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PiercedDaz -> Female orgasm denial (11/11/2006 7:47:31 PM)
I recently met a sub who told me that she couldn't bear the thought of orgasm denial and that it was a hard limit for her. she had never tried it but said that to orgasm was the ultimate sexual act in her femininity. To deny this from happening at a natural time would be to deny her what she holds herself to be as a woman. Now I'm a bloke. I could quite happily make myself cum just because it filled some time whilst I'm bored waiting for commercials to finish! No matter how great it feels, an orgasm is just another orgasm! I don't think that men have the same deep pyschological link to sex as women do. So really I'm asking female submissives/slaves (in fact sod it - all women!) for their point of view on this subject? How do you feel about orgasm denial? Do you enjoy/not enjoy it? Did you once enjoy it and now don't, and vice versa? Do you think that this act has a deeper pyschological link to your self image of sexual femininity? I appreciate your feedback, Daz.

SamKeithsslave -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/11/2006 8:05:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PiercedDaz So really I'm asking female submissives/slaves (in fact sod it - all women!) for their point of view on this subject? How do you feel about orgasm denial? Do you enjoy/not enjoy it? Did you once enjoy it and now don't, and vice versa? Do you think that this act has a deeper pyschological link to your self image of sexual femininity? Orgasm denial? Oh its an awful, terrible, teasing thing to do. Do I enjoy it? GOD YES!!! LOL Though I must admit when I masturbate for Master and he tells me to stop I sometimes just cant deny myself. This of course results in punishment, but he does understand that sometimes I have gone past the point of no return and he is late in trying to stop me - lol. As for the pyschology of it all? For me an orgasm is an orgasm, it is the ultimate pleasure, but denial several times does make that pleasure all the better in the end.

ownedgirlie -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/11/2006 8:16:03 PM)
I am only allowed to experience this wonderful thing called an orgasm when he tells me to. It is not uncommon for him, just for his own amusement, to bring me to the edge of an orgasm and hold me there.....for a very, very long time. My world stops spinning. My focus is solely on him and on holding back from releasing the pent up, pounding pressure inside of me. Sometimes he will do that and then walk away, then return and repeat, etc., for a number of days. It makes me crazy. It makes me wild. It is torturous. I suffer greatly. But I love every damn moment of it, to feel that in tune and aware and connected...to tremble and tingle and throb with need...to crave desperately for his mercy and not receive it... Oh yes, such lustful yearning is amazing. If that doesn't remind me of what I hold myself to be as a woman...mmmm, I don't know what will. When I am finally allowed to explode into orbit, what I experience is not something I will fully explain here; suffice it to say it is an emotional, spiritual, mental phenomenon that grips me from deep inside and brings me to amazing places inside myself, and even further strengthens my connection to him.

naughtylilmiss -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/11/2006 8:32:22 PM)
i totally, utterly, absolutely agree with owned girlie. it's a really fundamental thing, beyond concious thought. it's a physical reaction and to pass control of that to someone else, to give them the power to affect (and by that i mean multiply by infinite numbers) your body's reaction to anything and everything until they choose to end it is an awesome feeling. Having said that i can understand where some women would not enjoy it, because it is not just a physical thing. being held teetering on the edge not just by someone else but by your own body is bizarre, if you are given time are given time to ponder it - or worse yet, asked to discuss it as it happens. It's as much mental, which is common with most things in this context. Rational thought flees before the incredibly powerful demands of your own body, but you are not at liberty to do anything about it! lol, i guess it depends if you like the idea of losing your mind whilst trying not to lose control of your body.

MagiksSlave -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 12:26:07 AM)
Ok Im just gunna ditto ownedgirly on this one hehe thanks hon you saved me lots and lots of thinking and typing!! Magik's slave

StacyCat -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 1:03:20 AM)
Im against it. Mainly because mentioning that I cant cum means that I wont. I cannot orgasm on demand, no matter how close I am. There are some triggers that can bring me closer to or over the edge in orgasm, but if I have to even think about not having an orgasm, then I will not orgasm. The head space is all wrong for me.

slavejali -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 5:20:02 AM)
Orgasm denial doesn't work for me. I always thought that was more a male sub thing (from reading the above posts I see I'm wrong about that but hey). If I'm denied orgasm, I just get turned off sexually, it happens pretty fast..dunno maybe I'm strange. On the opposite end, the more I orgasm the more I want to.

