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Is it just me? - 11/24/2006 5:19:13 AM

Quivver

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I have you ask you all something about male subs.
I perfer my place as a submissive, ... although for some reason I find male switches and subs who are wanting friendships and that's ok with me.
BUT!
Never have I ran into so many questions! All those little helpful offers and
all I find make me squicky!!! What's up with this? Is this common?

Sigh...............

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RE: Is it just me? - 11/24/2006 5:22:53 AM

Jhin

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Definatly common, it's hard to sort through it all, I would suggest adjusting your profile setting to help a bit. Be careful of giving out too much information. There are alot of male subs on this site. happy searching btw :)

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RE: Is it just me? - 11/24/2006 5:35:35 AM

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You mean you don't get why they're asking you really really REALLY specific questions about what you do?

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RE: Is it just me? - 11/24/2006 5:43:57 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Quivver

I have you ask you all something about male subs.
I perfer my place as a submissive, ... although for some reason I find male switches and subs who are wanting friendships and that's ok with me.
BUT!
Never have I ran into so many questions! All those little helpful offers and
all I find make me squicky!!! What's up with this? Is this common?

Sigh...............

Clue; you're female

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RE: Is it just me? - 11/24/2006 6:04:02 AM

Quivver

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Ah ladies I'm far from helpless... I'm one of those that are submissive to few so when I sniff sub in a male
my Dominant side tends to show. My question was more so if that's just a comon trait to male subs? Ick!
but if so, I'm glad you all like it!

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RE: Is it just me? - 11/24/2006 9:09:32 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Quivver

Ah ladies I'm far from helpless... I'm one of those that are submissive to few so when I sniff sub in a male
my Dominant side tends to show. My question was more so if that's just a comon trait to male subs? Ick!
but if so, I'm glad you all like it!

I'll need you to be more specific about what you're being asked.

If they are asking for personal or sexual details, I'd heard tops ask that stuff too -- not all just like not all bottoms will ask about them.

If they are offering to help or if they can do anything for you that can be motivated by a couple of things.

First just the "need" to feel like they are helpful or useful -- I think that can be common across gender and sex lines. We had a lesbian lady who identified as a slave here in our town several years ago who was always asking others if they needed her to help them with yard work or take them to the grocery store or whatever. She told me that she felt less lonely when she was serving in some capacity -- I got her involved in some charity work and a church and that really helped her out.

Second it can be the fantasy of serving a woman, any woman, so they pick anyone who fits the woman part. I don't know if that would apply to bi or lesbian submissives as well.

Third, they might just be helpful folks or folks who like to do things for others. Not a real submissive drive as in the first case but just a general drive to help. That can and does apply to tops all the time.

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RE: Is it just me? - 11/24/2006 9:12:08 AM

LadyHugs

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Dear Quiver, Ladies and Gentlemen;

Just face it Quiver--you are a lass with class and men will be drawn to it.

Respectfully submitted,
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RE: Is it just me? - 11/24/2006 9:39:01 AM

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Yes, it's common that some sub males online will troll on whomever they can gain attention from, be it a fem dom, a fem sub, or otherwise.

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RE: Is it just me? - 11/24/2006 10:31:40 AM

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ORIGINAL: Quivver

I'm one of those that are submissive to few so when I sniff sub in a male
my Dominant side tends to show.

Perhaps you've answered your own question (?).

Like moths to a flame...you know?

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RE: Is it just me? - 11/24/2006 2:52:42 PM

pixelslave

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Quivver

I have you ask you all something about male subs.
I perfer my place as a submissive, ... although for some reason I find male switches and subs who are wanting friendships and that's ok with me.
BUT!
Never have I ran into so many questions! All those little helpful offers and all I find make me squicky!!! What's up with this? Is this common?

Sigh...............

I suggest you trust your gut. Not all of us are made from the same stuff! Some can genuinely be friends and are able to respect your boundaries. Others are as desperate and angry as some you see that regularly post here on the boards and will do whatever it takes to try and take advantage. If something is said that doesn't feel right to you, then I suggest you simply tell them so.

At the same time, I do agree with Tammy Jo that when you're naturally submissive, and you've not had an outlet for the need to serve, there's a tendency to want to give to anyone who appears to be in need. And I can certainly understand why a man would find you very attractive and want to fulfill your needs, especially if your have indeed listed yourself as as switch (or did I perhaps misunderstand the latter?)! For some men in their desperate and irrational minds, their thinking might be such that there might be the slightest of chances that they just might wind up getting more than only a "thanks" and convert you to a full fledged Domme! (sigh)

Bottom line, if what you're really here for is to meet a Dom, I strongly suggest that you don't advertise yourself as a switch (provided that was actually the case) and perhaps just ignore the rest, unless it is you that initiates the first contact by your own choice!

- pixel

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