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lchristym -> RE: Under Protection (11/17/2006 10:31:18 AM)
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Hello,
Getting on soap box !!! Subs are NOT helpless. If they are they need to take a good hard look at themselves and figure out what they need in life in general before they go on with this lifestyle. Emotional and mental baggage will not magically disappear just because you have a collar. You have to face it and deal with it, you are no good to anyone until you do.
Subs are very strong, smart, and able to take care of themselves. SUBS ARE NOT DOORMATS !!!! SUBS ARE NOT VICTIMS !!!!
Subs have to have something to give up to be able to submit. If you are not strong, smart, and able to take care of yourself then what are you giving a Dominant? Nothing. What power have they been given? Nothing.
Service is not easy !!!! It takes a strong person (this is mentally and emotionally, NOT PHYSICALLY) to go about their day knowing the only reward is to make their partner happy and complete. Knowing that doing your best is the reward. I whole heartedly suggest that you read the Marketplace series of books written by Laura Antoniou if you think otherwise. While it is labeled fiction, what she has in those books are high protocol and "old guard" lifestyle situations.
Protection is mostly an idea for someone that was coming into the lifestyle and is under the guidance of one of the community members before they find a mentor (the protector is vouching that the person is interested in learning and not just someone getting a cheep thrill, something like when you invite someone to a private party and bring a new person - you are vouching for their integrity and discretion).
Protection also serves a purpose when at functions (there are still some high protocol events that require a sub to be at least protected to even attend). At high protocol events it is considered dishonorable for a Dom to talk to a sub without being introduced first. The protector is the one that the Dom would go to if interested in the sub. In these situations it is also considered disrespectful for a sub to talk to anyone before they are spoken to except for their Protector and other subs that they know. Also it is an easy way for the community at these functions to keep the peace, if the sub does something wrong, the Protector is the one that is talked with and will discipline the sub.
When I first came into the lifestyle, my first event was one of these high protocol events. That was only 7 years ago, in Canada. I couldn't even contract to experience something that was given as a demonstration, my protector had to do that for me. In a way I hate to see this protocol disappear or is it making a reappearance to help weed out the players that are on line?
Hopefully, the ones that are being protectors are meeting their charges in real life. If you are vouching for someone that you haven't met when your reputation and honor is at stake, you deserve what you get. Done with my rant, getting off soap box. Later. Be safe and well, have fun,
chris
PS - Protecting is different than Mentoring - Mentoring you are actually teaching, guiding, and helping the person find themselves as well as a possible mate. BOTH PROTECTORS AND MENTORS SHOULD NOT BE HAVING SEX WITH THEIR CHARGES. If you are then you have no honor and that is another soap box I would love to take up having done both.
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