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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/6/2006 12:04:54 PM

DiannaVesta

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ORIGINAL: Morrigel

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ORIGINAL: drawntothedark
I find it's better to just tell your Dominate that your needing some spank time rather than drive them batty to get it.

Yes. I don't like subs who try to push my buttons rather than just clearly telling me what they need and want. I've never liked the punishment dynamic in a relationship; I've never raised my hand to a sub in anger, and I never want to.

--M

I'm with you on this! I hate that shit and have zero tolerance for it.

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/6/2006 12:10:05 PM

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Same stuff as what most have listed. I also abhore micromanaging & full time drama.

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/6/2006 12:27:39 PM

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All of the above. Which really boils down to saying and/or thinking he is submissive when he really isn't submissive at all!
Mostly I don't care a whole lot (read doesn't piss Me off, per se) and I can weed it out quickly and ignore it as another wanker boy who thinks he knows what he wants when he really doesn't have a clue. But, as already stated by another, when I have held a belief that this could be a great relationship, and I have invested time and emotion...then I do get pissed off.
Kind of makes Me feel used and manipulated, ya know?

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/6/2006 1:05:37 PM

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What is it that a submissive does that pisses me off?

Well, my submissive doesn't do anything to piss me off. She's playful and fun and just exactly the woman I fell in love with.

Other submissives piss me off in two ways:
1. When they don't take no for an answer, in which case I ignore them.

2. When they attempt to define my relationship with my sub, in which case I ignore them.

It's safe to say that if I'm ignoring you, you have somehow pissed me off.

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/6/2006 5:17:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lashra

When they have a problem that they want you to help them with. So you start down that path and suddenly when they realise it means changing some form of their behavior to correct the problem they suddenly add that problem to their list of limits. This aggravates me to no end.

~Lashra

Changing one's own behavior is much more difficult than complaining about the behavior of others and wishing they would change theirs.

However, the former is far more realistic and effective than the latter.

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/6/2006 5:56:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: TxBlkMistress

amen...I totally agree. I run into the same things...matter of fact I was thinking about starting a thread asking....is it really that unreasonable for me to want to get to know someone as a person first? And is if unreasonable for me to want to exchange a few emails here first before I jump into IM or phone? Especially with those that have no profile whatsoever.

I get these all the time...I'm not saying email for weeks, just a few conversational email to get comfortable.

I've found those I turn around and IM after one email ends up wanting to manipulate into cyber.

I guess this way is a good weeding out process, if they won't respect my wishes on this, they wouldn't be able to follow me into anything else either, so I guess it's best they moved on....LOL

ok...off my soapbox now.....LOL

Ms TxBlkMistress,
My feelings mirror yours! It is what brought me to CM and my premium acct at Alt will soon be allowed to simply expire as a result!

It is very important to me to get to know a woman as a person before I can possibly see myself giving her my submission. I genuinely want to know that we will share other interests, are both willing to accept the things that naturally come along with the other like unmentionables, that we can truly have a nice time together doing other things, and that we'll enjoy each other's company for a very long time to come! I'm not just a sub, but a father and a man with other interests, who is also an educated professional as well. If a woman doesn't want to know those parts of me, share my dreams and aspirations (not to forget sharing hers with me), or create new dreams and aspirations together that sound even better to the both of us, how could she possibly be the right woman for me to serve as her sub and to share life together as my Mistress, friend, partner, companion, and lover (and whatever else you wish to add to the list)?

And BTW, when it comes to discussions about play, those are things I typically let Her decide when she feels its time to bring up and discuss; unless for me, it feels like she's going there a bit too soon without having shared enough of the other. But I'll also admit to being a flirt and greatly enjoying a certain amount of inuendo, double-entendres and such, until we reach that point!

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/6/2006 6:15:20 PM

MysticFireTopaz

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ORIGINAL: MissyRane

that pisses you off the most

to me... whining like little babies (no I aint saying I'm holy n I know I'm a sub :P )
etc.
now keep it coming

Yes, whining is right up there. Flakiness is up there as well. I can't stand people who commit to doing something, then don't follow through. Needless to say, subs like that don't last long at all with Me, as I have no patience for it.

Another things that annoys Me are subs who state emphatically that they are relocatable, but when the times comes, aren't so relocatable after all and come up with one excuse after another.

Sarcasm, sassing, and arguing round out the list.

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RE: What is it that a submissive does - 12/16/2006 2:54:25 AM

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Lying is definitely high on the list, as is answering "whatever YOU want" when I'm asking for an opinion!

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