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RE: Those who have influenced your views on the lifestyle - 11/26/2006 5:12:35 PM   
nikaa


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ORIGINAL: aurora31

So I was wondering how many out there find their selves repeating the words of those who they respect and influence them the most. Not only here on the boards but in everyday life interactions with in the community.
 
Many people who are both in the lifestyle and who are not have influenced my choices both positively and negatively. I am sure there are many people who influence me without me even realizing it. However, these are a few of the people that came to mind when I read your question.
 
My father taught me what it was to be domineering.
 
My uncle, taught me about respect, honor, loyalty, what true strength was, and what true dominance was.He also taught me that life is full of grey areas, that in the end I had to be true to myself.
 
Master Lawrence, taught me so much about myself and helped me to accept myself. He also taught me it was okay not to accept certain behavior even from your Dom.
 
Spawn, taught me scene etiquette, about gorean philosophies, rituals, and protocols, he opened my eyes to what it felt like to be owned and what it took to own a slave. He taught me to embrace both my sadistic side and my masochistic side. 
 
Julie was one of the first women I ever meet who considered herself a natural slave. She taught me the difference between being a slave and being a doormat. Although I wish that lesson was not so hard on her physically, mentally, or emotionally.
 
Master IronBear, taught me so very much over the years of knowing him both about the gorean lifestyle and life in general.

My Master, Phoenix teaches me every day.He has taught me to allow people to love me, to get close to me. He has taught me tact (a very HARD lesson for me).

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RE: Those who have influenced your views on the lifestyle - 11/26/2006 9:15:29 PM   
Daddysredhead


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Status: offline 		There are many who have made me think about this lifestyle and have shaped the way I view it.  The most influential person is IntenseMaster (my Daddy), followed by my dearest femsub friend, Michelle, who I reached out to as a stranger on this site over a year ago - she has been a sounding board and a font of knowledge for me, and the author of Beauty and Submission, Maria Isabel Pita, who made me go "A-ha!" and "That's what I thought when that happened to me!" on several occasions while reading her book.

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RE: Those who have influenced your views on the lifestyle - 11/28/2006 2:34:50 AM   
mons


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to my thoughts on this i had someone who really was an honorable man and he was a gorean but now it is into another form of bdsm but still the words and his thoughts on many thing have stuck with me and made a different and how o view other and what plans i have for them i find from hoom respect is so important when you give it it is given back. treating other with kindness is not harmful to anyone i do not need to throw my power around to get what i want a soft whisper is louder  then a scarem i us the ladder for my slave no more. he taught me this and so much more i do thank him for his kindness and his teaching and his friendship

take care all ( and i will not change my ways to fit anyone )

mons

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RE: Those who have influenced your views on the lifestyle - 11/28/2006 5:12:33 AM   
kisshou


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Status: offline 		katey who I miss every single day! She told me to stay away from those Gorean men that they were all a bunch of assholes **lol**

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RE: Those who have influenced your views on the lifestyle - 11/28/2006 8:14:19 AM   
NINASHARP


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Status: offline 		John Warren, we corresponded through email on Prodigy and he introduced me to group local to me and Lady Kay.  I later met John and Libby in person, and found them both to be more dynamic in R/L than in txt.

And of course my first Dominant/ Master, Peter
Mistress Mir (during the time she was with Vi)
Patricia Marsh
Sir Mikalle
Robert Dante
Many submissive men, including the ones I have now and my former Master now submissive.

On CM there are several, but Lady Hugs & LA stands out the most.

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RE: Those who have influenced your views on the lifestyle - 11/28/2006 8:30:53 AM   
marieToo


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Status: offline 		I wouldnt say any one particular person has influenced my views, I think my experiences (the good the bad the ugly, the positive and the negative)  have mostly shaped my views and given me some clarity as to how my own particular submission is defined.

There is someone that I speak to as a friend, for a couple of years now.  He is a highly experienced older dominant who has spent years living the aspects of wiitwd. I trust him completely and we talk often.  Sometimes when Im not sure of something or need advice, I bounce something off of him, and recently discovered that he's more of a pain in the ass than a father would be.  "No, this guy should not have said that" "he should not have done this"  "if he was smart he would do a b and c"  blah blah blah.  I think no one will ever measure up, so mostly I just go on and make my own decisions and base them on my gut feelings.  Though sometimes being closely involved when getting to know someone is brand new, Im not always sure if Im being too critical and paranoid, or if Im really hearing a warning.  I do know that in time, the truth always surfaces anyway.  So I dont really rely nor have I relied too heavily on anyone in particular.  But I think Ive learned alot and open my mind up alot just by being a part of these type of discussions and those in chatrooms etc. 

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RE: Those who have influenced your views on the lifestyle - 11/29/2006 3:52:18 AM   
mons


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what would you asnwer my reply so disrespectful this is what i was speaking of i would no go around and call you an asshole becasue you choose to act like one that would be bad manners so do you use this word when replying others now there are many asshole in both group not all gorean fit this profile and not all submissive fit it either but some show it more then others it is wrong to group anyone like this i hope you will think the next time you write i am not you friend to kid around with i do not even know of you respect is everything you have not learn this yet

mons

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RE: Those who have influenced your views on the lifestyle - 11/29/2006 4:00:00 AM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		I remember watching "I dream of Jeannie" as a kid and thinking how great it would be to have a Master who owned me. (Lame answer sorry, but its true). That's as far back as I remember conceptualising a Master/slave relationship, it probably influenced me.

