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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

Hi Naughty Angel. 

I'm not going to judge your dom or what you and he do together, be it play or punishment.  I have had to involve others to be entertained by me, but not on cam and not as punishment.  At first it was horrendously embarrassing and I was extremely bashful, but to see the look of amusement and pride on his face was amazing and fulfilling to me.  Because of my bond with him and where we are in our relationship, it is no longer something that embarrasses or humiliates me.

But he only had me do such things after I belonged to him for a good period of time, and my comfort and trust levels with him were very strong.  I think if this had occurred after just a few weeks, it would have been too much for me, to be honest.

One thing I did not see anyone mention, and which would be my first concern - - Screen shots.  Opening yourself up to be viewed by strangers on your web cam is inviting God knows what kind of photos to be shared with God knows whom.

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ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

Well I understand that everyone has a different view on what's acceptable.  I was simply seeking input if anyone else had been required to do this.  I probably shoulda kept my mouth shut.  Live and learn, eh?

Obviously, from what I've read in other threads, there are Dom/Domme's requiring some pretty shocking things from their subs/slaves that I would deem totatlly unacceptable, but to each his own.

We all start somewhere and work to figure it out as we go, being tested, testing ourselves and so forth. 
He and I will be discussing this further. 

Thank you all again for your input.

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ORIGINAL: BossySSBBW

Seems to me if you are posting as many replies to the suggestions you get on here, then you are past your "humiliation" of asking another Domme to participate. 
I have the feeling you quite like the attention and find it arousing.
Perhaps your Master needs to find other punishments.

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ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

Okay, I don't know if there's a name for the phase we're in, but a Dom and I have been talking to, and getting to know each other for a couple of weeks.  I guess maybe it could be considered a courting/training phase?  LOL!  I dunno.....

Anyway, I was instructed to do something for him yesterday and didn't do it exactly as he wished, so now I have a punishment coming.  He knows I get embarassed about some things, and he pushes me to overcome anxieties I have about those things.  Well one of them is, involving anyone else in what we are doing.  And he knows I am adamantly straight, have no interest in women sexually, although I appreciate the inner/outer beauty of other women.

So my punishment is to find Domme's I find attractive and ask them if they'd like to see me on webcam (excuse me while I just DIE from embarassment here! ) and have them contact him.

I understand the mental games and training that go on, especially in a young BDSM relationship, but I don't like involving others in what we're doing.  He knows that, and I'm sure it's just a test to see if I'll do as he asks, but I'm still dying of embarssment when thinking of contacting a total stranger and telling them this.

Has anyone else had to deal with this sort of thing, where you were required to involve others in your "training" or play?
If so, how did you handle it?

Maybe I'm just procrastinating, but any insights (preferably not mean ones) would be appreciated.

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ORIGINAL: eyesopened

Okay, maybe i'm just weird.  On-line submission, by its very nature, is more head-trip than anything.  What i see here is more a test of your willingness to obey than actually carrying out the "punishment".  Frankly, most Dommes would not want to be involved in your punishment, you were told simply to ask... with no expectation that the ask will be answered or that you would have to actually do anything online with the Dommes contacted.  In my opinion only, you are way over-thinking this punishment.  Humiliation is supposed to be embarassing and as a punishment can be quite effective. Punishment is not supposed to be enjoyable. 
You do not need our permission to refuse to obey.  As i see it, and i hope i don't seem too harsh (personally i could never do an online submission) but you have the choice to submit and obey, disobey and hope He doesn't care, or get out of the relationship.  i doubt He will change His mind because you discussed this on CollarMe and got permission to disobey.

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ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

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ORIGINAL: eyesopened

Okay, maybe i'm just weird.  On-line submission, by its very nature, is more head-trip than anything.  What i see here is more a test of your willingness to obey than actually carrying out the "punishment".  Frankly, most Dommes would not want to be involved in your punishment, you were told simply to ask... with no expectation that the ask will be answered or that you would have to actually do anything online with the Dommes contacted.  In my opinion only, you are way over-thinking this punishment.  Humiliation is supposed to be embarassing and as a punishment can be quite effective. Punishment is not supposed to be enjoyable. 
You do not need our permission to refuse to obey.  As i see it, and i hope i don't seem too harsh (personally i could never do an online submission) but you have the choice to submit and obey, disobey and hope He doesn't care, or get out of the relationship.  i doubt He will change His mind because you discussed this on CollarMe and got permission to disobey.

I don't see where I asked for anyone's permission to disobey.  I simply asked if anyone else had ever had a Dom/Domme who did this. 

How we define our relationship is of course our decision, but for the sake of discussion, and just out of curiousity, I like to ask questions of others.  I'm just weird that way.

We met on CM, but most of our interaction is via phone calls to each other.  We plan on meeting soon, but due to both our schedules, distance and not wanting a drive-by meeting, it hasn't happened yet.

Thank you all again for your replies.