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onlythewindknows -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 7:07:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant quote: ORIGINAL: LTRsubNW quote: ORIGINAL: onlythewindknows i like big guys. honestly. Meatloaf is a hottie. (Have I ever mentioned, you're the only woman I ever truly loved?) Since I am nowhere near the size of meatloaf but do have a few extra pounds, does that make me a nice warm toastie? Hmmmmmmmmmmmm???? ah sure why not?

AlexAussieSub -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 9:41:17 PM)
Why isn't it OK to not want a fat man? You can exercise if you want to lose fat. It's not shallow at all to want someone who takes care of themselves. Maybe write in your journal or even edit your profile to say this. Them calling you a "gamer" is just sour grapes, and probably indicates self-esteem issues. You don't want someone like that anyway.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: physcial attraction (11/15/2006 11:16:13 PM)
You are allowed to want whatever you want. That others don't agree is their stuff, not yours. If you're not making your wished know in an inappropriate fashion, and they're upset about your wants, they're not a match for you. Now, if you're calling every man who is 10+ pounds overweight he's a fat, low-life, bottom-feeding piece of shit that eats too much...then, they may have reason to be complaining. Master Fire

throwrug -> RE: physcial attraction (11/16/2006 8:19:37 AM)
Each person has his/her own likes and dislikes. We've all seen it go both ways, whether male or female. I have always prefered Ladies about my size or smaller. I love to be trampled by Women even when they wear stilettos. As a medium size guy, i certainly can't take BBWs , especially in stilettos. Multi-trampling is fine though since there are many feet distributing the total weight, even w/ stilettos. Another thing, i have been athletic during most of my life and do love things that can require some fitness and/or coordination. When looking for someone with similar interests, it sometimes requires finding someone with a similar level of fitness. throwrug

drawntothedark -> RE: physcial attraction (11/16/2006 8:24:29 AM)
I understand what you mean. I was told just yesterday when I turned down an invitation to correspond with a Dom that it was not up to me to decide if I wanted to talk with him or not. In a way he was saying I should be grateful he was talking to me at all. Gotta love that block button huh!

LaTigresse -> RE: physcial attraction (11/16/2006 8:31:28 AM)
I would say his head is the fattest thing on that one.

Bearlee -> RE: physcial attraction (11/16/2006 9:23:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: drawntothedark I understand what you mean. I was told just yesterday when I turned down an invitation to correspond with a Dom that it was not up to me to decide if I wanted to talk with him or not. In a way he was saying I should be grateful he was talking to me at all. Gotta love that block button huh! No kidding! What gets into some people? I swear, some folks think this is some sorta online game we've all agreed to play... Apparently some think if they call themselves a Dom, they get to be a jerk to anybody whom they choose. Uber-doms; bah!!! Just my $.02 worth... beverly PS...I prefer guys with a few extra pounds anyday! I have a morbid fear of getting too skinny myself and 'locking hipbones' with some skinny guy I might fall for. (like rutting deer on nature shows) NO WAY!

CreativeDominant -> RE: physcial attraction (11/16/2006 2:30:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bearlee PS...I prefer guys with a few extra pounds anyday! I have a morbid fear of getting too skinny myself and 'locking hipbones' with some skinny guy I might fall for. (like rutting deer on nature shows) NO WAY! ~shakes head~ thanks for the visual, bearlee...~just knows I will dream of anorexic people with antlers on their heads and rutting tonight~

CandleInTheWind -> RE: physcial attraction (11/16/2006 10:51:08 PM)
in regard to the original why is it okay for a dom not to want a BBW but it isnt okay for a sub not to want a fat Dom?? in the games we play you have to have a connection...well at least I have to have a connection. I havehad connections with people who by the normal standards of appearance management are not in my league...menaing Im the pretty girl and how did that guy get the pretty girl? well can i tell you a secret?? it isnt the appearanceof a persont hat cause te attraction for me. if you are a beautiful adonis type man....you had beetter be more beautiful on the inside! i can see the inside working of people...I care if you will open the door for a little old lady that is coming in a door infront of us. I care if you will help a small child pick up his marbles that he dropped even though he shouldnt have them at the movie theater. I care if you hold the door open and clothes it for me when i climb intot he car and you know the hinge is sticky and one has to work on it to close it a georgeous man can become instantly ugly if he makes a snide commnet about a chubby girl I was one. but he doesnt know that! he totally loses me if he refuses to reach in his pocket and buy a veteran posey outside a supermarket...they fought for our country and live with the effects of war their whole lives...what is that dollar goign to hurt ?? And a man that makes a racial comment about somone based upon stereotypes of an individual well unless that particular person di a particular thing in my presence...I do not want to hear about that kind of thing... yes there are alot of unmarried black women...but I know more unmarried white women who are repeatedly having children with different men and so the physical attraction for me comes mainly from the emotional and personality arena. I am one of the few people that has actually continued a date or two with someone that lied to me by sending me pctures that were more than 45 lb ago....I however do make mention of the fact that their pictures do not "do them justice" I have no problem dating someone that is in my opinion very heavy...I have dated Bald men, baldingmen, men who have grey hair, men that have a headful of hair. I have dated short men...granted i have never met anyone that is shorter than i am...but should the person tell me that they are taller than they truly are I do call them on the carpet about it! my reasoning is to bring the topic to the surface....look pal Im 4-9 obviously you would be taller than me....if you are going to lie to me regardng something that really shouldn't be an issue in this situation...what else are you goign to lie to me about?? I have dated handicapped men, men that have limbs missing, and what does that tell someone? that tells people that all you have to be is yourself! be honest and we will see the two of us to determine if we are a match! and so in regaard to the appearance facts?? nope that really doesnt have much impact on my actions of decisions of dating or getting invovled with somone! well have a gret day little red

