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The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 8:54:48 AM   
skareamoos


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Status: offline 		It is surely preposterous of me to assume that anyone can privide a reasonable answer to my question, but frustrations drives the fool, so ...... :
THE FACTS: I am in my mid 70s.  I have been kinky since prepubescence.  (Bound ladies ... or males ...  meaningme, were erotic before I understood eroticism.)  In earlier years I was able to satisfy these urges, but I am now at an age which, due to some curious anomaly in the female brain, no woman finds alluring.

Nevertheless, the flames of desire burn noi less brightly thyat in the past, and I am bitterly frustrated over my inability to satisfy these rather inane urges.  (You are at liberty to insert and (s) into in ane ((blank left deliberately )) if you so desire.)

Finally I get to the point:  Does anyone believe that there is the slightest damned chancve that I will be able, at this age, to find an acceptable DS-BDSM partner of whichever persuasion (profile indicates preference) to enhance my so-called "declining years?"

(Responses which say old fool should shut up will be met with understanding, but disdain)

If you lasted so long, thanks.


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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 9:00:08 AM   
LotusSong


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quote:

ORIGINAL: skareamoos

It is surely preposterous of me to assume that anyone can privide a reasonable answer to my question, but frustrations drives the fool, so ...... :
THE FACTS: I am in my mid 70s.  I have been kinky since prepubescence.  (Bound ladies ... or males ...  meaningme, were erotic before I understood eroticism.)  In earlier years I was able to satisfy these urges, but I am now at an age which, due to some curious anomaly in the female brain, no woman finds alluring.

Nevertheless, the flames of desire burn noi less brightly thyat in the past, and I am bitterly frustrated over my inability to satisfy these rather inane urges.  (You are at liberty to insert and (s) into in ane ((blank left deliberately )) if you so desire.)

Finally I get to the point:  Does anyone believe that there is the slightest damned chancve that I will be able, at this age, to find an acceptable DS-BDSM partner of whichever persuasion (profile indicates preference) to enhance my so-called "declining years?"

(Responses which say old fool should shut up will be met with understanding, but disdain)

If you lasted so long, thanks.





I'm 53 and my slave of 10 years is 62.  We agreed to keep going until one of us breaks a  hip.  So yes, it's possible.  A profile pic would help.

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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 9:02:05 AM   
skareamoos


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Status: offline 		No MY pic.  LOL.  Lost 100 lbs last year and it shows rather poorly.

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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 10:59:36 AM   
timeoutgurlie


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Status: offline 		It pains me to say this and coming from someone my age I should probably be caned for even saying such (I don't enjoy caning, I assure you, incase the "threat" sounded idle or worse lol)...

I wouldn't look for one in your age range solely because *if* we hit it off fantastically, I'd know I have a very limited time, and although Hollywood would have us all believe it's better to have loved and lost...of course it is, but it's even *better* to have loved and kept until we both grew old together, right?  I've always wanted moremoremore, and when it comes to the one I love I'm following suit with all else in life I tresure and enjoy...I want as much as possible.

Afterall, what really holds more importance than the time we can spend with the ones we love?

Hope you find someone in your age range, I believe they have to be around and seeking too, best luck, you sound like a cool guy, chicks dig that...at every age

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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 11:02:34 AM   
timeoutgurlie


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Status: offline 		Also, if you were to refer to them as 'golden years', it may sound ever so slightly more appealing than 'declining' -- I know the 'so called' was implicit of the same sentiment as golden, but, you know, market to these ladies a little bit on top of the charming humor

Just read your profile, since you prefer to sumbit, maybe you should consider switching from 'switch' to 'submissive' -- I'm not at all the best person to answer, I was attached when I joined and wasn't seeking anyone, but perhaps the others will be able to better judge.  To me, seems like if a domme is what you're seeking, then they would skip past a switches profile?

Again, not sure, but at any rate you seem delightful, and a sense of humor is always very valuable to the ladies, so you have a huge advantage straight out of the gate, I don't think the age should hold you back much, with exception maybe to the younger members.

Best luck though I doubt you'll need that

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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 12:03:26 PM   
DiamondOrchid


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Status: offline 		Hello skareamoos,
 
Not to answer for any of the other Ladies, but although older isn't an issue for me (I won't have a relationship with anyone younger), my concern would be injury. I'd be terrified of breaking something or doing other serious damage... and how exacly would I explain such an occurence to the hospital? Then there'd be the police and all sorts of other hoopla.
 
Now, since you are referring to Ladies in their 50's as 'young', I'm going to assume you're not interested in someone in my age range (30's). I refuse to believe that I'm the only person who prefers older partners, so I have to say YES you have a "damned chance... to find an acceptable DS-BDSM partner". It just takes time.
 
Best wishes on your journey & search. Keep us posted ok?
 
D.
 
Cute nic btw!

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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 1:21:40 PM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear skareamoos, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
In my mind's eyes I see, several individuals at the age of 70 in a capacity as slave or Master/Mistress.
 
There must be adjustments though--consideration of age and flexing.
However, I can affirm -- a dear friend who was slave now Master, has a slave several decades his junior.
 
