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RE: How To be A Good Master - 11/26/2006 1:03:33 PM

KnightofMists

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ORIGINAL: dannyocean

But with this realtionship my sub wants me to control all aspects of her life, from what we do on a daily basis, to what she wears. This is a great challenge for me, as I have a fairly stressful job, which is easily controlable.

So, do you want to control all those things?... do want to micro manage her?... Is she just trying to absolve herself of responsiblity?

Do you want authority?... or Do want to be shackled to controlling your sub?

Many don't understand the distinction... do you?

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I just want to be able to please her, as much as she pleases me, and i do love her, as he is a very attractive, openminded young women, who I know is so happy to of found a guy like me.

there is nothing wrong with wanting to see your girl pleased... but the quesition is... are you shackling yourself to control her in the way she wants to be controlled? and thus really be controlled by her... are are you going to control her in ways that pleases You and her?

You need to understand the balance between ... controling her for your pleasure vrs controling her for her pleasure.

If it's a burden to control.. then it will never last... Enjoy it or move on... don't pretend!

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RE: How To be A Good Master - 11/26/2006 3:20:46 PM

LordODiscipline

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I third this discordance.

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Gosh I REALLY dislike that site and think that it presents a very fluffy, overly romantacized view of WIITWD. I would personally not recommend it.

I'll second that failure to recommend.

Midnight Writer, in a rare AOL mood...

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RE: How To be A Good Master - 11/27/2006 3:58:57 PM

TopZippy

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Ok buddy, here it comes.

You want to control, then control. Just do it.

Control yourself, first. This include all aspects; mentally, physically and emotionally. Put on the armor, be strong. Trust me on this, if you don't feel it naturally, fake it until it does.

Second, be explict with her about what you want to control, and what you do not. Do no leave it to her to figure out what you want. Tell her, in detail. She will respect that. The thing I have heard most from subs/slaves is they hate confusion and poor follow through.

Be the rock for her. She wants your strength, your confidence, your control, and you have to be up for the challenge. Buddy, it is up to you to be the Dom you want to be.

Good luck, from TopZippy

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