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What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 8:12:49 AM   
MissyRane


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to me... whining like little babies (no I aint saying I'm holy n I know I'm a sub :P )
etc.
now keep it coming
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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 8:14:20 AM   
MsKatHouston


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but then, that's not exclusive to submissives by a longshot

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 8:23:57 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston

pouting or whining

but then, that's not exclusive to submissives by a longshot


No my last Dom pouted more than my 11 year old.

I'm not a Dominate but I have observed some very tacky behavor at parties. I would say the one thing that gets under my skin are the submissives who are plain disrespectful in order to get beat. I find it's better to just tell your Dominate that your needing some spank time rather than drive them batty to get it.

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 8:28:36 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		For me, too many of them want to discuss kink related issues immediately.

Example: I just love gloves, do you like to wear gloves, I think gloves are so sexy, gloves turn me on so much.....etc etc etc
Personally, I don't give a shit. If all they are looking for is a hand to wear a glove to get them off, they can go buy a freaking dept store plastic hand.

I want to learn about the person in the beginning, not their sexual turn ons. That comes later.

In my limited past experience. The characteristic that drove me the most batty was the passive agressive manipulation. Instead of coming right out and telling me what she needed she would play head games. I am not an expert in mind reading.

I even see it here in the forums. God forbid a person just comes right out and says how they feel honestly and take the heat for it. Oh noooooo, they have to try and blanket it so they cannot be called on it. Give themselves room to backpeddle and say that they were misunderstood. Annoying as hell.

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 9:35:39 AM   
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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 10:19:28 AM   
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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 12:53:46 PM   
DiamondOrchid


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Status: offline 		Lying (especially about their other relationships -ie marriage, kinks, and limits), whining, and seeing me as nothing but a f**ktoy. Passive-agressive is up there too, but that I'm willing to work on with a partner, provided they haven't also engaged in any of the aforementioned behaviours.
 
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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 1:04:26 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: drawntothedark
I find it's better to just tell your Dominate that your needing some spank time rather than drive them batty to get it.


Yes.  I don't like subs who try to push my buttons rather than just clearly telling me what they need and want.  I've never liked the punishment dynamic in a relationship; I've never raised my hand to a sub in anger, and I never want to. 

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 1:13:03 PM   
TxBlkMistress


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

For me, too many of them want to discuss kink related issues immediately.

Example: I just love gloves, do you like to wear gloves, I think gloves are so sexy, gloves turn me on so much.....etc etc etc
Personally, I don't give a shit. If all they are looking for is a hand to wear a glove to get them off, they can go buy a freaking dept store plastic hand.

I want to learn about the person in the beginning, not their sexual turn ons. That comes later.

In my limited past experience. The characteristic that drove me the most batty was the passive agressive manipulation. Instead of coming right out and telling me what she needed she would play head games. I am not an expert in mind reading.

I even see it here in the forums. God forbid a person just comes right out and says how they feel honestly and take the heat for it. Oh noooooo, they have to try and blanket it so they cannot be called on it. Give themselves room to backpeddle and say that they were misunderstood. Annoying as hell.


amen...I totally agree.  I run into the same things...matter of fact I was thinking about starting a thread asking....is it really that unreasonable for me to want to get to know someone as a person first?  And is if unreasonable for me to want to exchange a few emails here first before I jump into IM or phone?  Especially with those that have no profile whatsoever.

I get these all the time...I'm not saying email for weeks, just a few conversational email to get comfortable. 

I've found those I turn around and IM after one email ends up wanting to manipulate into cyber.

I guess this way is a good weeding out process, if they won't respect my wishes on this, they wouldn't be able to follow me into anything else either, so I guess it's best they moved on....LOL

ok...off my soapbox now.....LOL

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 1:17:02 PM   
TxBlkMistress


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quote:

ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

Jumping to a discussion about sex.... don't know you yet so how could I possibly be able to or desire to discuss sex with you?


LOL  I tell guys this all the time.  I try to explain it this way...would you go to like say...a Starbucks...ask the girl behind the counter, who you have never seen before, for a latte and oh, by the way...I like being tied up...also I like cbt I think we would be perfect together I would love to be dominated by you.

They get pretty mad at that one...lol

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 5:08:18 PM   
MisPandora


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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 5:09:46 PM   
MisPandora


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quote:

ORIGINAL: TxBlkMistress
I was thinking about starting a thread asking....is it really that unreasonable for me to want to get to know someone as a person first?  And is if unreasonable for me to want to exchange a few emails here first before I jump into IM or phone?  Especially with those that have no profile whatsoever.