Aileen68 -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 7:01:06 AM)
Never experienced this...thought about it a lot and have found the whole idea to be extremely erotic. The idea of someone having control over something so personal is very appealing.

acissej -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 7:37:20 AM)
I'm going to echo what SamKeithsslave said. I love, love, love orgasm denial. Orgasm control (not limited to just denial) is quite possibly one of my favorite things to do. That kind of control is the ultimate turn-on for me, and denial only heightens my arousal. And, of course, the more aroused I become, the more frustrating (yet exciting!) the process of denial becomes. Like some of the others, I don't see any real connection between orgasm and my femininity. My femininity remains the same with or without orgasm. If anything, orgasm denial only increases awareness of me as a sexual being. -Jessica

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 7:42:27 AM)
I personally love it. I love the build up until I cannot feel I can take anymore, but am still pushed further. I love the lack of control over my body it gives me. I do not think orgasm denial has anything to do with being feminine or my self image. This is a way Master can push me further and at times make me beg for release. An orgasm is an orgasm, whether its denied or for lack of a better work allowed to come faster. This to me is simply part of our dynamics in our relationship.

daddysprop247 -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 9:21:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PiercedDaz I recently met a sub who told me that she couldn't bear the thought of orgasm denial and that it was a hard limit for her. she had never tried it but said that to orgasm was the ultimate sexual act in her femininity. To deny this from happening at a natural time would be to deny her what she holds herself to be as a woman. Now I'm a bloke. I could quite happily make myself cum just because it filled some time whilst I'm bored waiting for commercials to finish! No matter how great it feels, an orgasm is just another orgasm! I don't think that men have the same deep pyschological link to sex as women do. So really I'm asking female submissives/slaves (in fact sod it - all women!) for their point of view on this subject? How do you feel about orgasm denial? Do you enjoy/not enjoy it? Did you once enjoy it and now don't, and vice versa? Do you think that this act has a deeper pyschological link to your self image of sexual femininity? I appreciate your feedback, Daz. good question PiercedDaz. as for orgasm denial, i've never served anyone who desired this, so i've never really experienced it. as to how i'd feel about it...that would depend on the particular form of orgasm denial. but first i have to sort of explain how i feel about orgasm in general. it's interesting that you ask about a link between one's self image of their femininity, and orgasm. i have always felt that an orgasm, or more specifically, experiencing sexual pleasure, went AGAINST what it is to be a "good", proper submissive. even before i discovered D/s and knew that i was submissive, i always felt very guilty and uncomfortable about any feelings of sexual pleasure and especially about having an orgasm as that's such an obvious and uncontrollable expression of pleasure. and now that i'm a slave, those guilty feelings have grown 1,000fold. it probably helps that i have a Master whose pleasure isn't effected either way whether i have an orgasm or experience pleasure or not. it's extremely rare for me to orgasm...i think the last time was 2 yrs ago or more. but the few times it has happened, the guilt stayed with me for weeks. it's like...i'm there to serve...to please...that's it. for some reason i think that physically enjoying it in the process negates the other things. a part of me feels like i'd be a better slave, better submissive, if i could completely rid myself of all desire to experience sexual pleasure. i understand it's not logical, but that's just how i'm wired for some reason. so if i had a Master whose form of orgasm denial was denial with no release ever...that would be great. but if his style was more pushing me to the brink of orgasm and then denying, that just wouldn't work with me since i'm almost never at that point, and never desire an orgasm at all.

ownedgirlie -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 9:39:51 AM)
Daddysprop: Like you, I used to feel guilty for having orgasms, until I met my Master. Now any "pleasure" I feel really belongs to him, not me. He has command and control of my body and its responses, so I can not feel guilty for what he does with it. He has trained my body to respond as he wishes, and it is out of my control completely. Unlike your experience, he finds great pleasure in bringing me to such a state of lust whereby I turn into a needy, writhing, twisting, savage beast, wild with desire for him, begging for just a hint a relief because the pressure building inside me becomes almost unbearable. It is not pleasure I beg for, but to relieve the pressure cooker, else I go insane. I could not beg for pleasure; it would not be right. It is having such power to affect me that brings him amusement and satisfaction. And when he finally gives the command to explode for him (and it is for him), he derives further satisfaction from watching his slut veer into another plane, convulsing, thrashing, and possessed by what he has implanted in me. This is not necessarily a pleasurable experience for me, as I am truly possessed and overcome by what is occuring, and it can last an exhaustingly long time...to the point of collapse. But the result is a journey into the depths of my essence, and when he has stopped me (there is no stopping until he says so), I crumble to the floor, panting, gasping, and clinging desperately to him with need. He loves this - and it really is all about him.

amor -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 9:52:30 AM)
I agree with slavejali. It's just not possible to try to deny me orgasm, because it's so hard for me to cum in the first place. Master understands it, though I know that sometimes it frustrates Him. I want Him to have that control, but until I can relax and allow myself to cum when He says to, orgasm denial just isn't going to work. If He tells me not to cum, I get turned off and stop feeling sexual. I feel like an idiot for even admitting to it, but there ya are!

