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tetherboy -> Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 12:16:59 AM)
This might be a little bit of an odd approach, but I thought I would try it and see what happens. I really would like to speak with a lifestyle Dominant who has a very firm grasp on what the lifestyle is and what it all means. I have some very personal questions that I'm struggling with and while I am sure there is help available here, I'd prefer to not put myself out so openly by discussing it within this forum. I am looking for someone who is very knowledgable and doesn't mind helping other people. Due to the uncertainy of this medium, I'd most appreciate someone referring another, rather than picking up the ball and running with it themselves. Gah! I hope all of this makes sense. I just need to talk with someone that isn't going to steer me down the wrong path. Thank you so much!

Lorelei115 -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 12:36:09 AM)
Lessee.. I would reccomend LuckyAlbatross, MistressFireMa'am, MisPandora, Lashra, DiurnalVampire, MstrssPassion... really pretty much anyone on these boards is willing to help if you have questions and they all have wisdom in their own ways.

BitaTruble -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 12:54:34 AM)
I can't recommend someone to you because I don't know if they are willing to help you in a private context, but I would like to suggest that you speak to at least a few people so you get some diversity of opinions then you can see where those who are knowledgeable diverge and where they intersect and get a more well rounded view of things. Best of luck to you, tetherboy. Celeste

ownedgirlie -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 1:07:01 AM)
I only wanted to say that I think the black bar to conceal your dog's identity is hilarious!!! [:D] Welcome to CM and best of luck to you.

tetherboy -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 2:32:36 AM)
Lorelei, Thank you for the reply. I'll contact the ladies you suggested. I appreciate it a great deal.

MisPandora -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 4:42:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lorelei115 Lessee.. I would reccomend LuckyAlbatross, MistressFireMa'am, MisPandora, Lashra, DiurnalVampire, MstrssPassion... really pretty much anyone on these boards is willing to help if you have questions and they all have wisdom in their own ways. Thanks for your confidence, but I'm not the person to come to for advice. If I care to engage someone in their personal problems here on the board voluntarily, that's MY choice. I would ask that folks NOT write me on the other side asking for help as this poor fellow did today.

MstrssPassion -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 5:22:58 AM)
I don't have any problem with being contacted on the other side & I did reply to the note you sent. Unfortunately, I really couldn't figure out what it was you were asking. In fact it seems that you were asking many things but you didn't provide enough info about each question in order to form a reply.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 7:28:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lorelei115 Lessee.. I would reccomend LuckyAlbatross, MistressFireMa'am, MisPandora, Lashra, DiurnalVampire, MstrssPassion... really pretty much anyone on these boards is willing to help if you have questions and they all have wisdom in their own ways. I might be making an egotistical assumption...but...MasterFireMaam, not Mistress. The mistake is easy to make...no worries. Master Fire

Lorelei115 -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 9:00:19 AM)
Gawd, it was very late at night... here's the lesson, don't sleepwalk and type! I do know that MasterFireMaam... I really don't know where my head was at. MisPandora, I apologize for offering up your name without asking, sorry if any offence was given. Now that I think about it I probably shouldn't have offered up anyones names without seeking their consent. bows humbly Again, my apologies.

pixelslave -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 10:56:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tetherboy This might be a little bit of an odd approach, but I thought I would try it and see what happens. I really would like to speak with a lifestyle Dominant who has a very firm grasp on what the lifestyle is and what it all means. I have some very personal questions that I'm struggling with and while I am sure there is help available here, I'd prefer to not put myself out so openly by discussing it within this forum. I am looking for someone who is very knowledgable and doesn't mind helping other people. Due to the uncertainy of this medium, I'd most appreciate someone referring another, rather than picking up the ball and running with it themselves. Gah! I hope all of this makes sense. I just need to talk with someone that isn't going to steer me down the wrong path. Thank you so much! tetherboy, I don't think you realize it, but you've very indirectly asked for the help you seek, which may in fact be part of the problem you are having. I strongly suggest that if there is a Domme who participates on this forum with whom you seem to identify, you approach her respectfully and inquire if you can seek her advice. As an added note, others may in fact have the same issues that concern you and would benefit from your asking any of your questions in public that you at all felt comfortable with. Often, when one person has a question, you can bet that many others who read these message boards, have the same question in their minds as well, but also fear posting them for the very same reasons as you. [;)] Best of luck to you in your search for the answers you seek. [:D] - pixel

LordVelvet -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 11:54:07 AM)
tetherboy, I don't know if it is a Dom or Domme. I don't pretend to have all of the answers or even the questions but you can contact ME if you chose.

