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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 3:30:35 PM

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When they can't control themselves let alone control you.

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 3:47:47 PM

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I hate it when a complete stranger tells me that they now own me. A sub/slaves last choice as a free person is who they offer themselves to...that's a real quick way to get me to turn into an uber bitch....not to mention, I all ready have an owner, so it just goes to show that they didn't read my profile all the way through.. which is another pet peeve.

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 4:59:11 PM

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All you subs and slaves should come and be mine.

I dont do any of those things.

I'm perfect.

Oh wait, wasnt that one of the things you all hated?

E

PS - I am now very drunk, having been only slightly tipsy earlier. I will apologise tomorrow. Honest.

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 6:52:00 PM

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When they try to make them theirs when you are already collared/owned.....they dont seem to understand that part, excuse me, but i am owned....

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 7:42:22 PM

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Not owning their mistakes and apologizing for being human and making an error. (We would love you more for this, you know.)

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 8:00:00 PM

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Even as a Domme, I do have a few pet peeves about some of my fellow dominants. Things I have seen that burn me, since I know they are making ME look bad my association.

Assuming all subs/slaves present somewhere will automatically refer to them as Sir/Maam and will take their commands

Expecting other Dominants to address them as Sir/Maam (yeah, right... as if)

Adopting the holier than thou attitude when they get a little attention

Showing off their slave, and rubbing it in the face of someone who just recently dismissed their own.

Forcing their slave to serve others when the others the slave is serving arent comfortable with the situation

Thats just a few from a recent evening out with a Domme and her pet. *sigh*

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 8:18:37 PM

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........When they lack control over themselves
When if anything goes wrong in any way shape or form it is never their fault but the submissives
When they think they know you more than you know yourself
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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 8:22:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

Even as a Domme, I do have a few pet peeves about some of my fellow dominants. Things I have seen that burn me, since I know they are making ME look bad my association.

Assuming all subs/slaves present somewhere will automatically refer to them as Sir/Maam and will take their commands

Expecting other Dominants to address them as Sir/Maam (yeah, right... as if)

Adopting the holier than thou attitude when they get a little attention

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YES!!!! And add to those - Acting like every sub in the area is theirs to boss around simply because they're a dom(me). (Or even a switch - SEEN IT HAPPEN! Grrrrrrrr.....)
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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 8:31:47 PM

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Ok..My first post other than to introduce myself...yikes... ;-)

But a couple of these really hit home. Complacency, and forgetting that I am owned by him.

Without consistency, how does he expect me to be consistent?

One month I am ordered that I must submit a meal plan, menus, and the clothes I will wear, daily. And this will be "forever"

Next month, he asks why am I bothering him with mundane details?

sheeeesh.

He forgets I look to him for guidance and balance , and without consistency in that area, I start floundering.....

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/5/2006 10:32:37 PM

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i'm really glad i'm not the only one who faced the problem with inconsistancy. It almost tore O/our relationship completely apart.

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/6/2006 5:50:20 AM

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All the responses here seem to cover things i agree with and have had experience with in the short time i have been in the lifestyle. i have nothing to add :-) just concurence...

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/6/2006 6:15:03 AM

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Takes his clothes off inside out, makes doing laundry that much harder for me. Oh and while we're at it, why does he leave socks all over the damned house? Mutter mutter.

My most pet peeve this week is that he's been away too long and I miss him.

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/6/2006 6:45:39 AM

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Another response from a Domme's point of view:

I can't stand Dom/mes who do the One Twoo And Right Way thing. Being told that I'm not taking care of my pets just because I haven't taught them to kneel in a particular pose or respond to a command a particular way or dress according to someone else's idea of what submissives should wear REALLY makes me want to pull out a clue-by-4 and start thwacking.

Not a fan of anyone who thinks that just because they convinced one poor soul to call them Lord And Master, the rest of us should all kneel when they walk by too. Respect is EARNED, not given just because you happen to wake up one day and decide you are Sir Domly Dom, Lord Of All You Survey.

Any Dom/me who uses the 'you would do this if you were a TRUE submissive/if you don't do this for me you aren't really a submissive' line deserves to be shot in the head. Point-blank range. With a CANNON.

I don't like Dom/mes who try to treat your slaves the way they treat their slaves. Mine, no touchy without permission, thank you! My kinks and the kinks of my pets aren't going to necessarily be yours any more than yours will be mine, and for all you know, you might be interfering with training if you try to get my slave to do X behavior, when I've just told him to do Y behavior instead.

If you're going to call yourself a Dom/Domme in text, do me a favor... don't tell me you are a Dominate! Verb, noun, come on, we learned these back in school. You Dominate someone. You are Dominant. You regard yourself as a Dom/Domme. >.< *pulls out her english schoolteacher glasses and her sharp-edged wooden ruler*

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/6/2006 8:21:20 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Celeste43
Takes his clothes off inside out, makes doing laundry that much harder for me. Oh and while we're at it, why does he leave socks all over the damned house? Mutter mutter.

My most pet peeve this week is that he's been away too long and I miss him.

LOL I turn my clothes inside out for laundry to preserve the coloring and detailing- specially for jeans.

And I leave my socks all over the place too- but he really loves that.

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/6/2006 12:05:01 PM

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I gusse it would have to be when he tells me to go to the doctor when i an not feeling well but he will not go himself I understand he does not like doctors neither do i but if he tells me i have to go.

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/6/2006 12:13:50 PM

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Oh, good, I was waiting for this topic to come up. I dislike it when a dominate expects me to submit to them just because I'm a sub and they are a dom, especially when I don't even know the person let alone not having a relationship with them. Giving up myself to someone is an act that I do freely based out of love and I don't love people just because they happen to be a dominate.

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/6/2006 12:18:30 PM

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There really are two things that bother be about some of my fellow dominants. One, leading by word and not example. Two, thinking they are a better Dom than you are for your subbie. The sub/slave chose me as her master and that should be respected.

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/6/2006 12:23:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: RedSavageSlave

Forgetting he is supposed to be in control of me in this relationship dynamic.

I agree ... this is my only complaint

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/6/2006 12:24:04 PM

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that pisses you off the most

being scolded, or otherwise antagonized, while not being allowed to speak.

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< Message edited by marieToo -- 12/6/2006 12:25:42 PM >

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RE: What is it that a dominant does - 12/6/2006 12:33:05 PM

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i am a switch so i get to weigh in:.....

when they will not shut up. they tell you every stray thought as though it is gospell

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