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RE: why financial dommes? - 2/10/2005 1:25:57 AM   
nella


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Status: offline 		Once and for all: I AM nORWEEGIAN, ENGLISH IS NOT MY FIRST LUANGUAGE. i have had enoh now, every thing i write someone say chek you grammer and spelling. Now i do not bother anymore, either say English natives only or listen to what i say not my grammer mistakes. Becouse i feel that i am wasting my time here.

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RE: why financial dommes? - 2/10/2005 2:00:56 AM   
BeachMystress


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quote:

ORIGINAL: nella

Once and for all: I AM nORWEEGIAN, ENGLISH IS NOT MY FIRST LUANGUAGE. i have had enoh now, every thing i write someone say chek you grammer and spelling. Now i do not bother anymore, either say English natives only or listen to what i say not my grammer mistakes. Becouse i feel that i am wasting my time here.


Looking at your profile gives one the heads up that you are not a native English speaker. If not because it says City: Bergen Country: Norway, then because the text is unintelligible to the average American (of whom I am one.) Your command of English is far superior to my command of Norwegian. Don't let comments like his bother you. It is wonderful to have international forum members.

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RE: why financial dommes? - 2/10/2005 2:11:01 AM   
Jasmyn


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Status: offline 		Nella your welcome to your comments as much as I am. Welcome back btw, haven't seen you in a while.

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RE: why financial dommes? - 2/10/2005 5:11:03 AM   
Dave8544


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Status: offline 		Nella, Your speeling is fine.

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RE: why financial dommes? - 2/10/2005 5:33:00 AM   
onceburned


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ORIGINAL: 23TampaMsub
you should check your spelling and grammar. Before you post. No offense. Just looking out for you.


No you were not "just looking out for" her. If you were, you would have checked her profile first to see if there was a reaon for language errors.

Patience is a virtue, and a little bit of it goes a long ways here in the forums.

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RE: why financial dommes? - 2/10/2005 5:41:28 AM   
onceburned


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quote:

ORIGINAL: nella
Becouse i feel that i am wasting my time here.


Nella, most certainly you are not wasting your time here. I enjoy your posts and was very glad you returned to Collarme.

The criticism about spelling is something Americans seem to do. Our country is large and we lose sight that there are people living elsewhere in the world. It is one of our national weaknesses. This doesn't excuse the rude comments you receive but I hope that it helps to explain them.

I don't know how to educate people so that they think before they post. But I certainly understand your frustration and anger.

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RE: why financial dommes? - 2/10/2005 8:12:32 AM   
NATI


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I like you nella - and I like your posts. I think *most* people are aware of the fact that you are not a native speaker. You are doing great - your posts are always genuine, and you do a terrific job conveying your meaning. You have valuable insights that relate to your own experience - as well as views and commenatary on the lifestyle overall. AND - your english is improving. Don't let the little grammar cops get in the way of your enjoyment of these boards.

I'm also very glad to hear that you are being careful.

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RE: why financial dommes? - 2/10/2005 12:06:30 PM   
nella


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Status: offline 		Thanks pepole, i am sorry if i came of a littel suddern yesterday, i will be the first to admit i have a temper. It was just that for the last several post, all i had said over and over again was that my mastery of English is limited, and i got tired. i am sorry, i fly of the handel from time to time, i know. One of the most hard things for me in being a submissive, not flying of the handel whit my Dom. So thnaks for the encuregment pepole.

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RE: why financial dommes? - 2/10/2005 11:25:41 PM   
lkg4rldomme


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Status: offline 		Dude, no offense but you obviously have not been at this too long. Just be happy when a Dominant Woman tells you right up front what she expects. Some will lead you along and then drop the bomb. I would suggest before you even try to meet someone to do a lot of research on D/s and BDSM lifestyles. There is a wealth of info on the net. There are so many levels of Domme/Dom and sub relationshipl. There are actually Dommes out there that never leave there computer and make a fortune from sub males who just send them money to be told what to do online and maybe get a dirty pair of panties through the mail every once in awhile. I don't understand it, but who am I to judge.
The best thing to do that I have found, is to get involved in the local kink community in your area if possible. It will surprise the hell out of you. I have found while there is such a high ratio of subs to Dommes on the net. Out in the real world it was just the oposite. Most of the Dommes online are pretty jaded having to deal with all the idiot fakers, wannabees and married guys that they will make you jump through hoops to find out if your serious. When you believe you are a real submissive, it is kind of hard to take when all you want is to really meet the Domm of your dreams.
Anyway, good luck!
Oh yeah, make sure you read post #16 from BeachMystress. It is very enlightning.

