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Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 8:27:24 AM

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Wasn't sure if there was any real point in posting this but i've decided i'm going to. For a site where we consistently moan about the way people judge us for our choices in life i find it pretty amusing the pathetic levels some will go to.
A while back in one of the threads i had opened i had a very open and i'm sure most of you saw it disagreement with a few people about my opinions etc. Since then i have responded to posts by most of these people and they have responded to mine. No grudges or bad feeling have been held. We disagreed and i have to say i think it was mostly down to misunderstanding but it's over and done with.
This said one of these people threatened to ignore my posts if i did not bend to their opinions. I responded to this politely (i think) and never recieved response from them. I forgot all about it to be honest until as said a few days ago when they posted a thread which i responded to.
Every person (as far as i can tell) that has posted in this thread has recieved an individual reply to what they had posted - that is except me lol. Now whilst i find this pretty funny, i'm actually quite amazed that someone would choose to ignore someone completely for one difference of opinion.

Is it me or is this really childish?

* Of course there is always the chance they just had no response to make to my post but considering the dynamics of that post i would have at least recieved a 'thanks for posting' as others have.
*Also i'll add if this person chooses to ignore me then thats their decision to make and of course i respect that but i still find it weird.

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 8:31:22 AM

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Is it me or is this really childish?

It's as childish as the following (which always makes me laugh):

Posters who publicly state that they've blocked someone. Who cares?

Posters who make an announcment that they are "out of this thread and will not return." Only to be seen a few posts later, continuing with their ranting & raving. Fun times.

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 8:38:18 AM

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Thanks Katie - i did wonder if i was being a little over sensitive.
I don't hold grudges and can't understand those who do (each to their own of course).
I never thought a difference of opinion over one thing would affect someone reading anything else i ever put. Go figure lol

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 8:38:28 AM

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Yes, at times it can be childish to behave like that.
You may also be correct that the person had no response toward your post as well or that they may very well be ignoring you/your posts.

I have to admit, I have chosen to ignore a couple people on this site for various reasons, the most recent being for personally attacking and insulting me. I don't take kindly to being attacked personally. But then that's just me.

P.S. I like to agree to disagree and let bygones be bygones after the posts and debates are over with.

*edited to add a P.S.*

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 8:40:55 AM

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A personal attack or insult is different though in my opinion.
Of course we can ignore those we choose and if i had a constant clash of opinions with this person i could definately understand if they were ignoring me.

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 8:41:46 AM

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I wouldn't worry about it unless it becomes a pattern, and then not all that much. Disagreeing, in an agreeable sort of way, can be tricky. Sometimes a nerve will get brushed against in just the wrong way, on just the wrong day, and someone will get a bit pissed. See where you are with them in a week or so. You are far too much fun in the forums to stay mad at

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 8:43:44 AM

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Mist, I of of the opinion that no one is ever going to agree with me 100%.....and that is a very good thing. It is how I learn and grow.

I don't know what the thread is that you speak of but I do remember when you and I disagreed on hunting. Nothing about that disagreement bothered me in the least. I think we should all be able to have differing thoughts, feelings, opinions, and discuss them, debate them, either come to an agreement or just agree to disagree, without personally attacking one another.

When I see people loose control of their emotions and sink to the level of personal attacks, I just think "Oh grow up already!" I know I have said it before but there are two male dominants that I saw debate an issue in a thread in such a calm, intelligent and mature manner that I will always have in increased respect for both of them.

The whole dramatic flouncing statements of "you are now blocked!" or " I am now finished with this thread!" just totally cracks me up and yeah, I think "oh grow up already!"

And I laugh, but then I totally enjoy watching people make fools of themselves when they don't realize they are doing it.

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 8:44:57 AM

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The thread we disagreed in was a few week back so i think they have taken permanent offence but as you say lifes too short to worry about it.
Glad someone finds me fun lol

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 8:48:17 AM

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I totally agree on the personal insult / attacks.
I had to step away from the thread several times as my frustration at being misread grew but it never came to personal insults or attack by anyone who posted.
I dont remember the hunting disagreement although i do have to say that after reading i think it was mistoferins posts about how deer struggle etc i can at least understand hunting although still cant quite agree with it. Its a start though

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 8:49:50 AM

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It’s a bit sad if you do go as I’ve enjoyed reading the things you’ve had to say in your posts.

I’ve personally never ignored anyone mainly for two reasons: I would not get the full picture as to what was being said in threads and I understand that everyone is entitled to have their opinions heard.

I would never let anyone hound me out of this place and when I leave it will be because I no longer get anything out of being here. I hope you’ve made the decision to leave solely on this basis.

Kind Regards.

Best wishes for the future.

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 8:50:32 AM

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I've seen this happen so many times in several different forums, and it always makes me laugh.

Everyone has their own opinions, and if for one reason or another it rubs someone else the wrong way, well that's just life.

I have been personally attacked many times in forums and chatrooms, I just ignore it. Someone doesn't like me for what I say or think? That's their problem, not mine.

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 8:54:08 AM

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Honestly...is it as childish to start a thread about it?

Maybe the person honestly missed your post? Maybe they have you on block because they didn't feel you added to their experience? Maybe they just feel it's best to not respond? Maybe they got a letter from a moderator asking them to just ignore you to avoid future conflict?

You talk about judging and "pathetic levels" and then immediately ask a question wanting people to support your view that this action is "childish"?

You're going through a lot right now- recent first munch and play, dating a guy who ends up beign a dork, and you apparently hate "christmas and all that's associated with it." I'd suggest exercising more caution on the boards and play it safe on your posting for awhile until things come to a more even keel.

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 8:58:02 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

no one is ever going to agree with me 100%.....and that is a very good thing. It is how I learn and grow.