LadyHugs -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 12:42:17 PM)
Dear tetherboy, Ladies and Gentlemen; I don't mind helping individuals here on the forum, in note form/E-mail and or face to face. My advice though, is to put your questions down on paper and then write it out and go over it in review, as to see if it makes sense or not to you first before putting it to another for review. My personal experiences have been, that every single soul living has a journey that they must walk alone at times. And, to put to words what one feels is often difficult and or impossible, as words fail to fully express what your spirit, mind and soul aches to speak out and question others about. Just do the best you can. Communications is extremely important. In addition, even though you do not find the answers you seek; you may have been enlightened on how to look in things differently. People will see the very same item in so many different ways...and, they are all correct at times. Hope this helps you on the journey lad. Respectfully submitted for consideration, Lady Hugs

Morrigel -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 12:50:27 PM)
I have a lot of conversational email contact over on the other side, but most of the questions people ask are not of the self-help variety. Nevertheless, I am not against anyone contacting me, if they choose to. So long as they are polite, I will always try to answer politely, even if the honest answer is, "I don't know" or "I can't say". --M

MisPandora -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 2:06:19 PM)
Sadly, the question he's posing would really benefit others being asked publically. It's something that I find not all that unique, and I'd be willing to bet there are folks here going through the same thing.

tetherboy -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 3:15:37 PM)
I appreciate the responses from everyone. You have been very supportive. Before I approached solving this matter in this way, I combed the forums looking for others who might have posted along the same lines and it was because I didn't find any that I decided to go the more covert route. I do not wish to be trying to figure these things out in a public setting at this time. I will, however, be more than happy to share with others once I feel I'm in a place to do so. I keep waiting for someone to write the how-to book, and perhaps it will be me. :)

MstrssPassion -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 3:23:37 PM)
if this was easy... everyone would be trying to figure out how to be something else there are no easy 1,2,3 answers I little tid-bit of wisdom passed down by my Father years ago: Anything worth having in life is worth working for because those things that come easy to us are often unappreciated.

sophia37 -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 5:56:06 PM)
I see we've got our newest member, a yellow lab who refuses to reveal himself. Its cool he got his sub tetherboy to write his questions for him. Im impressed. Cant wait to hear more. Unfortunately I told my irish water spaniel about it all. So now Im sposed to ask questions to tetherboy about whats the best way to Dom the cat? I told my dog Cassidy, the first step was to stop chasing him, but who listens to me?

gooddogbenji -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 6:03:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tetherboy I appreciate the responses from everyone. You have been very supportive. Before I approached solving this matter in this way, I combed the forums looking for others who might have posted along the same lines and it was because I didn't find any that I decided to go the more covert route. I do not wish to be trying to figure these things out in a public setting at this time. I will, however, be more than happy to share with others once I feel I'm in a place to do so. I keep waiting for someone to write the how-to book, and perhaps it will be me. :) Why not just create a sham profile, ask the questions, then read the answers? We get tons of one time posters, so no one would think it weird, and the sham might even get some "Hey, good question, but your profile needs work," comments. Yours, benji Edited because my proofreading was on par with an illiterate dyslexic's during an orgasm.

yourMissTress -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (11/30/2006 6:58:19 PM)
I promise that if you ask the question in the open forums that I will neither make fun of you or think less of you. I can only speak for myself. If MisPandora thinks that others would benefit from the discussion that would follow your question, then please ask it. If you were unable to find any other discussion based on the same idea, then you might be helping someone else by asking it.

MisPandora -> RE: Looking for a Wise Referral for Questions (12/1/2006 4:02:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tetherboy I appreciate the responses from everyone. You have been very supportive. Before I approached solving this matter in this way, I combed the forums looking for others who might have posted along the same lines and it was because I didn't find any that I decided to go the more covert route. I do not wish to be trying to figure these things out in a public setting at this time. I will, however, be more than happy to share with others once I feel I'm in a place to do so. I keep waiting for someone to write the how-to book, and perhaps it will be me. :) You have it together more than you give yourself credit for. Write the book.

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