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RE: why financial dommes? - 2/11/2005 4:58:08 AM   
MizSuz


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quote:

ORIGINAL: 23TampaMsub

My question is quite similar actually. Yet, a little different. Hopefully someone will answer me. Oh yeah, and Nella you should check your spelling and grammar. Before you post. No offense. Just looking out for you.



Are you beginning to see a pattern with the responses to your comment, Tampa? nella's been around long enough now for us to learn about her, understand her a little bit, and come to appreciate that her contributions are significant.

Now that doesn't mean that people who are poor with their grammar aren't going to get hammered here. They most certainly will, especially if english is their first language.

But nella has taught me to at least take a look to learn whether I'm dealing with someone who's just stubborn about the way they communicate or someone who overcomes impressive odds to communicate. The latter deserves significant respect in my book. I find nella to be in the latter category. Stick around for a while and you may find that her content is worth the reading. I did.




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RE: why financial dommes? - 2/11/2005 7:23:00 PM   
Paulnz


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quote:

ORIGINAL: nella
Becouse i feel that i am wasting my time here.


A sometimes entertaining way to waste time though.





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RE: why financial dommes? - 2/12/2005 12:41:19 PM   
chuangtzu1952


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Status: offline 		i understand some slaves have this kink and, for them, the financial Mistresses are a blessing.

i have noticed, however, this is a relativle new phenomenon. i think it became a popular practice along with the advent of the internet.

The only downside i see is it seems like a large percentage of "financial Dommes" are not really into Femdom but college students who discover on the internet that there are men who like this fetish.

i have corresponded with several in the past and although they list well-known fetishes and kinks such as "cbt, trampling, rope bondage" etc. they do sneak in the "F" word and it invariably turns out the Financial part is the only thing they are interested in and not Female Supremacy.

i can understand this kink as it appeals to me also, yet i seek a Mistress who not only takes my money and gives me an allowance, but a Mistress who is really into the lifestyle as well.

The idea a Mistress should pay a slave is simply ludicrous. Why would the master serve the slave.... that concept is an oxymoron

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RE: why financial dommes? - 2/12/2005 1:23:39 PM   
RealityFix


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Status: offline 		The key phrase here is "caveat emptor"

"Let the buyer beware". I really don't think serious lifestyle Mistresses would demand tribute. And agree, it's probably fakes looking to cash in on the fetish who compose the bulk of "financial Dommes"


If remote fetishes are your thing, you're better to just dial up a phone sex line-I would advise you not to waste your time with "online domination".

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RE: why financial dommes? - 2/13/2005 11:24:05 PM   
PrincessMercie


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Status: offline 		FYI there's plenty of these filthy dogs who r willing to pay to anybody who can give em a good spank, humiliate & torture. im not a pro domme but all of my dogs/slaves/subs pay. it's outta gradittute! since we r not pro domme we need cash to buy toys & these ppl they understand & will wanna do everything to please us to get pleasure for emselves too :) i hv a slave who i control financially cos tat's wat he wants...if there's ppl like em there's ppl like us....am i clear enuff??

