MizSuz
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Can somebody PLEASE explain this to me? What is going on with worshipping a Domme with tributes
Pick a stereotype for this question and some will fit into it. That's the reason there are stereotypes, there is some truth in them to begin with. The problem is that too many folks tend to buy into the notion that a stereotype is the only answer. Read the plethora of threads regarding this topic, just here on CM, and you'll see what I mean. Hell, read this thread and you'll see an assortment of answers. There is no one universal answer to this question.
I'm of the belief that those who immediately jump to some sort of judgement about the person in question and present it as the only answer tell us a lot more about themself than they tell us about the topic at hand, but that's my perspective.
I know pro doms. There aren't a lot of them out there, but they do exist. If it were more profitable there would be more of them - just like there are a lot of women who are either professionals or simply just opportunists. If it didn't sell there wouldn't be any and I believe that addresses why there are so many.
I could present a number of theories here regarding why women do this, but unless I told you why I was pro they would all be conjecture. For me, when I was a pro it was about making a living doing something I love (how many of us can say we do that?) I was, however, quite rigid about what sort of client I would accept and inevitably that rigidity impeded my potential profitability. When I was pro I always maintained the policy that I only pulled personals from my client base. It wasn't entirely true but there was a reason for the position. The reason was so I wouldn't be even more inundated with tire kickers (something many dominant women, pro or not, can relate to). The amount of inquiries I received every day was nothing less than staggering and often seemingly overwhelming. For some reason there are a lot of guys who think that it's some sort of coup to get a pro domina to play with them for free. I think the assumption that a pro domina is just a whore (not that I have anything against whores) leads many to assume that all pro's are by default 'easy.'
So I adopted an 'only from my client base' policy based on the notion that someone who wasn't willing to give something (other than the 'gift of their submission') was essentially coming to the table empty handed. I have a lot to give (material, emotional, and intellectual) and have worked very hard for all of it. I have no interest in people who are only seeking to get their own needs met and are oblivious to the notion that it's an exchange. Why would anyone with any self worth be interested in such?
Inevitably I stopped accepting new clients because I got burned out on the sheer volume of the above mentioned sort. I got tired of rigorously policing my boundaries and trying to slough off the smegma of those looking for something for nothing. If you read my profile you will see that I'm not amenable to anyone approaching me based on kink anymore, professional or otherwise.
Please don't misunderstand me. The above is not representative of the wonderful people who came into my life via the professional venue. In large part I've been blessed as well as cursed because I am a domina. Being pro only increased the volume of both exponentially. The ratio of one to the other, however, can be depressing.
My point is that some women insist on tribute to weed out the tire kickers and above mentioned sort. Obviously there will be some women who fit some stereotypes, but not all of them do.
Some of those who are genuine and clear about what they seek are quite happy to make it a financial exchange - they don't have the time, inclination or the resources to change my oil but are happy to pay to see that it gets done because they care about my well being and it's what they have to offer. Some have worked their entire lives to be in a position to be generous financially and doing so makes them very happy. Others have other things to offer but they never get reviled by the masses for those offerings, only for the financial offerings.
As a woman, not as a dominant, I refuse to allow people into my inner circle who don't bring something to the table. It doesn't have to be money (and never did) but they have to add value of some sort. If I allow anything less then I devalue myself and the people who are genuine in their quest for a connection.
Of course the easy answer is that all women seeking tribute are whores. If only the world were really that simple.
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