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toservez -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 1:40:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fleshslave Why is it that it is ok for a dom to not want BBW but it is not OK for a sub to not want a fat man? There is no code or moral superiority to if one is acceptable and the other is not. It is a person's personal preference and how important to them that preference is. Anyone making conclusions based on weight whether they are better then the other person needs mental health checkup no matter what shape your body is in. Yes, there are people who clearly state they only want somone HWP person while failing that test themselves, but that does not make them jerks or losers but just honest in their preference. It is when those same people get turned down because of the same issue and then complain is when the one word comes to mind. Hypocrite. There is nothing wrong with a submissive having preferences in the physical nature of what they are attracted to. Anyone who tells you otherwise is living in fantasy and hypocrite land. Preferences are fine. Judgment of others in being inferior to oneself is not.

mnottertail -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 1:44:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: toservez Yes, there are people who clearly state they only want somone HWP person while failing that test themselves, <snip> I had always thought HWP was some bad disease, H(???) W(????) P(ositive) and it wasn't until this very post that I got it: Height Weight Proportionate.

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 1:48:11 PM)
Dominants desire what they desire...submissives desire what they desire..No one can force you to change what it is you seek.However I feel always keeping an open mind works, for possibly within that fat Dominant lurks the soul of an exceptional Dominant. Now with that being said, when you reject, just be general in your rejection something along the lines of "not interested but thank you for e-mailing me".......Tempting

diamonddreamlove -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 3:09:08 PM)
Well i am wondering what a BBW is actually. I wear a size 16 does that mean i qualify for that or does a size 12. It all depends on what one is looking for and give me a realistic Dom any day of the week. My Dom recently has informed me He expects me to start working out and to diet under doctors care. It isn't because he thinks i am fath but because i would be healthiers for it and as He put if "I didn't take all these years to find you to lose you because you don't take good enought care of yourself". The flip side is He also does not take as good of care of himself as he should either. Have discussed how we can both become healthier through exercise and diet. As for obese well some of the nicest people i know are obese and most are that way due to a medical problem. I prefer the inner beauty cause if doesn't fade.

jdtallfem -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 3:24:56 PM)
Just write in your profile that your prefer average or athletic Doms, or "please only apply if you are HWP." Simple. See it all the times in singles ads. No biggie. Yes you'll get some who don't read you're profile, but you'll know that the minute you read theirs so then you simply don't respond or tell them they're not your type.

PrimitiveLogic -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 3:35:43 PM)
Size often correlates to function/capacity/endurance/and flexibility for both men and women. Even if the inner person is exquisite; the depth of the journey often is dependant on capacity to perform. That being said; I have always focused on the person within the person first. If that inner 'self' doesn't posess grace; then no amount of wondrous flesh can make her beautiful. All clear sweet springs flow from deep within the earth...surface water just isn't the same. I suppose a balance is best.

LTRsubNW -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 3:44:02 PM)
(I notice that none of the women who responded said "but...I really like larger men...skinny/thin men don't appeal to me") To the OP; It's math bud...there's 11,377,409 of you to every one of them, ergo, law of diminishing returns. (If you were in a position to say "Ya know, there's 9 katrillion women that want me...and there's only one of me..." wouldn't you be waiting for Pamela Anderson to ring?) (It's simple math). And by the way...she's under my desk...so chill.

onlythewindknows -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 4:01:17 PM)
i like big guys. honestly. Meatloaf is a hottie.

LTRsubNW -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 4:06:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: onlythewindknows i like big guys. honestly. Meatloaf is a hottie. (Have I ever mentioned, you're the only woman I ever truly loved?)

fleshslave -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 4:08:15 PM)
thank you all for your replies, very insightful in many ways. to those that asked, quite a few men have called me a gamer becuse i wont serve them or meet with them, and they happen to be larger men. appearince is not all i look at, in fact just the oppsite, but heaven forbid i turn away a large man. again, thanks everyone!

onlythewindknows -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 4:14:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LTRsubNW quote: ORIGINAL: onlythewindknows i like big guys. honestly. Meatloaf is a hottie. (Have I ever mentioned, you're the only woman I ever truly loved?) aww....[:)]

cuddleheart50 -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 4:19:36 PM)
I like the teddy bear type, very huggable...[:D]

MistressTexas -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 4:52:43 PM)
Weird... I read the op's rant as "why are threads about unworthy "fat" subs so damn prevalent, and threads about "fat" doms scarcer than hens teeth?" Or maybe as "Why do overwight "gross" doms message "young thin hotties" and expect them to bow down immediately?" shrug People will do what people will do. Personally, every vanilla lover I've had has been a big boy, maybe even a tad chubby, but generally much bigger than I am, masculine guys who ccan ick me up and cuddle me if need be. So I have absolutely NOTHING against a guy with a little padding, but hes gotta be in shape. Non-negotiable. For health reasons if nothing else.

windchymes -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 5:10:42 PM)
I prefer a big-boned, meaty guy over skinny, too. Like 6 foot, 210, or something like that.

MysticFireTopaz -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 5:19:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fleshslave Why is it that it is ok for a dom to not want BBW but it is not OK for a sub to not want a fat man? I have seen a number of profiles from male submissives stating that they are seeking a Domme who is HWP, or someone not over a certain weight or dress size, so I see nothing wrong with a female sub stating the same type of preference in her profile regarding male Doms (except for the dress size, LOL.) Personally, if a sub is not attracted to a plus-sized Domme, I would rather that he did state it in his profile, so that I can readily see that W/we are not a match and not waste My time or his. Lady Topaz

slavejali -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 5:37:10 PM)
I think the only thing I would be concerned about would be potential health issues related to being over-weight. Size and shape physicality itself in a partner is neither here nor there with me.

CreativeDominant -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 5:41:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LTRsubNW quote: ORIGINAL: onlythewindknows i like big guys. honestly. Meatloaf is a hottie. (Have I ever mentioned, you're the only woman I ever truly loved?) Since I am nowhere near the size of meatloaf but do have a few extra pounds, does that make me a nice warm toastie? Hmmmmmmmmmmmm????

Elegrea -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 6:25:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fleshslave to those that asked, quite a few men have called me a gamer becuse i wont serve them or meet with them... Well, ARE you a gamer? That is, do you play roleplaying games or MMORPG's or anything of that nature? Man, do I find that annoying. To be called a 'Gamer' or a 'Game player' on this site has got to be one of the funnier things I personally have been called, considering my personal history. Off topic, I know...but I sure do wish they'd invent a better insult.

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 6:32:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fleshslave Why is it that it is ok for a dom to not want BBW but it is not OK for a sub to not want a fat man? You can pick and choose whatever you want. If others don't like it, so what?

angelic -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 6:59:59 PM)
You assume they can 'read'??? (i find that the majority of e-mails i get, they haven't read one single word of my profile, either that or they think they know better than i what i will and will not accept).

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