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getting in touch... - 2/5/2005 1:46:09 PM

match2u

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hug to all,

in case a sub/ slave get in touch with a prospective Dom/ Master

should the interest shown up by the sub/ slave in holding the conversation, interest, in on-going talking

or is it a two- way street, also shown up from the Dom/ Master too

as long as a collar is not given?

i am grateful for Y/your experience !

.... thanks a lot for the replies

petra

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RE: getting in touch... - 2/5/2005 2:18:08 PM

ProtagonistLily

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quote:

hug to all,
in case a sub/ slave get in touch with a prospective Dom/ Master
should the interest shown up by the sub/ slave in holding the conversation, interest, in on-going talking or is it a two- way street, also shown up from the Dom/ Master too
as long as a collar is not given?
i am grateful for Y/your experience ! .... thanks a lot for the replies
petra

I guess what I'm interested in is your definition of 'prospective' is. If you mean you are sending mail to men you are interested in and are feeling that you are holding the conversation with little given back, I'd say that they aren't actually 'prospective'.

I would think that someone who was genuinely intersted in you would be able to hold up their end of the conversation, especially with a sub/Dom dynamic.

Often times, I get random notes from submissives who, according to the criteria I've laid out on my profile, are wholly outside what I'm looking for. I tend not to answer those mails but they sometimes find me on Yahoo Messenger. I tend not to participate too heavily in the conversation, i.e. not hold my end, because I'm really not interested, and feel that I shouldn't have to be a complete bitch about it to get rid of them. Of course, this could be completely differant from your experience.

But in general, if someone's not participating in the conversation at the very least 50% of the time, they probably aren't interested and don't want to have to be rude about it.

Lily

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RE: getting in touch... - 2/5/2005 2:51:12 PM

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That's a very good perspective Lily but I also think there are some men who just do not know how to converse with a woman. I frankly have a hard time communicating with men like that. I have to have a good give and take in any conversation or I lose interest myself. Petra, if he seems to be a good man but has a hard time writing, give him a call and see if that is any better. If not, move on if it bothers you. JMO.

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RE: getting in touch... - 2/5/2005 3:14:41 PM

match2u

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first, thanks a lot for the reply

i am talking about conversations Y/you already have since a couple of weeks, months

does a prospective Dom/Master expect that you as sub/ slave hold up the interest - may in expectation to see if you will submitt - is it like a test?

is that a way to show you will/ will not surrender?

thanks

petra

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RE: getting in touch... - 2/5/2005 3:37:33 PM

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Ohhh, I see what you mean. I think Lily is on to something there then. I do not think it is a test, he may be losing interest. I can't speak for the Doms but If I was experiencing the feeling that I am doing all the work, I would drop it. It gets very burdensome to carry on a relationship by yourself.

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