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RE: wondering about friendships, sharing, learning - 2/18/2005 5:30:21 AM   
sweetpleaser


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Status: offline 		I suppose we should put this part of the conversation in "Bondage Gear" section. Sorry Slavedesires. But we did start talking about friendships. Maybe the problem of some friendships is because a Dom is involved somehow--you know how men can be jealous if they are not the center of attention. They sure are fun though. Some of us subbies are more independent so we have no problem being friends.


PS: boat oar huh, never thought of that--you are so clever!

< Message edited by sweetpleaser -- 2/18/2005 5:31:45 AM >

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RE: wondering about friendships, sharing, learning - 7/12/2005 8:09:17 PM   
pleasureforHim


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"All that being said, why is it that subs/slaves are so adverse to becoming friends with another lady in lifestyle? Do they fear the bi portion of their profile and think, jeeeez she is hitting on me? i have repeatedly said, i have no sexual interest in a woman if i am not friends first, if their is no chemistry or absolutely no interest. i would NEVER push who i am on another. Granted, IM and email chat is a hard way to get to know another lady and begin to share information about desires and struggles and victories, but it does and can happen."

i find this an oddity of the "lifestyle". in "real life" i have girlfriends...and will have them until one of us dies. But in the "lifestyle" i have found over and over that while women seem to know how to mimic friendship, they cannot atain it with another woman. And what seems even odder is that in the "lifestyle", women need support and shared information more than in "real life". The only thing i can use to account for it is the extremely high percent of women who are on CM who are fakes. The reason they are here is to harm Doms and Masters emotionally, but they will never be capable of, nor do they wish to, form a D/s relationship. Ergo, they have no interest in a friendship with a submissive woman who loves Men and adores Doms and Masters. i have uncovered approximately 8 or 9 such women in action...a statistically valid sample in my opinion.

i have of late been graced with the friendship of a couple of true submissive women, and the "click" is instantaneous and quite real. i am most grateful for their friendship.

pleasureforHim

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RE: wondering about friendships, sharing, learning - 7/12/2005 9:49:46 PM   
Gemeni


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Joined: 2/19/2005
Status: offline 		You ladies were 0bviously never around when a sub or two I had in the past ran across one of my exes online. Talk about catfights!

The insecurity comes from worrying about poachers trying to "steal" partners. There are enough low lifes out there who WILL play these games to make many simply choose to shut them ALL down to be rid of it.

As far as the rest who say they'd like to get to know new friends in profiles,-it would be nice if they actually answered your emails.

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RE: wondering about friendships, sharing, learning - 7/12/2005 9:51:18 PM   
Gemeni


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Status: offline 		Pleasure?

Does typing essays in huge font that take up half a page make you feel important?

Just curious,me being an explorer of motivations and all that.

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RE: wondering about friendships, sharing, learning - 7/13/2005 12:07:06 AM   
teapaw


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Status: offline 		I talk to everyone, Dom, Sub or switch. I do tell people first thing that I am taken. I am slave to a open minded Master who does not mind me talking to anyone. He wil never make me talk to someone I dont want to or tell me not to talk to someone. He trusts me, and that makes us stronger in our relationship. Most of the time I get people who want to Dom me or have cyber sex. If I run into a problem I tell Master about it and IF I cant handle it he will help me. I have not had that problem online. IRl yes, I love the fact that he is swift to intervine when this issue arises.
He believes it takes a great slave teach a Master to be great. I am not so sure, I ahve lerned more from other slaves then Masters. I think there should be a way for slaves to teach slaves and Masters to teach Masters. Keeping in mind that every Master and slave are different with different needs and styles. **I use M/s lingo but same applies with D/s**
Just me two cents...
pamela

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RE: wondering about friendships, sharing, learning - 7/13/2005 2:16:45 AM   
wetsub000


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Joined: 3/6/2005
Status: offline 		I have to confess when I first started I was probably so concentrated on finding myself a Dom that I would have considered spending time with others as a waste. Now I've had some experience and yet still haven't found a permanent relationship I'm more focussed on discovering as much as I can about the lifestyle and making friends with others within the lifestyle, so I'm much more open to chatting with other subs.

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