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profile - 11/23/2006 7:48:40 AM

Hellhole789

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how can i and any other subs/slaves imporve our profiles to make them better for attracting Mistress/Dommes/Maters/Dom

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RE: profile - 11/23/2006 8:51:57 AM

MissyRane

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Do a little research and you can find a lot of topics...

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RE: profile - 11/23/2006 9:19:40 AM

onlythewindknows

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reveal a little bit about the real you. (not personal details but what is true about you.)
most Dom(me)s don't want a "robo-sub."
that said, most Dom(me)s don't want a "do-me" sub either.
a gentle suggestion (i took a look at your profile) - you might want to mention a little more about what you can offer your Prospective and/or highlight some of your most positive and endearing qualities. i am sure you have many :-)

< Message edited by onlythewindknows -- 11/23/2006 9:22:19 AM >

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RE: profile - 11/23/2006 10:29:05 AM

FLsubmalecd

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Hellhole789

how can i and any other subs/slaves imporve our profiles to make them better for attracting Mistress/Dommes/Maters/Dom

I would suggest that you write a profile that expresses exactly what you are looking for. That is...if you are looking for a long term committed relationship, a bond of love and submission, say so. If you are looking for just a play partner, say so. The point is, be 100% honest about yourself, your desire to serve and submit to a Domme and how you view your place in her life.
Perhaps describe in broad terms exactly what kind of relationship you seek. Describe the Domme that you are willing to serve. What qualities you seek in her role as a Domme. But I do not mean to describe anything sexual in nature. That is the single biggest mistake I see most males make.
If you heard it once, you heard it a thousand times. Dommes, are first and foremost Women and Ladies. Treat them as such in your profile information. Be respectful.
Stay away from your fantasies, kinks, wants and needs in the sexual or scene arena.  They already know you want and desire some sort of BDSM desires fore filled. No need to get into them before you give them a chance to know you as a male first. Yo me it is no different then the way you would approach a Woman in real time. You surely would not approach her and start telling her of all your kinks, sexual interests etc. it is no different here in cyberland.
Take time to tell anyone viewing your profile what other interests you have, be it golf, fishing, singing, gardening etc. Give them a clear picture of your personality.

I tends to wear my feelings on my sleeve. That can be a bad thing at times. But in my case it worked when I wrote my profile. I laid it all out there for anyone to read. it was from the heart and 100% open and honest.
It must have shown, since I am one of the lucky ones that has found the ONE and ONLY that I want to love and serve for the rest of my life. I feel very lucky and blessed that my profile attracted Her attention and that She has me under consideration as not only Her submissive, but as Her life partner too.
I wish you luck in finding what it is you are looking for.

So on this sentimental day of Thanksgiving, I am especially thankful to Collarme.com and the Great Goddess above for bringing us together.


I wish you... and all that read this a very Happy Thanksgiving.

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RE: profile - 11/23/2006 12:10:21 PM

GoddessDustyGold

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*Sigh* Welcome to the boards. If you hang about for a time and read, you will probably learn a lot about what drives a FemDom and how to get her interested. You will also learn how to best present yourself in an honest manner, to find what it is you really want. First you have to know what others are seeking, what they mean when they describe what they are seeking, and how well you may or may not fit into their needs and wants. Become self-aware.

Your picture is dark, your profile is totally "do me", and I have no idea how you are even attempting to approach a Domina via email.

Here are some threads to get you busy. I am not giving a long list, but I do have a few minutes between My Thanksgiving Day brunch, and the dinner I am attending in another hour.

10 Steps to Making a first impression
http://www.collarchat.com/m_30125/mpage_1/key_profile/tm.htm#30125

Finding a Mistress
http://www.collarchat.com/m_142335/mpage_1/key_profile/tm.htm#142335

Why isn't a Mistress interested
http://www.collarchat.com/m_121950/mpage_1/key_profile/tm.htm#121950

Why cain't I find a Mistress?
http://www.collarchat.com/m_304760/mpage_1/key_profile/tm.htm#304760

And most recently (maybe not even totally dead yet!)
Approaching a Mistress Online
http://www.collarchat.com/m_690657/mpage_1/key_profile/tm.htm#690657

You should also see about getting away from the computer and looking for local munches and other events/demos in your area.

If you do a search, you can find lots more. This is a very common question/complaint/rant.

Good luck and happy reading!

Edited to add: I am not, on a personal level, thrilled or drawn to your chosen user name. Hellhole? You should do a search regarding that subject also. There has been alot written on a user name and the first impression it can make.

< Message edited by GoddessDustyGold -- 11/23/2006 12:12:40 PM >

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RE: profile - 11/23/2006 2:16:50 PM

crouchingtigress

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i always look for a person that will bring joy and peace to my household....i stop short at your photo....you seem sad and aloof in you photo...Not that you are but that is what i see in that pic....

thats my experiance of your profile.

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RE: profile - 11/23/2006 3:14:42 PM

joyinslavery

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Include your weight on your profile.

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RE: profile - 11/23/2006 3:48:42 PM

sissifytoserve

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http://www.collarchat.com/m_693506/tm.htm

Great thread.

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RE: profile - 11/24/2006 6:48:56 AM

MisPandora

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Hellhole789

how can i and any other subs/slaves imporve our profiles to make them better for attracting Mistress/Dommes/Maters/Dom

Have a name that isn't so ominous?

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RE: profile - 11/24/2006 7:39:32 AM

Morrigel

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I'm not sure if other dommes like this, but I like to read journal entries. Intimate or casual, I find that the journal entries tell me much more about the man/woman and his/her personality than anything else.

--M

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