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PiercedDaz -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/6/2006 4:14:32 AM)
Genius? Bloody hell, I'm more experienced than I thought! [;)]

OrionTheWolf -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/6/2006 4:18:13 AM)
I think some missed that her last Master was Gorean, so giving advice to be aggressive back to him is not the best advice to give. Gorean Men vary in what they look for just like anyone. Shyness to an extent can be endearing but if it inhibits the way you please you Master it needs to be addressed. As has been said, it will depend on your next Master. Orion

ONEDEMANDINGMSTR -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/6/2006 5:48:38 AM)
This is the bottom line. BE WHO YOU ARE!! There will be a Dom/Master for you who wants you and will 'use' you as you need to be used. It may not happen soon enough for you, but too many subs (and Doms, too) 'settle' for something less than they want. Or find out, after initiating the relationship, that they're not compatible and end up hurting one another as opposed to being honest and COMMUNICATING!!! Better to have tried and failed , with the understanding that perhaps it was nobody's fault.............just not 'in the cards'.

KatyLied -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/6/2006 7:57:13 AM)
~quick reply~ I think she should fire up the webcam and let us critique her art. That makes as much sense as asking a bunch of strangers what her next Master will enjoy.

Petruchio -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/6/2006 10:26:29 AM)
I expect my sub (or slave) to be very oral. Her lips, breasts, pussy are always mine, but otherwise I want her lovely mouth. Mmm…

ADomlesssub -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/6/2006 12:34:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PiercedDaz Genius? Bloody hell, I'm more experienced than I thought! [;)] well compared to this wench you are!!

ADomlesssub -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/6/2006 12:36:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OrionTheWolf I think some missed that her last Master was Gorean, so giving advice to be aggressive back to him is not the best advice to give. Gorean Men vary in what they look for just like anyone. Shyness to an extent can be endearing but if it inhibits the way you please you Master it needs to be addressed. As has been said, it will depend on your next Master. Orion thank you for picking up on that Orion.... the Gorean philosophy certainly struck a chord with me......xxx

DOM68005 -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/9/2006 8:46:45 PM)
It depends on the type of shyness. Nudity with just the Dom and sub would have to be worked on pronto as it would also be in a vanilla relationship. Patience is a virtue well rewarded in this situation. Often, after trust exercises are successful, the shyness is better handled. Attending munches in a public social setting where everybody is in street clothes would receive patience, but would be discussed until an understanding is reached. Attending BDSM group meetings that do NOT lead to play would be encouraged, but not demanded. Attending play parties or exhibitionism would certainly receive more patience and in some cases may be a limit for the sub. I should add that I do not practice Gorean as a personal style choice. Certainly several ideas in Gorean are useful regardless of play style.

DOM68005 -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/9/2006 8:48:29 PM)
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briarrose -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/9/2006 8:57:06 PM)
Jumping in here. :) Just like all slaves/subs are not the same, neither are all Doms/Masters. There's no manual out there for either side, which is part of the fun. It is going to boil down to communication, in any case, both with the Master in question, and with yourself. Making yourself constantly miserable/uncomfortable to please another person isn't going to make for a successful relationship in the long run. Of course, if you're not looking for an LTR, have at it. :D --b

andreaC -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/13/2006 1:08:59 AM)
I agree with Kalira on this. I have known a few Dom friends who are Gorean and have told me that they prefer shy kajira. I am shy and its something my Master likes about me, it is part of my personality........well its my opinion[:)].

Rayne58 -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/13/2006 3:13:36 AM)
I've always been shy, Master loves my shyness He loves making me blush [:)] When we're alone it's not a problem but I'm not an exhibitionist and find it embarrassing to show myself off at play parties etc. We compromised on this with Him allowing me to wear a g-string and a chemise underneath a short black lace dress with a garter belt, fishnets and boots - I was exposed and covered at the same time [:D]

andreaC -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/15/2006 8:55:44 AM)
We played one time at a play party, but i didnt mind cause only my behind was naked and we were just visiting in pompano beach, so i know i wouldnt see the people again. Master is not forcing me on this, but i know that when i will be moving to his country and there are lots of bdsm clubs in sweden that we will get there and play at parties. I guess one day at a time.[:)]

mastersayed -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/18/2006 3:37:55 AM)
just whatever you do, dont take advice from cosmo or any other dumb magazines.... I hate it when girls do that.

dawntreader -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/18/2006 6:21:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel quote: ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam Guess that leaves me out...although, I did install the garbage disposal all by myself without chipping a nail. [:D] I changed out the front porch light fixtures all by myself and didn't chip a nail, didn't electrocute myself and didn't burn down the house........ and they work! [:)] LOL! Oooops sorry for the brief hijack... [&:] Can i add that i installed a toilet by myself, new seal and all, and it works too! (no nail breakage either! lol!)