I do like older and mature men for many reasons; to which one is that they don't run as fast when I pull out my axe and knives out of the toy bag [Grins/teases].  And, they look might dapper in a tuxedo, gloves and serving me with a silver tray.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 1:30:45 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		To add to whats been said, for everyone out there there is usually someone else looking. I prefer younger men, which means there is a younger man out there who now has an older woman who wants them.  There are always women looking for older men.  As long as your sights are set on realistic age ranges (the chances ofa 18 yr old wanting a 70 yr old is less likely than, say, a 50 or 60 year old wanting one) you should have no problem. Pictures do help, and it doesnt have to be a full body shot, even a face gives someone something to go on.  Congrats on losing the weight.

DV

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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 1:41:21 PM   
DiannaVesta


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Status: offline 		I say "damn right!" I am very healthy because my motivation is to keep on keeping on until I'm at LEAST 100 years old. My back bothers me sometimes so I make sure I get lost of massages and I don't wear high heels any longer, however from my view they look perfect on thier knees and serving me at any age!

Go for it! Never say never. Just tighten your belt and raise some hell even if you pay for it the next day.


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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 1:44:03 PM   
sissifytoserve


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quote:

ORIGINAL: skareamoos


Finally I get to the point: Does anyone believe that there is the slightest damned chancve that I will be able, at this age, to find an acceptable DS-BDSM partner of whichever persuasion (profile indicates preference) to enhance my so-called "declining years?"





Even males in their thirties are just as frustrated as you are.

I'm just about ready to give the whole thing up.

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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 2:16:07 PM   
DiannaVesta


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ORIGINAL: sissifytoserve

quote:

ORIGINAL: skareamoos


Finally I get to the point: Does anyone believe that there is the slightest damned chancve that I will be able, at this age, to find an acceptable DS-BDSM partner of whichever persuasion (profile indicates preference) to enhance my so-called "declining years?"





Even males in their thirties are just as frustrated as you are.

I'm just about ready to give the whole thing up.


I'm not trying to be mean and I hold no grudges against some of your lame ass comments BUT have you ever really wondered why? Everyone is entitled to their opinion but I have seen you to be opinionated in even rude. Perhaps if you changed your approach, became more tolerant or even just shut up if you don’t have anything nice to say, you just might get somewhere.  

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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 2:20:18 PM   
sissifytoserve


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Status: offline 		(Dianne rubs salt into the wound)


You can take a flying leap you-know-where Dianna.

If you had your way....every male on the planet would "just shut up".

My problems aren't yours so piss off!!!






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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 2:38:06 PM   
MissyRane


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ORIGINAL: sissifytoserve

(Dianne rubs salt into the wound)


You can take a flying leap you-know-where Dianna.

If you had your way....every male on the planet would "just shut up".

My problems aren't yours so piss off!!!


*drops jaws n jumps on next plane to antarctica to pick them up*

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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 2:51:39 PM   
DiannaVesta


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ORIGINAL: sissifytoserve

If you had your way....every male on the planet would "just shut up".



lol as a matter of fact that would suit me just fine! As far as pissing off... well I'd rather keep pissing on!


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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 2:57:31 PM   
sissifytoserve


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Status: offline 		Guess what...NOT happening....

In fact....you just may be a key factor in rejecting my submissiveness.

Your arrogance and poisoned ego is enough to turn me 100% off femdom.

I would rather be dead than be under your thumb.

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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 3:02:41 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		Wow.  Anger management classes, perhaps?

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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 3:09:45 PM   
gooddogbenji


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Status: offline 		To the OP:

Yanno, I loved your post.  It showed humour, intelligence, and probably a fun guy.  If I were dominant, female, and into men, I'd take you here and now.  Unfortunately........

Anyway, one great thing about these boards is that most of the Dommes are not superficial.  I don't have a picture up and half of them want to spank me.

So keep posting in that spirit, make some friends, and before you know it, someone might come a-knocking.

Yours,


benji

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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 3:09:52 PM   
LadyEllen


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Status: offline 		You know sissify, you do get to choose which lady you submit to? So its not that you have to submit to all.

Just as they get to choose which sub/slave to take, and dont have to take every guy who comes along begging?

Everyone here - without exception, would like to see you partnered up and happy, and not taking every comment made as if its somehow another pop at you, and hijacking the thread from that point into a tit for tat, everyone hates me scenario.

I'd like to see the attractive aspects of you. Please, if there's bait, dont take it so readily.

E

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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 3:22:04 PM   
Najakcharmer


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Status: offline 		One of my regular play partners in the local kink group is around your age range.  He's nice, intelligent, smart, personable and can take a hell of a whaling, so he's a lot of fun.  I am very careful with some kinds of impact play so that no stress is put on his bones.  That means I tend to use light thin whppy things and not heavy paddles so much.  He makes a good spanking buddy.  His age isn't an issue with me.  We're friends and play partners.

Yes, you have a chance if you get to know people at your local Munch and make friends who might also want to play with you.  As for finding a life partner for a more intimate relationship, that's probably where you will need to be looking in your own age range. 

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RE: The usual frustrations - 12/3/2006 3:26:29 PM   
Brandysincharge


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