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did being a police officer make me sub?? - 2/7/2005 10:05:11 PM

thumcuff

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Or did my interest in handcuffs start way back? I don't honestly know but do find my profession stops me from being as open as I would like to be and that is frustrating.

Do others find that their profession restricts their activities. I live away from big cities where being one of the crowd may be easier. I tend not to go to public events incase I am seen...

I could always say I was undercover but would I be believed.

John

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RE: did being a police officer make me sub?? - 2/7/2005 10:39:12 PM

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Would that we could live in a world where acceptance was the norm... I'm sorry you cannot be as open as you'd like. I'm out to family and friends but I'm not out at work in any regard. I'm a bisexual Domme who works as a psuedo fitness trainer at an all woman's gym. I doubt any of my D/s activities would be approved of by my co-workers, boss or any of the women coming into the gym to work out.

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RE: did being a police officer make me sub?? - 2/8/2005 5:43:25 AM

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Hi John and welcome to the forums at CM!

Here on the forums we love to discuss all aspects of life and the lifestyle! Well it seems a shame that so many can not be out to the extent that they wish. What about finding groups outside your area? Where you may not be known?

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RE: did being a police officer make me sub?? - 2/8/2005 9:17:37 AM

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RE: did being a police officer make me sub?? - 2/8/2005 9:42:34 AM

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Do others find that their profession restricts their activities. I live away from big cities where being one of the crowd may be easier. I tend not to go to public events incase I am seen...

My profession totally limits me to some degree on how 'out' I can be about kink in my entire life. I live 2 lives, though I don't feel particularly stunted by this at all. I have brought some of my 'kink' friends into my vanilla life and they have crossed over quite nicely, though it's been on the rarer occasion that I've crossed my vanilla friends into kink. Discression being the better part of valor and all, I have been able to keep the 'hot side hot' and the 'cool side cool' so to speak.

The BDSM circle I travel in (and have travelled in for quite some time) has a high premium on confidentiality. Many know that I am very sensitive about my private life staying private. Because my 'vanilla' life currently is much higher profile than usual, I have stopped going to 'public' events such a munches and socials, and stick strictly to private, member only events or to private parties in friend's homes. Playing out of town has also become a viable option as well.

But these are all choices that I have made, not ones that society has forced me to make. I enjoy both sides of my life, and I'm not willing to give up one for the other. To me, that would mean that I was no longer a whole person. I'm much less likely to give up the vanilla things that I'm involved in for BDSM; BDSM is a part of me that makes up the entire person I am.

I think, on one level or another, we have all had to make sacrifices in order to balance out our lives, and that sacrifice on some level isn't unusual.

Good luck,
Lily

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