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Missokyst -> "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 9:45:11 AM)

I will admit this tends to be a pet peeve of mine but I can feel my teeth cringe when I see those words typed from strangers.
"How are you little one?"  "How're you doing baby?" "Sweet dreams, little one."
Egads.  These people don't even know me!
I know this is my own personal bias, but it just ticks me off as manufactured closeness.
Do you all have words or phrases that just irritate you when said by a stranger?  Or.. do I need another cup of coffee?
Kyst



cuddleheart50 -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 9:46:42 AM)

I have the same pet peeves as you.  And another one I cant stand is........... Excuse me!!!!



crouchingtigress -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 9:46:44 AM)

lil missy, missy, or any variation drives me up a wall[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m28.gif[/image]



behindmirrors -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 9:50:22 AM)

For me, it's when someone either doesn't address me at all, or calls me "subbie" in a message- as if I'm their submissive or they can just order me around without introduction...then again, they can't order me around with introduction, either! I'm also annoyed getting the types of messages you listed above...sheesh, if you know me well, a pet name is fine. But if you don't know me well, don't claim ownership, even through terms of endearment!

behindmirrors.



LotusSong -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 9:52:57 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I will admit this tends to be a pet peeve of mine but I can feel my teeth cringe when I see those words typed from strangers.
"How are you little one?"  "How're you doing baby?" "Sweet dreams, little one."
Egads.  These people don't even know me!
I know this is my own personal bias, but it just ticks me off as manufactured closeness.
Do you all have words or phrases that just irritate you when said by a stranger?  Or.. do I need another cup of coffee?
Kyst


"hon"   arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh



SweetSarijane -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 9:54:02 AM)

Little one, baby, girl, my dear, etc. all irritate me when said by strangers. I have one very close dominant friend who calls me girl or by my name, and he asked if it was ok with me for him to call me girl. The dominant I'm building a relationship with occasionally calls me little one and usually calls me by a shorter version of my name. Them I have no problem with.



Missokyst -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 9:55:12 AM)

LOL... I have to admit I call people Hon, when I am being sarcastic.
Kyst

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

"hon"   arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh



Caitriona -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 9:56:43 AM)

It gets to me when strangers refer to me by any variant of the "this girl" phrasing that I see so often.  It has been the decision of my Dom and I that I am called by my name, unless he is calling me by his pet name for me.  I understand that it's not uncommon to have subs/slaves referred to as such, but it would make the whole thing so much less aggravating if people would just ask how I would prefer to be addressed!

/end rant

*deep breath*



behindmirrors -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 9:58:20 AM)

Haha, I've been known to call people (but only people I know well) "dear". Dunno why, just one of those things. I only call close real-life friends "hon"...and usually only if they come running to me when something bad happens.

behindmirrors.



angelic -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 9:59:31 AM)

the word "subbie" in any form (other than a sub sandwich) acts like nails on a chalkboard for me.  [&:]



Missokyst -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 10:07:11 AM)

I call everyone by first names.. mostly so I remember them!  I save terms such as "hon" for sarcasm because to me it sounds almost like I am thinking of them as a child.  The bad thing is, as a former retail slave, I got into the habit of calling people sir, or maam when they made me so irritated I felt the urge to cuss.  It really tainted the sir dynamic for me.. "sir" for me now means:

good gawd you freakin idiot, buy a clue.

People who know me well can feel free to lavish pet names on me.  I enjoy that.  I was pooh bear to my former mate, and he was hunnybear to me.  "Dear" still bugs me because that is what my ex hubby called me.  I am pretty sure he forgot my name among all the other women he had.
Kyst

quote:

ORIGINAL: behindmirrors

Haha, I've been known to call people (but only people I know well) "dear". Dunno why, just one of those things. I only call close real-life friends "hon"...and usually only if they come running to me when something bad happens.

behindmirrors.



