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RE: blind trust - 11/27/2006 1:55:49 AM

CandleInTheWind

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ORIGINAL: Archer

Because the basic problem is folks not knowing the difference between a Dominant and an Asshole in a black leather vest. (credit to boymeat of TES for the paraphrase)

Archeer so accurately and eloquently put...Im sooo Glad that a MAN actually said it I feel as though sometimes Imliving in a movie with all of the Jack asses that try to get me to meet them at hotels and various clandestineplaces...I wouldnt meet a blind date tehre..and basically as far as I am concerned until i have interacted with someone in person for a length of time that I honestly cannot put a time frame on that until that mysterious and varying amount of time is spent together in person ...well until that occurs I do not Feel that I know them well enough to get downt o fun and games..he exceptions that i have made inthe past are people that were well known by people that I trust completely and I was set uup with them...not that they got to start at go but I just gave them more benifit of the doubt and wwwent to date 3 on the first date which means maybe i would tell them where i lived. but well I alwasy need to feel the person out for myself before a piece of leather gets taken out. and well bondage not somethign that is likely for a while...bondage=helplessness and helpless=potential for injury and well I have too many kids that are depending on me to be that irresponsible

just my humble opinion based upon my experience and honestly the longer I have been inthe lifestyle the longer it takes for me to for that trusting bond..i guess becasue i see more and more things that people do that arent sooo noce

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RE: blind trust - 11/27/2006 2:42:12 AM

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for me trust is very important. not only that my slave trust me but that I also trust her.
that's why I always ask for some time online before moving to the next stage. I don't want a slave "without limits" so I don't belive in "blind trust".
but I also think that hard limits are only mental blocks. It's my understanding that the only real hard limit is "no permanent damage" (and that, of course, includes death).

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RE: blind trust - 11/27/2006 12:09:19 PM

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dbg,
Stay the course, don't change your basic requirement to play with you! I believe a true Dom has a concern for anyone under his control to feel safe and protected so they can enjoy the play to the fullest. I would say that the doms who have unreasonable expectations at a first meeting are probably not the real thing, at least in my book.

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RE: blind trust - 11/27/2006 12:26:00 PM

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Just remember after all the stories you can do everything "right" and have a disasterous result, and you can do everything "wrong" and have wonderfull experience. But takeing precautions shifts the odds towards a good result and away from disaster.

I too have done everything wrong and had a good result, but I certainly don't advocate that someone else take the risks I took and hope for the best.

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RE: blind trust - 11/29/2006 12:41:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: Kalira

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Doesn't it scare you to place that much trust in someone you barely know? How do you find the courage to allow a stranger to do anything he wants to you with no safeword?

No it does not scare me. I have always placed a huge amount of FAITH into my own instincts, and as of yet, they have not let me down.

Ahh, but you see; just because I have not 'physically' met the person does not mean that he is a stranger. Master and I spent ALOT of time talking, both on here and on the phone. My instincts told me he was a good person. I trusted in that. Yes, I could have been proven wrong, but I would rather go through life experiencing it to it's fullest, rather than be afraid to take a chance once in awhile.

Just how I look at things though.

i just wanted your view on the situation that i encountered not more than 2 weeks ago....I had been interacting with a seemingly nice man for about 2 weeks he seemed to be a nice man UNTIL

we made an attempt to make a meeting date...I have an ongoign way of meeting any new person be they peoeplt hat i have encountered on vanilla site or potential play mates...this last man like i sadi he and i were having nice Im type conversations...he gave me his phone number and repeatedly I made attempts to call him...each time i called he didnt answer the call.....he then said call me? why would you want to call me? I will meet you ...what difference does it make what my number is... Then we were negotiating on where to meet. My suggestion was to meet up in a public location where i was very comfrtable, I meet people out at a local bar restaurant.

well the conversation went back and forth at which point he wanted me to meet him at a local hotel..where admittedly there is a very nice bar and restaurant where we could havea nice dinner romantic was how he tried selling it to me..

I had an issue..the hotel is huge it is a 300+ room establishment and it has about a 2 acre maybe more parking lot. would you meet the man there for the first time?

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RE: blind trust - 1/9/2007 1:44:23 PM

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Why do most doms expect blind trust and are turned off when a sub won't give it?

Basically because they are egotistical bastards.....just my opinion. I would NEVER give blind trust to any Dom right from the start.

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RE: blind trust - 1/9/2007 3:05:43 PM

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I don't know why anyone would go without hard limits (if s/he has them)...especially with someone they don't know.

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RE: blind trust - 1/9/2007 11:02:33 PM

delyla

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Can a Master really know that a certian sub is "for Him" from a brief conversation? Sight unseen? Just from a journal or a introduction on line?Ready to claim as their own?
Does it work the same as a sub sensing a weirdo disguised as a Dom looking for a quick piece of cyber tail?
Amasing how first impressions can be made over the internet.

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RE: blind trust - 1/9/2007 11:19:08 PM

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whoever you meet and want to be your master. you better know them very well and trust them with your life before you try anything.

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