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RE: Those who have influenced your views on the lifestyle - 11/29/2006 4:02:32 AM   
FangsNfeet


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Status: offline 		Most of us learn a little something from someone else followed by our own experiences.

Think of there being 3 types of people. Dumb, Smart, and Genius.

Dumb never learns, Smart learns from there mistakes, and Genius learns from other peoples mistakes. If anything, I've learned what not to do just by watching other people screw up.

When I first started bondage, the advice given to me was to make sure that I could always have a quick release option for any emergency or suden distrubances. I still pass that advice on.

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RE: Those who have influenced your views on the lifestyle - 11/29/2006 8:34:21 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		A thougt or an ideal is what influnces people the most. You can either accept or reject them. As far a  person being and influence they just put the thought or ideal in your head.

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RE: Those who have influenced your views on the lifestyle - 11/29/2006 10:09:14 AM   
LotusSong


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Many many years ago.. 1994.  I came to all this on the internet, as is pretty commn these days.  I was playing with a Dom online and didn't know he was a switch. 
 
Seems he decided to play with a sub that was envious of a relationship I had with an old master of her's and this said dom was sub.  She then  broadcasted the text of their play session (online) causing me quite the embarassment.  All this "dom" could eek out "oh, didn't you KNOW I was a switch"?  This pretty much colored my attitude about switches and I avoid them in play. 
 
The internet is amazing. If your mind is focused on one aspect of someone and they pull this.. then you get a pretty good idea of how you would feel in RT.
 
Then I have had a few Doms that wanted to assist me in  my play with my submissive..or interrupted me for some shit reason (all RT). The way this effected me is that I feel I have learned how to be a decent Domme because of jerks like this. I just am sure to do the opposite.

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RE: Those who have influenced your views on the lifestyle - 11/30/2006 2:40:14 PM   
twicehappy


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ORIGINAL: stockingluvr54

PS....Twice...if you read this....Thanks!  BTW...I just scored a '39 choppa of the knucklehead variety!...(hehehe)


ST54, you are more than welcome, pay it forward, good friends are hard to come by and brothers in the wind are always welcome.
 
Now on the subject of the knuck; YOU BITCH!!!!!!!!!!
 
I am soooooooo jealous and Scooter says when you run out of money call him.
 
What kind of condition is it in? Is it running? A basket case?
 
If you run across a good deal on a pan call me!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: Those who have influenced your views on the lifestyle - 11/30/2006 5:54:09 PM   
stockingluvr54


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Status: offline 		LMAO....!!!! Ya....thought that might stir you guys up abit...lol. Bikes a runner but flywheels weren't quite true so part of the deal is for me to buy some new T&O wheels and he's gonna slap em in. Thing runs and starts real nice but those old cases won't hold up with questionable wheels.

No leads on a decent Pan but I do know where there is a MATCH for Scooters '83.....guy just bought a twinkie and selling the shovel for 7,500.... he just put a ton of dough into it and it had 34,000 orig miles when he got it so it's probably only got about 2,000 more since then. Bike is cherry and full bagger....an '83 just like Scooters. It's tan in color..... Tell Scooter......or scoop it out from underneath him...lol. It's a nice bike......

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RE: Those who have influenced your views on the lifestyle - 12/1/2006 4:04:46 AM   
twicehappy


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ORIGINAL: stockingluvr54

LMAO....!!!! Ya....thought that might stir you guys up abit...lol.


You were right!!!!
 
Congrats, it sounds like quite a find.
 
I am still pissed at you though!
 
quote:

No leads on a decent Pan but I do know where there is a MATCH for Scooters '83.....guy just bought a twinkie and selling the shovel for 7,500.... he just put a ton of dough into it and it had 34,000 orig miles when he got it so it's probably only got about 2,000 more since then. Bike is cherry and full bagger....an '83 just like Scooters. It's tan in color..... Tell Scooter......or scoop it out from underneath him..


I'll tell him though he loves his shovel and the softtail chopper is about 1/2 done.
 
I like a shovel but i really love a panhead, they jusy ooze sex.
 
The pan would be for me. I just do not ride Baggers. Scooters is a pretty little girl especially as i get her cleaned up but i'm an old school chopper kind of girl.
 
When i pack for a run i have a little back pack that hold a pair of jeans, two shirts and a toothbrush and i take my credit cards and done!

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RE: Those who have influenced your views on the lifestyle - 12/1/2006 7:40:55 AM   
stockingluvr54


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Status: offline 		More thread hijack.... Sent ya an e from the other side and couldn't send pics? That little whachamacallit browse thingy didn't show up?

That softail is your project bike.....????

When I go on a trip I pack 2 new tubes, air compressor,tire irons, tools, spare primary belt, bailing wire,electrical wire,extra nuts/bolts, duct tape, clutch hub puller, spare ignition, 1 quart of extra fuel (small tank...lol) and on and on. Nothing worse than being out in podunk without a way to fix something. Don't think I've ever been along side the road for more than 45min. Funny thing about it is that I can fit all that crap on my choppa....lol

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