ShreveportMaster -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 10:16:51 AM)

 Chuckles,
Hon, luv, etc is a Southern thing, we use it all the time, and most of our girls (I'm talking those who were raised here, or who moved and adopted the customs, etc) love it. Of course it also helps that Southerners by and large will help any female who needs assistance, it's again part and parcel of the culture. Perhaps that's why the gals don't mind, they know they really are seen as something special. Or not. Mayhaps that's one of those things that only The Shadow knows. MMMMMmuuuuahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaaaaa...... [:D]

                                                                                            I wish you well,
                                                                                                                   Shreve 



Squeakers -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 10:21:23 AM)

I hate it when people talk in 3rd person.   This girl...this slave...this one...if it's a conversation between her and her one---that's fine but otherwise---for me it's annoying as hell



Missokyst -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 10:35:50 AM)

[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m11.gif[/image]  Actually, when spoken by a southern man, those terms are quite acceptable.  Sexy as heck, in fact.  But that is spoken.  It would still make me cringe to see it typed out by a stranger.  Now.. a southern drawl whispered in my ear or just spoken with a smile from a man I just met.. <puddle>
Kyst

quote:

ORIGINAL: ShreveportMaster

Chuckles,
Hon, luv, etc is a Southern thing, we use it all the time, and most of our girls (I'm talking those who were raised here, or who moved and adopted the customs, etc) love it.



Aileen68 -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 10:39:00 AM)

Sometimes complete strangers will call me one of these "intimate" sounding names and it doesn't bother me.  It seems to suit their personality.  And sometimes it comes across as being sooo sleazy.  For me it all depends on who it is saying it and how it fits within the personality that comes out in their profile.    A favorite Texan calls me sweety.  It fits and I like it.  Coming from someone else, I doubt I'd like it nearly as much. 



TxBlkMistress -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 10:39:21 AM)

Now keep in mind these are all "first" emails that I get:

I know these are popular terms for a Domme, but I can't stand, Goddess or  Queen, or they refer to me as "their (put in Goddess, Queen, etc.)".  I don't think it's very respectful to call someone "hon, babe, hey baby, gorgeous" for goodness sake just say "hello"....LOL 

Also, if you are not chosen by me, please do NOT end the email with "your slave"



LordODiscipline -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 10:42:09 AM)

LOL..
And, you should - it is condescending and minimalizes you as a person (submissive or not)...
 
Whereas objectification is something that is (indeed) fun, and where pet names are often part and parcel of a relationship - starting out with those words (or, ones similar) is pretentious and assuming on both the person being written to and toward any potential relationship that might exist.
 
This is something which also sets my teeth on edge (when I see people posting in this way) - and- I tend to think that they must be ignorant of social ammenities or (perhaps) been on line for such a long time that such behavior is melted into their stunted vocabulary.
 
Needless to say, I want to regurgitate or ask the writer (when I see such a thing) whether they have ever dealt with people in real life -and- if so - whether they have ever been assaulted for assuming this amount on a relationship that does ot exist....
 
But, that is just me.
 
~J

quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I will admit this tends to be a pet peeve of mine but I can feel my teeth cringe when I see those words typed from strangers.
"How are you little one?"  "How're you doing baby?" "Sweet dreams, little one."
Egads.  These people don't even know me!
I know this is my own personal bias, but it just ticks me off as manufactured closeness.
Do you all have words or phrases that just irritate you when said by a stranger?  Or.. do I need another cup of coffee?
Kyst



Missokyst -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 10:42:25 AM)

Good point.  I am sure this instant familarity flips to the other side with the same distaste.  Dominants out there, what gets your goat on first contact?
Kyst

quote:

ORIGINAL: TxBlkMistress

Now keep in mind these are all "first" emails that I get:

I don't think it's very respectful to call someone "hon, babe, hey baby, gorgeous" for goodness sake just say "hello"....LOL 




RiotGirl -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 10:47:05 AM)

i dont like it either by strangers and generally i'll ignore it or say something polite about it.  If i'm in a bitchy mood i'll give them a what for, for taking the liberty no one has given them.  



Morrigel -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 10:49:30 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ShreveportMaster

Chuckles,
Hon, luv, etc is a Southern thing, we use it all the time, and most of our girls (I'm talking those who were raised here, or who moved and adopted the customs, etc) love it. Of course it also helps that Southerners by and large will help any female who needs assistance, it's again part and parcel of the culture. Perhaps that's why the gals don't mind, they know they really are seen as something special. Or not. Mayhaps that's one of those things that only The Shadow knows. MMMMMmuuuuahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaaaaa...... [:D]

                                                                                           I wish you well,
                                                                                                                  Shreve 


Agreed, and we use the words "hon", "sugar" and "darlin'" the same ways toward men and women.  It's not a negative thing, it's just a way of showing that you don't find people threatening--which is a good thing where I was raised, but I guess people elsewhere in the country feel that you don't "respect" them unless you act as if they're scary.  [;)]

--M



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