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ORIGINAL: Lady Alaria

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ORIGINAL: mallory21

I couldnt agree with you more! I am also going to college and pursuing a career also, but after reading the article on how to "be a good wife" i realize that many of the things i do ring true with that 1950's ideal.
It makes everything go so much smoother if women just act like women sometimes. It turns my home into a sanctuary to do the little things that you talked about... helping him take off his shoes, putting a little extra effort into dinner or my looks, washing him in the shower. All of the women that would "bash" you in the Vanilla world for saying things like this might find peace in giving up a little of themselves, and would be surprised at what they would get back.
... so I think we are up to 8 cents now :)

grr.
I know plenty of women who act very much like women who don't feel any need or desire to act like a 1950's housewife, and for whom it would be highly degrading to do so. Speak for yourself.

I think your idea of what contitutes acting like a woman and what malory21 and I consider constitutes being a woman are very different - nothing wrong with that and I think she is just speaking for herself, as am I.

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If it works for you, great. I'm sure it would work quite well for a number of bored vanilla housewives as well. But putting things in these terms sounds very much like you are 'bashing' right back.

I think mallory21 is simply trying to say that maybe women who think the lifestyle we have chosen is "nuts" or whatever should just trial it and see what, if any difference it makes to their lives before they admonish us for ours. I dont think her intention was/is to bash anyone back. Of course, being a 1950's housewife or a sub (male or female), wont work for everyone.

And if a woman has her own career, equal to her husband's, why should she be expected to go through all these extra motions that he does not? Unless she has made the choice to be his slave, and gets pleasure from these actions(and his reciprocation as Master)?

I kind of think thats the point. We have chosen to be submissive because to please our Masters in these little ways give us pleasure. I know from experience when I have been this submissive with a master that I am repaid 10 fold in the bedroom. I wouldnt be submissive to any man who didnt appreciate it.

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ORIGINAL: cindyhypno

*laughing softly* Actually that is totally appealing, totally

Cynthia

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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247

have seen that around for years now, too bad it's probably a phoney. although i do agree with it pretty much 100%, whether for a wife or a slave. i kinda have an old-fashioned view of "wife" that's no longer supported by western society...so slavery fits better under the circumstances.

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ORIGINAL: SamKeithsslave

Agreed, unfortunately, less and less couples are unable to have this lifestyle due to interest rates and the cost of living.

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In the Vanilla world I'd be bashed for trying to set female rights back a 100 years by saying this

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ORIGINAL: Lady Alaria
Stop 'fighting nature'? EEK! This type of argument has been used, over and over, to justify burning sexual deviants at the stake(And in a modern context, _you_ are a sexual deviant). Please think about the language you are using.

Okay its this type of responses that I would fear I'd get from Vanilla people in my life if I expressed my preferences to them.

Women's lib gave us the choice. Whatever works for you is(mostly) ok.

Why only mostly ok? I am not trying to say it should always be ok, just clarifying what you mean, thanks.
 
Sure, some people will bash you, but people do that. They'll find a reason. Particularly if you go looking for something to be offended about. But before you say things would be so much better in the good old days, try and picture what life would be like for you if the reverse gender roles were the norm, and mandated by law. A lot of people would love that too. Not so sure you would.

Yes, some people do bash, I have noticed that. I dont look for offense, but have to say being akin to being burnt at the stake etc isnt exactly friendly LOL [:D]
I dont think the gender roles should be Male = Dom and Woman = sub, clearly that doesnt always work. But I do believe there is a lot to be said for there being one of each in a relationship.

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247

have seen that around for years now, too bad it's probably a phoney. although i do agree with it pretty much 100%, whether for a wife or a slave. i kinda have an old-fashioned view of "wife" that's no longer supported by western society...so slavery fits better under the circumstances.

No, this is authentic.  I remember being taught that in health class.
 
There is a saying "If you remember the 60's..you weren't there".  I feel the same about those that yearn for the 50's- "tey never had to live it"
 
But as in everything- people take what they like and chuck the rest.

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ORIGINAL: slavemaia

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In the Vanilla world I'd be bashed for trying to set female rights back a 100 years by saying this

Not really since women's liberation was about the right to choose, not necessarily to be out there working. Today i can choose to serve rather than feel obligated to whether i wish it or not.

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My boy can't wait until I make enough money that his life is making my coffee, cooking my meals, and catering to me at all times. As it is, we both work, he caters to me a great deal, and I in turn pamper him from time to time. Does it make me less of a Domme that sometimes I bathe him in the shower? Or that sometimes I tell him to rest and fetch what he needs? I think not.

No matter what gender you are, if you seek to be a house slave, the 1950s sort of thing can be nearly on target, but we have to stay flexible. [/rant]

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ORIGINAL: slavejali

Do we get to wear the frilly apron too?