Larathevalkyrie -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 10:46:52 AM)
We practice extreme orgasm denial where My Baal makes me masturbate for hours at a time for his amusement and does not let me cum at all. In fact I get to orgasm every 2-4 months when he says so and when I am allowed to, he makes me orgasm over and over until I beg him to stop and then he does it some more. He could keep me orgasming for a full 24 hours and it will not end until he wants it too. Now during the times I am not allowed to cum, he still uses me as he wants and still makes me masturbate for him everyday for his pleasure. He likes watching me teeter on the edge of that cliff for hours at a time. It is to the point where I can not cum unless he gives me permission and we are approaching where I can cum on command when he tells me to. The mental aspects can be overwhelming at times because the attachment to him, his voice, his control becomes all consuming and strengthens my mental bond to him as well. In my opinion orgams denial is denial of an orgasm not postponing it for a mear hour or two. It's denial for long periods of time resulting in days, weeks and in my case months at a time.

onlythewindknows -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 11:51:40 AM)
i've had it - it works for me because i get more aroused being told i cannot climax than being told i have to.

Celeste43 -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 11:55:26 AM)
Orgasm control for hours, yes please. Being kept on edge for days on time, no way. It stops me from sleeping and after several days of sleep deprivation I'm a mess. I can't accomplish anything, it isn't safe for me to drive, I cry all the time and am headachy. Hard limit because of the sleep deprivation. Now if you're talking no stimulation whatever, fine, I'll just go read a book instead. However be warned that three weeks later when you suddenly decide you want me aroused I won't be and may not ever be turned back on to you again. This kind of ignoring me deliberately sets up major walls inside of me and they're a lot easier and safer to build then to tear down. In many ways I consider this a form of abandonment mixed with degradation and those are not things I play with. Obviously if there's no sex because he's working 16 hours a day, that's different. But then I still get kisses and holding hands when we go to sleep. Total ignoring usually comes with zero affection IME.

behindmirrors -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 12:34:23 PM)
My Dom likes to play the "teasing" game with me. Bring it up, let it sit there a while...then, when he's good and ready for me to have one, then I have one. I haven't been trained to orgasm on command or anything (yet), but I can see this as being something he might do in the future should it strike his fancy. Or, even more frequently, while he's at work and I'm home for part of the day, he will send me messages periodically with the point of getting me aroused, and then make me wait until he gets home for any satisfaction. Also wonderful. I like the kind of play he does with that. Bring me nice and close, then make me get up and do something else, knowing full well how distracted I am. It's wonderfully uncomfortable for me, especially if the next activity on the agenda is some sort of going out or being around lots of other people, where I feel the additional pressure of not wanting to embarass myself, haha. It makes him quite happy to watch me squirm. We haven't tried this game long term, and I'm glad for it. I think I might be a basket case if he did! quote: So really I'm asking female submissives/slaves (in fact sod it - all women!) for their point of view on this subject? How do you feel about orgasm denial? I like it, at least the way we engage in it. Delicious torture! I also know it's not something everyone enjoys. quote: Do you enjoy/not enjoy it? Did you once enjoy it and now don't, and vice versa? I enjoy it- mostly because I feel a real and strong bond to my Dom during the times we engage in this kind of play, one I feel really physically. It serves as a great reminder of the balance of control, and an even better one of who I derive my pleasure from, but only with permission! I think at one time, I would not have enjoyed this as much- but with the right person, it can be great for me. quote: Do you think that this act has a deeper pyschological link to your self image of sexual femininity? Perhaps- I think when we engage in this act, though, I find that the psychological effect is a deepening link of the power exchange that we share- I don't find it to be a deeper link to my sexual femininity nearly as much as that. Or perhaps it could be that the link is deeper, and that I feel it more strongly because of this depth, haha! It could be argued that women do have a stronger relationship to their orgasms then men, but I would say in my case, that may not be the case. Mostly, I enjoy this sort of play because it really strengthens the bond my Dom and I share, and reinforces in many ways the power that his ownership has over me. When I am waiting to have that orgasm he has denied me, that's all I think about- him. Even though I think about him a lot, it becomes a very strong and pointed bond, a very sexual one, too. He becomes the sole provider of my pleasure at that time, and I enjoy it. Sheesh, I'm not even sure I answered that question. Just my thoughts... behindmirrors.

onlythewindknows -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 1:44:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PiercedDaz I recently met a sub who told me that she couldn't bear the thought of orgasm denial and that it was a hard limit for her. BTW IMHO that seems like a weird, whiny "hard limit." To me a sub should really be able to forego her own pleasure a bit more than this. to each her own i guess.

Siona -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 2:25:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie But the result is a journey into the depths of my essence, and when he has stopped me (there is no stopping until he says so) owned, Are you speaking of stopping you during an explosive orgasm?

ownedgirlie -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 3:16:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Siona quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie But the result is a journey into the depths of my essence, and when he has stopped me (there is no stopping until he says so) owned, Are you speaking of stopping you during an explosive orgasm? Yes, he will do that. My body comes screeching to a halt, my mind and orgasm follow, and I will end up shaking for awhile until everything subsides. It is quite intense.

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