
As long as Y/you have been truthfull about W/whom Y/you are (including Y/your physical form) then all should be fine, after all connection in D/s is more than physical, it is more complex than desire or wish.
Be well, be W/whom Y/you are, and most of all be proud, many never get to where Y/you are now going.
ranscan



chuk451 -> RE: getting naked for the first time (6/3/2005 10:46:28 AM)

u might tremble, but u must strip, and then show ur fat ugly body to him, including ur asshole.



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