I totally agree w/ this opinion as well,
just think how boring life would be if everyone had the same opinions/thoughts as everyone else..

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

The whole dramatic flouncing statements of "you are now blocked!" or " I am now finished with this thread!" just totally cracks me up and yeah, I think "oh grow up already!"

And I laugh

Yep!

Then I do the "eye roll" thing too! LOL!

Life is just too damned short not to have fun and have fun people involved. Glad all you fun people are here. LOL

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 8:59:50 AM

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I'm not going anywhere hun lol but thank you.
I like to run amok in the forums from time to time
I'm aiming to be crowned the 'Princess of cm Amok runner' eventually

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 9:00:41 AM

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I would've thought this could be me because I've tried to reply to everyone individually to show appreciation for their replies, but it only took me about 1/2 a day to realize that was very daunting and I quit.

Also, I didn't think in the relatively short amount of time I've posted on the forums I could have an "enemy" -- yes, I may be naive lol

So, hoping it wasn't me, and if it was, or anyone else around is feeling snubbed by not receiving an individual reply -- sorry, it's totally just a lack of energy thing

Whatever the situation is/was, hopefully it's over now, or at least very soon

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 9:09:09 AM

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You have several valid points LA and i did sit on this thread for a couple of days to think about it. The only reason i have posted it is to get the views of others as to whether maybe im being a little sensitive over this.
I am not judging this person in the slightest im asking for opinions of others on it. As i said they have every right to ignore me and i respect that.
Excercising more caution? Im not sure why you would put this. I have asked a question which i was having difficulty answering for myself. Is that not the point of the boards?

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 9:10:48 AM

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Child of the shadow - thank you.

timedoutgirlie - no it definately wasnt you hun

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 9:17:12 AM

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As someone who has come to "blows" (and I dont mean the good kind) with many people here, many times, I can say that in most cases, I do continue to read them and or respond to them from time to time, even if we have had a verbally nasty disagreement in the past.

There is only one person that I consistantly ignore and will not respond to, because I see this person as having a bad 'tude' toward everyone they speak to. Other than that, eh...we all get pissy sometimes and I usually get over it and will not hold a grudge or ignore someone because of it.

Having said that. If I had created a thread, and someone that I had past 'words' with, commented on my OP, I would view that as a graceful gesture on his/her part (unless I sensed underlying snarkiness in the comment of course) and I would most certainly respond in a like manner.
I can't speak for the person in question, but it could be that responding to you affects them or upsets them, so they feel it's best to not respond, to insure that a disagreement will not ensue. There could be a million and one reasons why they don't respond. I wouldn't assume its because they are trying to show you that you are unimportant or not worthy of their comments(though around here it wouldnt surprise me) But there could be other reasons too. I say this because there are a handful of people with whom having disagreements or arguments, upsets me to a great extent, I will therefore often avoid commenting to them. Maybe this could be the case with the person you are speaking of? I don't know.
Trust whatever your gut tells you, I mean, I dont know the exchange you had with the person, or what was said; Im only suggesting that the reasons they dont respond could be one of many. If its the thread I think it was....You were unbelievabley controlled and polite under that barrage of attack. ( Theres no way, I couldve done that without telling a few people to go fuck themselves) Either way, it was big of you to 'let it go' and move beyond it...that says alot about who you are. Nothing this person does or does not do can change that. :)

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 9:18:50 AM

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Every person (as far as i can tell) that has posted in this thread has received an individual reply to what they had posted - that is except me lol.

You end this with lol but the words written don't seem to express amusement.

Please don't see what I have to say as an attack, you did ask for opinions...

This whole scenario screams attention starved. Someone didn't directly respond to something you wrote but they replied to every one else... it seems that you are seeking some sort of double impact. That it isn't enough that you post a reply but you need to have this post acknowledge by those who read it.

So what if someone you had a disagreement with ignores you. It's their choice & no matter how uncomfortable you are with this... or how much you may subconsciously seek out their approval, you can't prevent people from deciding that your presence is not necessary to their posting activities.

I think you already knew that your actions were childish because you were actively surveying just who was responded to & by whom.

Time to come to terms with the fact that some people are simply not going to see eye to eye with every opinion you have & they may decide to disengage with you based on one occurrence of such.

On the bright side... there are about 8 people (so far) that see your words & have directly replied to them.

SMILE & know that you may not have to eat worms today.

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RE: Bit of a rant (i guess) - 12/3/2006 9:19:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

Wasn't sure if there was any real point in posting this but i've decided i'm going to. For a site where we consistently moan about the way people judge us for our choices in life i find it pretty amusing the pathetic levels some will go to.
A while back in one of the threads i had opened i had a very open and i'm sure most of you saw it disagreement with a few people about my opinions etc. Since then i have responded to posts by most of these people and they have responded to mine. No grudges or bad feeling have been held. We disagreed and i have to say i think it was mostly down to misunderstanding but it's over and done with.
This said one of these people threatened to ignore my posts if i did not bend to their opinions. I responded to this politely (i think) and never recieved response from them. I forgot all about it to be honest until as said a few days ago when they posted a thread which i responded to.
Every person (as far as i can tell) that has posted in this thread has recieved an individual reply to what they had posted - that is except me lol. Now whilst i find this pretty funny, i'm actually quite amazed that someone would choose to ignore someone completely for one difference of opinion.

Is it me or is this really childish?

* Of course there is always the chance they just had no response to make to my post but considering the dynamics of that post i would have at least recieved a 'thanks for posting' as others have.
*Also i'll add if this person chooses to ignore me then thats their decision to make and of course i respect that but i still find it weird.

I'm sorry, but you didn't adequately agree with me on my post, let's see, it was #264, I believe, so I'm ignoring you.

Yes, it can be childish, or may be a way just to avoid an irritant, which I've done twice, I think.

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