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RE: Does being a Sub/Slave make you a stronger person? - 11/15/2006 2:19:36 PM

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Do people here think that being a Sub has made you stronger and more confident in your day to day life? Do you think that even before you got into the lifestyle the genes that made you a Sub also gave you an inner toughness?

What it did was give me acceptance of myself - i know who i am with the understanding that "submissive" is at my core. I don't know if toughness is the right word - but i do feel stronger for this self-knowledge.

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RE: Does being a Sub/Slave make you a stronger person? - 11/16/2006 4:53:38 AM

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Thanks for all the replies everyone. Interesting to see the variety in replies.

FLsubmalecd, isn't being able to connect with the opposite sex an important part of being a man. Doesn't being a cross-dresser mean that you have greater ability to do this, and hence make you more of a man.

Imtempting, I thought that most male Subs came to their orientation during their teenage years long before they became ceos or anything. I'll have to start a topic on this sometime.

zbabe888, what you describe is exactly what I was asking about.

slavemaia, what are your definitions for tough vs. strong?

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RE: Does being a Sub/Slave make you a stronger person? - 11/16/2006 9:05:08 AM

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For me, choosing to be owned despite not *being* a submissive has been a challenge..... that challenge has highlighted certain strengths and I certainly draw on it.

I'm neither a strong nor weak individual as a whole, and never have been one or the other. I am strong in areas and weak in others, always have been and don't envisage that changing. Over my lifetime the things that I am strong/weak about have changed and are continually doing so.

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RE: Does being a Sub/Slave make you a stronger person? - 11/16/2006 7:50:44 PM

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agirl,

Why did you choose to be owned despite not being submissive?

Do you think that the amount of strengths comparted to weaknesses that you have have increased over time?

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RE: Does being a Sub/Slave make you a stronger person? - 11/16/2006 8:09:44 PM

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Being submissive in and of itself did not make me stronger. Submitting to my Master and enduring that which he has had me endure for him, has made me incredibly stronger. I have submitted to certain acts and mental/emotional exercises for him which I never would have fathomed doing, nor which I ever thought I could do. I have found that since then, in my most difficult and terrifying times (this past year has been a rough one), I have drawn straight from those events - ie; if I could do that, than I can do anything. I have found and developed an inner strength which has amazed even me sometimes.

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RE: Does being a Sub/Slave make you a stronger person? - 11/16/2006 10:17:39 PM

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i don't think BEING a slave has made me stronger. i think ACCEPTING who i am and seeking to live my life accordingly has.

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RE: Does being a Sub/Slave make you a stronger person? - 11/17/2006 3:20:17 AM

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I don't think being a submissive/slave made me stronger. It made me realize how strong I am. I've grown up with the notion that anyone not "in charge" is weak. And for a lifetime, I portrayed the image of being just that - "in charge." Inside however, I knew it was all a facade. I married my husband thinking he was the kind of man that would understand, be strong where he needed to be strong and allow me to be strong without being "in charge." I was wrong. I had no concept of domination and submission and was grasping in the dark.

When I finally realized what this was... and that it was me, I felt like I'd come home. After that, I just had to find the rest of my family. And I have. What knowing my Master has done is allow me to live as I am, not as everyone perceives that I should be. What that's done is to center me. I am calmer, more assured that what I am doing is right for me. I am more confident because I finally realize that "in charge" does not mean strong and to follow does not indicate weakness.

Like someone else said in this thread, my supposed "strength" before this was my armor - put in place to protect the person I am from those who would use who I am without regard for how I am. Now, I get to be all of who I am. I love her a bit more each and every day. And on top of that, I love, honor, respect and am very grateful for the person in my life who has shown me how strong following can be - my Master.

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RE: Does being a Sub/Slave make you a stronger person? - 11/17/2006 5:42:46 AM

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i have become stronger over the time i have been with Master, but i think a big part of it was in gaining maturity, not just from being a sub.
i do think maturing has made me a better sub though, i don't feel insecure in giving up my self or ego to another person which initially was difficult but now is comforting and natural.
Before becoming a sub i was very mistrusting and kind of thought of myself as a victim for various reasons, trusting someone enough to let go has been the most strengthening experience i have gained from submission,
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