badlilthang -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/19/2006 4:35:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ONEDEMANDINGMSTR This is the bottom line. BE WHO YOU ARE!! There will be a Dom/Master for you who wants you and will 'use' you as you need to be used. It may not happen soon enough for you, but too many subs (and Doms, too) 'settle' for something less than they want. Or find out, after initiating the relationship, that they're not compatible and end up hurting one another as opposed to being honest and COMMUNICATING!!! Better to have tried and failed , with the understanding that perhaps it was nobody's fault.............just not 'in the cards'. refreshing...Someone actually telling someone to BE who they are...grins....my motto entirely....before people get to know me - they observe me, and watch me and listen to me. Little by little they get the picture, and a Dom can find interest in me or not.....but - why take a girl as His and then try to change everything about her? Yes, training is good....discipline, too......also punishment if rules are broken....as i say it...YOu may change my ways..not my personality and spirit - that is what makes me....me..s....and what attracted the friend/Dom etc..to me in the first place...s

beauty4 -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/19/2006 5:39:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ADomlesssub quote: ORIGINAL: PiercedDaz Next time he asks you to do something kinky to him... Force him down onto his chest, ram a clothes brush up his arse (preferably a yellow one), somehow pee into your own mouth and then spit it over him. I can assure you that he'll go off this game quite quickly and soon find less demanding games to test your submission. Result! Genius - suggestion noted and off to B&Q for a length of hose......xxx Hi... i'm new here too... but what if her Master had decided that he wanted to see her work through her shyness, and was working on it specifically by pushing her bit by bit beyond her shyness limits? It may have been for her benefit...

theRose4U -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/19/2006 12:59:44 PM)
Shyness especially sudden shyness to me is a clue of something wrong. The way I read your original post you would suddenly become shy when asked to perform specific sexual acts. quote: like your slaves to perform on/for you Every master is going to be different. At the risk of gorean bashing, they like things a LOT different than many dominants I know. High protocol, specific ways to kneel, eat and address others specifically listed in the books as correct. The specifics of what is a yellow or red silk are outlined for the community and the dominant fills in their desires as the details. Many (including myself) aren't that protocol oriented. It's not to say that I don't want certain things done certain ways but my way is going to be different from the next. Skills that are handy: cooking, sewing, other things that would fall under "domestic goddess", massage, some like home improvement, if sexual things like oral were difficulties you might try practicing with popcicles. Dance especially belly dancing can be an asset if you enjoy it. There's a tape out on strip aerobics that I've heard good things about. Spend time finding out who you are, what you like and explore your own hobbies. Learning your own likes will help you to locate a dominant that is more compatible. Shyness is a product of fear. Learning what your fears are is part of over coming them. Learning yourself is part of making that jump. Think of it as making a list of things you want to work on. This isn't an opportunity to bash yourself but a list of things you want to learn or improve. For example: I want to learn shibari, improve my gardening skills and improve my butt. This very easily could have been my butt's too big, I can only grow tomatos and I'm no good with knots. Keeping it positive and practical is the key.

eyesopened -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/21/2006 5:29:58 AM)
i have never been comfortable in the role of "entertainer" if that's what you are talking about. Asking me perform like a porn actress or stripper or even a belly-dancer would put me in a pose of frozen anxiety. Ask me to prepare a formal dinner or make finger-food for a group of 100, i would be in my element. i have had a Dom command "entertain me!" and the first thing i think of is a stand-up comedy act.... not exactly what He had in mind.

desoutter -> RE: Giving kink pleasure (12/21/2006 10:36:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ADomlesssub Masters, i know that shyness is not permitted, and with my last Master i was starting to get there..... however when it comes to all things kinky my experience is limited..... if were playing truth or dare, he would often dare me to do something kinky to him..... eek... after the usual, i got somewhat lost.... please please could you let me know what you Manly Masters like your slaves to perform on/for you so i may have some ideas for my next Master? many many thanks ADomlesssub xx p.s i would change my username to snarfwench but don't know how... Alright - I think I get where youre going with this question: my two cents - I could go into what I like slaves subs to perform on/for me but the list is endless and simply, disgusting.... short story long - I like many wonderful things and most are pretty simple... In my opinion, a master is somewhat of a guide, but also - a perceptive individual... If I notice sub is getting lost... I help her in the right direction... I know what my sub is after because she tells me what she is going to explore... it really isnt about me... I like all kinds of things but telling sub to perform for me or on me.... isnt what its all about, for me... I am Dominant, no doubt about it... but my job description is more of a leader in kink.... You tell me what you want to explore - and I will help you get there.... the getting you there is what I enjoy the most... maybe its the sense of fulfilling your sub desire that motivates me to Domdom.... I dont know.... Im still trying to figure myself out after 38 years of living and more than half of those as a Dom... No disrespect to the Gor community but its a little too Dungeons and Dragons for me - I have a few buddies that are very into it... all the best... I tend to live more outside the box... rulemaking and living to a set standard really just irritates me to no end... I like open exchanges and deliberation... confrontation and experimentation... attitude and shyness... a woman who just is - herself. desoutter

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