Please do start this thread.  I've just talked about it with yet another subject and the topic really needs to be taken publicly.

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 5:16:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		The ones that are the most painful for me though are the ones that chat online for quite awhile, email back and forth, share common interests, end up with long conversations on the phone, make an appointment, and then "poof" pull a Houdini disappearing act just when I start to care for him and think "wow, what a great appointment I'm going to have." And he disappears in thin air, never to be heard from again.  Or calls back in a week or two with some plausable excuse and pulls the stunt again, only to disappear.  That's happened once or twice.  That's even worse since I've invested some time and effort and emotion.

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 5:24:08 PM   
MisPandora


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ORIGINAL: jdtallfem

The ones that are the most painful for me though are the ones that chat online for quite awhile, email back and forth, share common interests, end up with long conversations on the phone, make an appointment, and then "poof" pull a Houdini disappearing act just when I start to care for him and think "wow, what a great appointment I'm going to have." And he disappears in thin air, never to be heard from again.  Or calls back in a week or two with some plausable excuse and pulls the stunt again, only to disappear.  That's happened once or twice.  That's even worse since I've invested some time and effort and emotion.

I think we had a post here not too long ago about "poof boys" and it made for some interesting reading.

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 5:59:42 PM   
LadyEllen


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Status: offline 		In my (albeit limited) experience, I can count off a lot of the above;

- the expectation that somehow I'd want to jump in the deep end with someone I just met
- the missed appointments and excuses (usually goes along with the lying, significant other etc)
- the "I will do and take whatever" (but really I'd rather wank on your boots) syndrome

And the most annoying - the snivelling parasites who seem to think that I should provide for them, the stuff in life which by way of their own incompetence/stupidy/laziness they do not have, but would like, because I "own" them. Mind you, these are not really subs/slaves, so maybe that wasnt fair?

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 6:08:34 PM   
DreamyLadySnow


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Status: offline 		Forgetting they are married and have a kid.
Seriously.
It's happened more than once.
Oh, and thinking that I am simply a portal to all of their kinks instead of a human being.


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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 7:11:48 PM   
joyinslavery


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Status: offline 		Replying with a smarmy answer to questions directed at dominants asking what it is that submissives do that pisses them off the most. 

I HATE that. 




< Message edited by joyinslavery -- 12/5/2006 7:17:25 PM >

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 9:22:27 PM   
MzMia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
For me, too many of them want to discuss kink related issues immediately.

Example: I just love gloves, do you like to wear gloves, I think gloves are so sexy, gloves turn me on so much.....etc etc etc
Personally, I don't give a shit. If all they are looking for is a hand to wear a glove to get them off, they can go buy a freaking dept store plastic hand.
I want to learn about the person in the beginning, not their sexual turn ons. That comes later.

In my limited past experience. The characteristic that drove me the most batty was the passive agressive manipulation. Instead of coming right out and telling me what she needed she would play head games. I am not an expert in mind reading.

I even see it here in the forums. God forbid a person just comes right out and says how they feel honestly and take the heat for it. Oh noooooo, they have to try and blanket it so they cannot be called on it. Give themselves room to backpeddle and say that they were misunderstood. Annoying as hell.


Hell yes Tigress, I see that A LOT here. In fact I read the boards for over a year, before making one post.  I noticed a lot of what I call "attack dog" behavior here.  But I ain't scared of em!  And I agree with your post also!

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/5/2006 10:06:26 PM   
undergroundsea


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ORIGINAL: DreamyLadySnow

Forgetting they are married and have a kid.
Seriously.


I would never forget if I were married. Well, except on anniversaries perhaps. Even then, I would remember the instant I got hit on the head.

That must make for one crazy conversation ;-)

Woman: So. Is there something you want to tell me?
Man: Umm....I love you?
Woman: No. I already reminded you of that earlier today. But speaking of love, is there something you want to tell me?
Man: I swear I didn't do it! I began to masturbate to your panties but I stopped.
Woman: What?
Man: I swear! I swear!
Woman: (shaking head) Is there something you want to tell me about the woman you love?
Man: Yes. You are fabulous. And your panties smell wonderful.
Woman: GRRRR. You are f'in married!
Man: <silence>
Woman: Well? Was that detail not a tad bit relevant?
Man: Yes. It was. I'm sorry. I forgot. I'll make up for it. Hey you wanna go out for sushi?
Woman: <walks away>
Man: What? Where are you going? That always works with my wife!

Cheers,

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/6/2006 9:18:22 AM   
littlejandmisse


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Status: offline 		One thing I cannot stand is complaining.  Just don't do it, it's annoying and it makes you (the complainer) look like nothing makes you happy. 

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