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DO U EVER - 11/11/2006 11:37:18 PM

MSAMBERLUVU2DETH

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DO YOU EVER APOLIGIZE TO ANOTHER MISTRESS IN A CHAT ROOM WHEN YOU DON'T FEEL OR EVEN IF YOU DO FEEL LIKE YOU'VE DONE ANYTHING WRONG OR DISRESPECTFUL?

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RE: DO U EVER - 11/11/2006 11:43:04 PM

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If I feel I've done someone else wrong by word or action, I'll apologize for it. If I don't, I won't. Sincere apologies should come from the heart or they have no meaning. Better to say nothing at all than fake an apology to someone.

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RE: DO U EVER - 11/11/2006 11:59:29 PM

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If I've goofed, I admit it. If I've unintentionally caused hurt feelings/misunderstanding, then I'll appologize (but not always... some people are just dinks or can't understand humour. No amount of appologies will fix that, and it's not my fault, so not my problem). Otherwise, no.

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RE: DO U EVER - 11/12/2006 5:59:58 AM

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I never say "I'm sorry" unless I feel it; that is my only rule on the subject.

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RE: DO U EVER - 11/12/2006 6:27:49 AM

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If I was in the wrong, then yes I will apologize. If not, I won't. As others have already said, the apology should be "from the heart" or its meaningless. However, I also believe in respect whether its towards another Domme or anyone else in the lifestyle.

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RE: DO U EVER - 11/12/2006 11:17:27 AM

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I would and I have if warranted. . If at any time I can feel or the person indicates to me in some way that I've harmed them, I would apolagize, unless I have a good reason for not doing so.

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RE: DO U EVER - 11/12/2006 12:54:27 PM

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I cant get passed all the caps!!!

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RE: DO U EVER - 11/12/2006 1:58:10 PM

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Depends on what your conscience dictates.

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RE: DO U EVER - 11/12/2006 2:00:25 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MSAMBERLUVU2DETH

DO YOU EVER APOLIGIZE TO ANOTHER MISTRESS IN A CHAT ROOM WHEN YOU DON'T FEEL OR EVEN IF YOU DO FEEL LIKE YOU'VE DONE ANYTHING WRONG OR DISRESPECTFUL?

ONLY FOR TYPING LIKE THIS.

YOURS,

BENJI

Edited to make font more obnoxious.

Edited again to remove rude comment from first edit.

< Message edited by gooddogbenji -- 11/12/2006 2:01:54 PM >

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RE: DO U EVER - 11/12/2006 2:02:03 PM

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sorry aount the caps and thats what is was about .lol.. but my eyes hurt sometimes looking at the asreen thats all.

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RE: DO U EVER - 11/12/2006 4:08:30 PM

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I have been known to appologise for upsetting someone - that does not mean that I'm sorry for what was said/done, but if it was something that I didn't feel would upset someone, and it did, I will say that I'm sorry for the hurt/upset feelings. That is totally appropriate, in my opinion.

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RE: DO U EVER - 11/13/2006 6:20:20 PM

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I will admit and apologize if I mess up and say the wrong thing. I am a bit stubborn, though I will apologize. If I feel/know I'm right, then hell no! I wouldn't say sorry for being myself and speaking my mind and how I feel.
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RE: DO U EVER - 11/13/2006 6:41:04 PM

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We can not always know or control how others will perceive what we say especially online. Where all we have to go on is written word. However, if someone tells me they where offended by something I said I will apologize for offending them.

IF my tongue simply gets away from me, or I allow my tempter to control me thus making me overly sarcastic, rude, or offensive I will ALWAYS apologize.

Though I NEVER apologize for expressing my views or opinions espeically within online forums or chat rooms.

Edited to add: I have learned the hard way it not always what you say but how you say it.

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RE: DO U EVER - 11/14/2006 6:49:06 AM

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Regardless of if it's a chat room or in real life, people, regardless of their self-proclaimed title, are deserving to be treated with dignity and respect until THEY consent to be treated otherwise.

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RE: DO U EVER - 11/14/2006 6:54:49 AM

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The only time I will not apologize is when I feel it will diminish me to do so. I have no problem apologizing when it is deserved, warranted, or even just convenient.

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RE: DO U EVER - 11/14/2006 7:33:50 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MSAMBERLUVU2DETH

DO YOU EVER APOLIGIZE TO ANOTHER MISTRESS IN A CHAT ROOM WHEN YOU DON'T FEEL OR EVEN IF YOU DO FEEL LIKE YOU'VE DONE ANYTHING WRONG OR DISRESPECTFUL?

This is your first post - who have you offended already?

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RE: DO U EVER - 11/14/2006 7:56:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: demistress

The only time I will not apologize is when I feel it will diminish me to do so.

Really? I can't imagine a spot in my life where my place on some self-perceived pedestal is more important than salvaging a friendship, maintaining my dignity and honor with someone who looks to me for direction, or my own personal ethics.

Accepting fault and being humble enough to realize that you are human and make mistakes, regardless of position in the world, is the mark of a good leader and a person of good morals.

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RE: DO U EVER - 11/14/2006 8:35:21 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MisPandora

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ORIGINAL: demistress

The only time I will not apologize is when I feel it will diminish me to do so.

Really? I can't imagine a spot in my life where my place on some self-perceived pedestal is more important than salvaging a friendship, maintaining my dignity and honor with someone who looks to me for direction, or my own personal ethics.

Accepting fault and being humble enough to realize that you are human and make mistakes, regardless of position in the world, is the mark of a good leader and a person of good morals.

MisP I think you're misinterpretting me. I don't care about saving face. I care about saving soul. What I meant by diminish me was not in the eyes of others, but in the my own eyes. I will not apologize if I think it is dishonorable to do, if I'm doing it as a form of manipulation, that sort of thing.

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RE: DO U EVER - 11/14/2006 8:39:29 AM

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ORIGINAL: demistress

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

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ORIGINAL: demistress

The only time I will not apologize is when I feel it will diminish me to do so.

Really? I can't imagine a spot in my life where my place on some self-perceived pedestal is more important than salvaging a friendship, maintaining my dignity and honor with someone who looks to me for direction, or my own personal ethics.

Accepting fault and being humble enough to realize that you are human and make mistakes, regardless of position in the world, is the mark of a good leader and a person of good morals.

MisP I think you're misinterpretting me. I don't care about saving face. I care about saving soul. What I meant by diminish me was not in the eyes of others, but in the my own eyes. I will not apologize if I think it is dishonorable to do, if I'm doing it as a form of manipulation, that sort of thing.

Yep, you're right. Even with that explanation, I'm missing what you're trying to say. It's ok, though...not worth anymore deliberations. I've been up all night working on a case, so I might be a wee bit dense in the comprehension department.

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