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RE: why financial dommes? - 2/14/2005 9:13:07 PM   
Jusey


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Status: offline 		love and light to you nella, but you have to admitt that more often than not a sub wants to be treated like dirt. you seem to be the exception, and it sounds like you have a great thing going. that is great!, but coming from a dominant point of view it gets confusing when a sub asks you to treat them bad and then gets mad when you do it. I am definately not saying you do this, and I guess it is a little off of the subject, but all but one of my subs love to be treated like dirt, or a door matt, or whatevery my twisted little mind can come up with for them. sometimes it is hard to not bark back when we read someone being stupid or at least on the verge of being hateful which in my opinion getting mad at your Mistress for requesting tribute is very hateful. There should have been a polite discussion explaining that the sub was uncomfortable with this and a comprimise could have been reached. There really are way too many pretend subs out there just wanting to get laid. I can't tell you how many times I have been called bitch because I do not put out. Man, I do ramble, done now.

Blessed Be

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RE: why financial dommes? - 2/14/2005 11:27:27 PM   
NATI


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quote:

love and light to you nella, but you have to admitt that more often than not a sub wants to be treated like dirt. you seem to be the exception, and it sounds like you have a great thing going. that is great!, but coming from a dominant point of view it gets confusing when a sub asks you to treat them bad and then gets mad when you do it. I am definately not saying you do this, and I guess it is a little off of the subject, but all but one of my subs love to be treated like dirt, or a door matt, or whatevery my twisted little mind can come up with for them.


I'm not even going to begin to pretend to understand this except that I came away with the idea that you think nella must enjoy being treated like garbage because your subs do. And presumably because 'all but one of them do' it stands to reason that this must be something that the preponderance of subs are going to get off on.

Is this because she got offended by someone who attacked her without bothering to check her profile beforehand?

All but one of your subs love to be treated like doormats so is this the criterion for BEING a sub? Sorry. I just don't understand what you are tryng to tell nella.

I don't think (for what its worth) that because nella openly voiced her objection to the attack, she is saying that she enjoys being treated like dirt.

I do not think that because she is submissive, she is automactically wired to want to be treated like dirt.

There are some subs out there that like humiliation and like degradation that would still object to being pigeon-holed as 'doormats'.

There are some subs who genuinely do want to be treated like a doormat.

There are some subs who want and need to pay tribute to their dommes.

There are some who do not.

What I object to is a unilateral statement (which often vilifies and also very often stereotypes) about a group and/or a practise within the community. And I don't like this suggestion that a sub is supposed to 'want' to be treated like dirt.


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RE: why financial dommes? - 2/15/2005 1:02:44 AM   
lkg4rldomme


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Status: offline 		I got a good one for ya. I made a statement on this board a couple of days ago like I was so worldly and knew the game because I have almost gotten caught up in it several times. And what happens...... I'm sitting at my computer filling out these crazy forms and jumping through hoops to prove that I am not just another pain in the rear submale that can't follow through with anything, and I realize that through a very well thought out and systematic chain of events, I was giving out just enough seemingly small amounts of personal information that when put together could eventually screw me on down the road. To really show what a fool I am, I soon realized I had gone through this before with the same person 2 or 3 years ago. Everything was just slightly different.
I did a little investigation and called some people I know and traced this person(or people) back through atleat 30 yahoo id's(that are still active) and on and off every kinky personals site that there is for at least the last 5yrs non stop. There must be subs falling out of their windows by now. It is stated over and over , very clearly and under no uncertain terms that it is not a pro situation and is 24/7 only. Of course you contribute to the household as expected but then thing's start to get unclear. The crap with the rules and questions that are desined to drive a poor frustrated sub out of his mind with the occasional personal question stuck in here and there. I must say they deserve some applause. One more thing I remember from last time I think I was on this site and did this same thing and never recieved anything from this group ever again. Ill have to check on that. If you don't hear from me again you'll know I have been cyberally snuffed.
Pray for me......man! There's actually alot more to this but it would take too long to go though it and it sounds even more unbelievable than it does now

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RE: why financial dommes? - 2/17/2005 7:45:38 PM   
BeachMystress


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I've heard this a few times from a few different subs.. Never be so anxious to serve that you give away information that could lead to having your identity stolen. You're the third person that has told me that they've encountered a "Domme" who over the course of a few months tried to gather enough information to be dangerous. One of them bailed when the "woman" asked what his mother's maiden name was, the other when he was asked where his mother was born. Sigh!

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