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BRNaughtyAngel -> Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 4:50:35 PM)
I have decided to out myself to a vanilla friend. I'd rather do it in person, but we don't see each other that often due to distance. I've looked at numerous BDSM websites, but I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions for site(s) that explain this lifestyle to the vanilla world? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. [sm=hello.gif]

mnottertail -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 4:58:44 PM)
girl or guy this freind?

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 5:17:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail girl or guy this freind? Female friend. She and I are always discussing our personal relationships and it's getting harder for me to talk about mine without some sort of explanation. And I just feel the need to be truthful with her.

feylin -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 5:18:24 PM)
I finally (after four years) told my best friend the other night. We talk a lot but are not able to get together often, so we discussed it in IM. It bothered me quite a bit that I had not told her yet and I still had a bit of trouble getting it out until she said she had quite an imagination and all this waiting meant she was filling in the blanks on her own. After I told her she said it was good to be curious...until I mentioned how long I had been "curious" and to what extent. Then she said I was a freak and what the hell did BDSM mean anyway? If only I had thought ahead about an informational website! (hindsight...sighs) She meant "freak" lovingly and I had myself all nervous and drew a blank on the initials so we had a good time making words up. She just rolled with it -- happy if I am happy. Of course I had to cut her off when she started mentioning that I didn't know all the things SHE had done with her husband. Gah! No details, I say, just the basics. You consumated the marriage? Fine, good, I can still look at him during holiday dinners without getting a visual. For me it went very well, and I am glad not to have to keep this a secret from her anymore. I hope it goes as well with your friend. Best wishes, Christine

gingered -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 5:42:22 PM)
submissiveloving and castlerealm would be my suggestions

mnottertail -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 5:44:55 PM)
Take her down to New Orleans into the french quarter on Fat Tuesday, and say, don't you wish every day could be like this? The rest is history Rufus

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 5:50:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Take her down to New Orleans into the french quarter on Fat Tuesday, and say, don't you wish every day could be like this? The rest is history Rufus [sm=rolleyes.gif] That's no help! LOL! I've never even been to Mardi Gras and I've lived here my whole life. [&:]

mnottertail -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 5:53:49 PM)
Send her to me then I will lift the scales from her eyes or www.takeninhand.com I don't know enough about you other than your pulchritude to give you an idea of how you want to explain it to her, what you see here -> ( Y ) and here (@) (@) Ron

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 5:54:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gingered submissiveloving and castlerealm would be my suggestions Thank you gingered.[sm=hello.gif] I will see if I can find some articles on those sites that will work. I have visited both, but it's been awhile, so can't remember what all was available there.

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 6:00:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Send her to me then I will lift the scales from her eyes or www.takeninhand.com I don't know enough about you other than your pulchritude to give you an idea of how you want to explain it to her, what you see here -> ( Y ) and here (@) (@) Ron pulchritude <--------- Oooooooo I learned a new word! [sm=mrpuffy.gif] And thank you for the lovely compliment, as well as the website suggestion. [:)]

onlythewindknows -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 6:14:25 PM)
it is mentioned a lot in a concurrent thread, but you probably want to check out Greenery press and the books it has to offer.

findmedaddy -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 6:21:07 PM)
When I left my husband he threatened to out me to everyone I know. I talked it all over with my best friend at that point, and she's asked a question here and there as the years have passed. Maybe it's our age, but she has been completely nonjudgmental. She loves me, so I'm ok with her. I'm not sure any Web site could have helped -- we all have such different needs and wants -- so I guess I'd suggest telling her all about you. You're what matters to her.

sophia37 -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 6:36:37 PM)
Give "vanilla" people more credit will'y? Please. Use me as example. I like to think I'm vanilla. Mainly becuase I never heard that word before I came here. But I heard it and frankly, I kinda like it! And what the hey. Look to your left and under my name says how many postings I have. So If I figure Im vanilla yet I belong here, give your friend some credit. We all live and love in the same wolrd in 99% of all ways. Geesh. We're not so far apart. I come here because...I get it! I dont see that your so different than me. If anything maybe us "vanilla" folks are kinkier than you are. Just be. This is your friend. Just be friends and be real.

mnottertail -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 6:57:53 PM)
Red Stick is a pretty big place, go to the Barnes and Noble or such and waltz into the self help and skinny over to the spank me fuck me books and pick up Screw the Roses, send me the Thorns.........and Loving Dominant, which is written by a guy that looks like the guy on the book named John Warren, but the guy here is a faker cause he aint got no space in his name.........or actually, just write him and ask him via PM, he can't use a blowtorch and pipewrenches on you from here (he might be able to make you think he did) but anyway, ask his advice, he came out to the world, when country wasn't cool...........good resource right here on collarme, and a hell of a swell guy. Ron

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 6:58:44 PM)
Oh I give her credit, but it's not always easy for some women to understand how another woman can submit herself to the total authority of a man [sm=hewah.gif], much less the kink factor. I know she will accept me as the woman that I am, but I'd like to give her as much information as possible so she will hopefully understand it all better, before we see each other in person again...

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 7:04:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Red Stick is a pretty big place, go to the Barnes and Noble or such and waltz into the self help and skinny over to the spank me fuck me books and pick up Screw the Roses, send me the Thorns.........and Loving Dominant, which is written by a guy that looks like the guy on the book named John Warren, but the guy here is a faker cause he aint got no space in his name.........or actually, just write him and ask him via PM, he can't use a blowtorch and pipewrenches on you from here (he might be able to make you think he did) but anyway, ask his advice, he came out to the world, when country wasn't cool...........good resource right here on collarme, and a hell of a swell guy. Ron Thank you again Ron. I do have the Loving Dominant, although it's been a while since I read it. Also have a couple of other BDSM books, but not Screw the Roses.... will have to check that one out. [8\|]

onlythewindknows -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 7:08:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sophia37 So If I figure Im vanilla yet I belong here, give your friend some credit. if you are vanilla why do you have three handcuffs under your name [:D]? (please no one take this as a literal question...!)

LTRsubNW -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 7:36:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel I have decided to out myself to a vanilla friend. I'd rather do it in person, but we don't see each other that often due to distance. I've looked at numerous BDSM websites, but I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions for site(s) that explain this lifestyle to the vanilla world? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. [sm=hello.gif] Of course, it depends entirely on what your lifestyle is. There are so many. However, with that said...I've also found that "Oooops" doesn't really answer all their questions. [8D][:D][&:][;)]

LTRsubNW -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 7:37:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Take her down to New Orleans into the french quarter on Fat Tuesday, and say, don't you wish every day could be like this? The rest is history (That's actually fairly efficient).

Jobsdone -> RE: Website suggestion for explaining WIITWD to a vanilla friend? (11/17/2006 10:43:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel I have decided to out myself to a vanilla friend. I'd rather do it in person, but we don't see each other that often due to distance. I've looked at numerous BDSM websites, but I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions for site(s) that explain this lifestyle to the vanilla world? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. [sm=hello.gif] Hi BRNaughtyAngel, http://www.drkdesyre.com. caryl's BDSM Page has been around forever and is a bastion of information. So over some good food and fine wine school, your friend and deepen your friendship.

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