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ORIGINAL: LeatherBentOne

We barter in life all the time because we are always looking for a pay-off, emotionally, physically, finacially, psychologically and sexually.  Few things would ever get done if we weren't willing to barter in some aspect of life, much less housework unless one enjoys it.  But, that's a barter in itself.  See what I mean?

Most definitely, I'd barter and do barter, especially with my sub.  That's what relationships are about.  You give me this; I'll give you that.  That's just the way life is.  Full of exchanges cuz nobody lives in a vacuum.  Well, unless you're a dust mite.

LBO

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ORIGINAL: RosaB
Sea, yes it is true, in the context of how it applies to ones long term needs, it wouldn't work, but if of a moment of just plain stress release for some people, I just wonder how it might work for some.

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ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion

Barter or whatever else you want to call it will cause things to become mechanical exchanges where one expects something in return for what it is they do & ultimately you end up with "you owe me one" sentiments.

I find this tit for tat interaction to severely undermine the dynamic that I have set up with those I interact with on various levels from intimacy to purely service. The relationship was set up with clearly defined expectations of both parties & also with regular intervals of modification if such is needed due to changes or growth.

If someone approaches me with the mindset that they will do a, b &/or c for me so long as they can expect to get 1, 2 &/or 3 back from me then the whole thing is starting off on the wrong foot & I don't see how finding balance will be possible. I am the dominant & by this I am the one who designs & implements what will take place within our relationship. Don't read this as if I do not establish rewards & such. I just see no point it setting up a system that offers a submissive the ability to manipulate the course of relationship. They either surrender to the path that I have set up or they keep right on walking, following their own path... that choice is of course theirs to make.

Besides, by keeping with the example offered, if a sub comes to me & thinks that offers of house cleaning, auto detailing, cooking, lawn service, handy man services or anything of the like, he/she will think wrong.. none of this appeals to me personally & all of which are day to day things that are already handled (either by me, another family member or hired help). Service, to me, comes from a much deeper place than mechanical skills.

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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

I love the barter system and use it often.

I have plenty for submissives to do,not just housework,but outside work also.
I have an outside wood furnace that holds a 3 foot log...its kinda fun to hook up the logs to the submissive as if they were a horse and have them drag logs out
of the woods( I have 8 acres of land loaded with trees) and so in that way you can have work incorporated into a scene.
I get My wood moved they get to be a horsie W/we both win.

I have some seclusion here which enables Me to have outside privacy to do
all sorts of things...