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ORIGINAL: obedientslave1
Mia, I MzMia,  they are different, just as you stated. However, a true male submissive understands his role is to serve his Mistress and does not constantly need all the trappings (fetish gear, whips, etc.) to serve.  When you submit completely, your only focus is serving and obeying your mistress, regardless or location or time.  It means to devote yourself to serving your Mistress needs on a daily basis. Be it washing clothes, running errands, or kneeling and listening attentively at her knees while she talks about her day.
 
Also, I don’t feel mental domination is as tough as some believe. A true male sub is wired to submit to a female. With the right chemistry, it does not take long submit completely. At least, that has been my experience.
 mike

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

Physical submission? So easy to find. LOL
Mental submission? Almost impossible to find.

I'm not sure that is completely true. I can't submit full physically unless i have a deep connection so maybe not quite so easy as you'd think.

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ORIGINAL: Grlwithboy

I could be with the most thoughtful, demuring, submissive, and slavelike person. And if he/she didn't salivate over the whip or the paddle -- it wouldn't work out. Call me greedy, need both.

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ORIGINAL: MzMia
To ME, real submission is MORE mental than physical.

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ORIGINAL: WhiteRadiance

To me what is most important is the mental aspect of the relationship. I can play with anyone, (although I don't) and I enjoy playing, but it is not the most important thing to me.  Playing, however, has worth in that it is fun and light- hearted and can be relaxing whereas, in some instances, a long term relationship is very draining to the mental energy.

There are a lot of different opinions. The trick is to find someone who thinks as you do- and who is not simply telling you what you want to hear in order to have some fun.  
 
I want to be adored for my entire self- not just for how I look, or what I wear, say and do.  Anyone can dress up in fetish attire, hold a whip and spout phrases like "lick my shoes, slave".  To many "subs", this is what being dominant is all about.  Dressing up is fun, playing is fun, but it is not D/s.
(and I know all about dressing up!)

To own his mind.. To permeate his every thought.. seduce his senses.. and make him WANT to please me.  This to me is domination.  He wakes up thinking of me.. he breathes me, he tastes me.. his every thought is focused upon me.
He derives his pleasure by merging it with the pleasure his submission gives me.. he knows what he can do to make me happy, and stops at nothing, until he knows I am absolutely fulfilled.  And when I am fulfilled, he is as well.  That is my idea of D/s.. but as I said- sometimes playing is damn fun as well.
 

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ORIGINAL: WalterRego

The concept is certainly correct, that mental domination is superior, more fulfilling etc to both sides of the slash. But I don't see that there is a real dichotomy here because there is no way to demonstrate that mental control or submission without some physical acts or activities. For some it will be shown by a sub performing services, or becoming physically excited by the sight or words of the Dominant; for others it may be by the sub's submission to the traditional (or non-traditional) activities we all associate with BDSM.

Physical acts, whether traditional scene play or service or activities which the sub doesn't like but does for you any way are  in that sense a convenient marker or reef point to show the level of a Dominant's mental control and the sub's submission.

How would you know that you are in his thoughts, constantly whereever he goes without some physical manifestation of it? So aren't you just picking the type of manifestation which appeals to you?