Jobsdone -> RE: physcial attraction (11/17/2006 10:06:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fleshslave Why is it that it is ok for a dom to not want BBW but it is not OK for a sub to not want a fat man? you're fine, fleshslave. Go for what you know.

SassyMistress3 -> RE: physcial attraction (4/18/2007 10:06:36 AM)
I love "Big Boys" There are just none around here,or just don't want to admit they are. I love 6'2 300lbs. Especially on their knees in front of me. YUM !!!! Sassy Mistress3

Celeste43 -> RE: physcial attraction (4/18/2007 10:28:51 AM)
You can have and insist on whatever preferences you have. If you aren't attracted to short people then you aren't. What you cannot do without getting flamed is be rude and disrespectful to or about people who you are not attracted to. I don't get turned on by men shorter than 5'10" and I much prefer a man over 6'. That's fine for me to say. It is not acceptable to start a thread asking why shrimps think they have the right to email me. Or for me to say that all men who are shorter are rude. It is fair for me to say that my past experiences with shorter males has led me to beware of them being more aggressive and less laid back in what I presume is an attempt to compensate and not be overlooked. It isn't fair for me to say that all short men are insecure. See the difference?

imthatacheyouhav -> RE: physcial attraction (4/18/2007 10:36:48 AM)
i am 5' 6" and weigh 180....thats down from 285...and i am NOT a stupid woman...i know FULL well what my body looks like after 4 surgeries and 3 kids and a decade of being morbidly obesse. however...i have alot to offer and i am glad "some" men see that. besides i'm dead sexy and HOT stuff so .....there ya go!!!!....LMAO

BOUNTYHUNTER -> RE: physcial attraction (4/18/2007 10:37:55 AM)
I prefer long legged tom boy type but like in all things there are exception.Good slaves come in all shapes,colors so don't pass up a good one when you find them.DIANE loves bald women thinks a shaved head is just the sexy thing going.I don't own or use bbws sorry its just a mental thing for me..bounty

badpaliden -> RE: physcial attraction (4/18/2007 11:11:36 AM)
I cant belive this got revived back from the OP in 2006! Hey , I'm one of those "big guys" and I dont worry about it.. I've had subs and slaves that ranged from 85 lbs to well over 200lbs.. and they all had one thing in common.. a mind that attracted me to them!!..I have my likes and dislikes as any one else , and for me looks are not near as important as the brain underneath! If some one is more worried about looks and size befor anything else.. I say GO FOR IT.. it what is most important to you..

Stranger1 -> RE: physcial attraction (4/18/2007 11:13:15 AM)
It's not. Chemistry is irrational.

selfbnd411 -> RE: physcial attraction (4/18/2007 11:19:05 AM)
I really have to work to keep my weight from getting out of control. I have to eat like a supermodel to just to keep myself HWP--hot chocolate for breakfast, plain air popped popcorn + diet soda for lunch, and white rice w/ steamed veggies for dinner. Plus I work out 4X a week. And I've been doing that for 10 years, so this is pretty much how things are. I don't judge bigger people because I know how hard it is, but it's healthier for me to be around people who respect what I have to do.

kiyari -> RE: physcial attraction (4/18/2007 4:31:11 PM)
Oh yes, so very annoying when you have a 'generously endowed' male of the domly persuasion, specifying that the object he is seeking must be anything but... Can we spell 'hipocracy'??? [hehe... danged well hope that the above is the correct spelling] BUT Y'ALL GET MY DRIFT

LadyPact -> RE: physcial attraction (4/18/2007 5:07:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kiyari Oh yes, so very annoying when you have a 'generously endowed' male of the domly persuasion, specifying that the object he is seeking must be anything but... Can we spell 'hipocracy'??? [hehe... danged well hope that the above is the correct spelling] BUT Y'ALL GET MY DRIFT Actually, it is "hypocrisy", but the other spelling might have been a play on the post if you would have spelled it "hippocrisy". And, that was just for a laugh, so don't anybody get 'out of shape'. Just the smart assed side of..... Lady Pact

juliaoceania -> RE: physcial attraction (4/18/2007 5:14:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fleshslave Why is it that it is ok for a dom to not want BBW but it is not OK for a sub to not want a fat man? I think it is perfectly acceptable to have preferences in this world, but I also think that when we begin to believe that anyone that does not meet our preferences is "less" for it that makes us an ass. I prefer active men, I am an active woman. I have an active Daddy. That is my preference. But I do not think that fat people are less than me or him. There is someone for everyone, and there are some people that prefer more meat on the bones than others do...

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